Submitting to your Enema

I agree that once you decide to take an enema or a series, and regardless if you are solo or with someone, the minute you lube up your nozzle, you are being controlled by the experience. For me, and it has typically been solo, my goal is to take the entire contents of the solution in the bag and push myself to do it again until I’m satisfactory cleaned out. It is to some degree a mental game of submission to see if I can complete what I have set out to do. I always think about how I would like someone caring but firm to push me even further.

To citrahops. That's kind the same feeling I get when on my hands and knees submitting to my wife as she's wearing a strap-on. Knowing that I'm about to feel it enter my backdoor. Submissively receiving it like the woman I wish I was born as.

OK, I guess I have to be the voice of contradiction here... When receiving, whether it be solo or with a partner, I really dont feel any ‘submissive’ aspect to receiving and enema. By myself its a play thing, like a vibrator or toy, something to heighten my masturbation pleasure. With a partner, there is no domination on her part. She is doing something to bring me pleasure, just as I do to her. It might be the whole scene, where she gives me an enema and then uses her mouth or hands to get me off, or she could give to me as part of her taking also, or us having sex, or anal sex, or mutual snuggling as we both fill, just two people enjoying and making use of all the pleasurable nerve endings we have in all areas of our bodies.

Maybe as a “D” type I just never feel the submissive aspect of it because that doesnt appeal to me. I just see/feel two partners doing every intimate thing they can together to bring each other the most exquisite and uniquely kinky pleasure!

I didn't really realize it but I think this is definitely a factor of why I love enemas so much. I do crave being sexually submissive. I also crave enemas to the point that I almost feel as though I have no choice but to succumb to the craving... which intern allows me to feel controlled by every other aspect. From being in position for the water filling, being overcome by the enema orgasm, the occasional cramp, to the required expelling. These all remind me the enema us in charge. The only difference from original post is it is my can and bulb type fillings that are desired.

This is going to have a few parts so please bear with me and I am trying to figure it all out in my head as I type.

I have given myself a couple of solo enemas I do not feel submissive in any way doing so. I orgasm because I absolutely love anything in my bum and the taboo’ness of taking an enema for sexual reasons is naughty to me and gets me aroused as well as masturbating while taking the enema along with the sensations of it.

Now while I am administering an enema to a lover I feel absolutely no dominance on my part or submissiveness on his. I echo @CJ1999 sentiments to a tee here. I only feel it as being a sensuous act between two lovers. Again its naughty and taboo and oh so erotic ! We are sharing a sexual act and I am bringing him and myself pleasure by doing so.

When I am recieving I am in total submissive mode. I am baring or having bared the most intimate part of myself. I am giving up total control and being controlled. While it can be a sensual erotic enema he is in control the entire time. Whether it be by encouraging me or telling me to take it all and when I can release and bringing me to orgasm in any way he choses, with his cock, fingers, mouth, or toys, in any place he wants.

I much prefer to be given than to take solo for the above reasons 😉

I like, crave, desire, need that intimacy associated with enemas. Its like nothing else.

For a reason that I fail to remember Mom insisted that I have an enema and Father was to watch. I am maybe 7 or 8 and forced to strip and lay on mom's lap. A pitcher of very soapy Ivory water was on the end table and the syringe was filled up. Suddenly the Vaseline hits my hole and my life was forever changed.Many times I played with the syringe bulb and warm solutions. The excitement continues 60+ yrs later. Thanks Mom.

@bridgette

When I am recieving I am in total submissive mode. I am baring or having bared the most intimate part of myself. I am giving up total control and being controlled. While it can be a sensual erotic enema he is in control the entire time. Whether it be by encouraging me or telling me to take it all and when I can release and bringing me to orgasm in any way he choses, with his cock, fingers, mouth, or toys, in any place he wants.

I much prefer to be given than to take solo for the above reasons 😉

I like, crave, desire, need that intimacy associated with enemas. Its like nothing else.

I agree bridgette, those are the pleasures of giving a enema to a woman. 😜 Want to get together tonight? LMAO 😁

Since you DO have to submit completely to the enema, you are at that time extremely vulnerable.

You do NOT want anyone in the house who you are not confident you can trust in such a vulnerable situation.

Since you DO have to submit completely to the enema, you are at that time extremely vulnerable.

You do NOT want anyone in the house who you are not confident you can trust in such a vulnerable situation.

I disagree. Taking an enema (solo) can be seen as no different than being in the bathroom for an extended bowel movement. And unless you're trying to conceal your enema fetish while friends and non-family members are present or even from family members, you are hardly vulnerable in that situation. You simply cutoff the flow, pull the nozzle or plug, and let it flow out in the toilet (or shower if you are so inclined).

It might be a different story if you're dancing and prancing around through various rooms with your enema bag(s) and a nozzle stuck in your ass and someone unexpectedly turns up and sees you and they don't know about your fetish. Then it might be embarrassing (and you might feel vulnerable in that situation) or you just might have the opportunity to invite them to join or assist you. I'd ask why you would put yourself in that situation in the first place.

There is nothing as relentless as an enema! The bag will always win. Submission is part of the pleasure.

I NEVER submit to an enema.

When I give myself an enema, the enema does what I want. The nice clean water in the enema bag turns all shitty dirty brown when I am done with it. The enema submits to ME.

If my husband gives me an enema in an S&M scene, I am submitting to him, not a bag full of water.

@SwitchableSusie

According to a StarTrek episode, we are "ugly bags of mostly water. "

@SwitchableSusie

According to a StarTrek episode, we are "ugly bags of mostly water. "

I concur.

There is NOTHING special about us.

I think @LisaK is speaking from the standpoint of someone who HAS/HAD to submit to an enema.

@bridgette

"Again its naughty and taboo and oh so erotic ! We are sharing a sexual act and I am bringing him and myself pleasure by doing so.

I like, crave, desire, need that intimacy associated with enemas. Its like nothing else."

You have captured EXACTLY how I feel! 😃

I think that Bridgette has captured me feelings perfectly!

My hat is off to Bridgette and Moms Egirl for putting the submission they give when they know it is time for their enema and they see the enema bag being readied and they know what will be given to them as they are told to undress and their asses are bared for that bag full of SSE and the nozzle is lubed.

When I am recieving I am in total submissive mode. I am baring or having bared the most intimate part of myself. I am giving up total control and being controlled. While it can be a sensual erotic enema he is in control the entire time. Whether it be by encouraging me or telling me to take it all and when I can release and bringing me to orgasm in any way he choses, with his cock, fingers, mouth, or toys, in any place he wants.

I agree with this 100%. There is nothing more intimate than exposing your most private place. To have your cheeks spread and penetrated just doesn't get any sexier in my book. Right on Bridgette.

I'll join the chorus of others that @bridgette has pretty much reflected my views insofar as submitting to an enema is concerned.

My solo enemas are as much about pleasuring myself as they are for any real therapeutic reason. I simply love the whole process and it brings me happiness and pleasure.

As a person who, through career choice, very much needs to project self confidence and being in control, those times when I engage in enema play with hubby are simply delightful. I can allow myself to become vulnerable and under the control of hubby's deft touch inserting the nozzle, controlling the flow and finding my special spot while at the same time under the control of three quarts of enema solution and how my gut instinctively responds.

Either self administering or being the submissive recipient an enema serves as a gateway to loads of pleasure!

Have fun and play safe!

Deb

@ bridgette - You go girl! You've nailed it straight on!

In my solo play (the only enema play I've had so far), I've found that it's not the bag that dominates or submits. It's always me dominating myself. Therefore, not only am I the submissive one, but I am also the dominant. I give the pain. I take the pain. I give the pleasure. I receive the pleasure. I am my own worst nightmare and my own sweetest reward.

Enema play was one of the few things I could do when I was playing solo that I really had little control over past a certain point. Once the flow is started then you have no choice but to submit.

In my early days where I had to actually make my own enema kit I hadn’t really thought too hard about manufacturing a flow valve so actually just had a sort of stopper on a string plugged into the top of the tube inside the enema canister (was usually made of a large drinks bottle upside down with a garden hose taped into the mouth). I attached a string to the stopper and looped it over the top of the shower rail and back down to my position on the floor. This meant that once I had the nozzle in place and pulled the chord the stopper was pulled out of the end of the tube and allowed the enema to flow unimpeded into me with absolutely no way of stopping it except for removing the nozzle, which would have led to quite a bit of mess.

This was quite an awakening in terms of self play and submission.

You got that right. Seeing the equipment sends shivers up my spine. Being ordered to strip and get into position makes me feel like a helpless little boy.

Just the anticipation of watching a woman fill the bag and snap on gloves makes me quite submissive to receiving an enema. I enjoy all aspects of submitting to an enema.

Rubbermark said,

"This meant that once I had the nozzle in place and pulled the chord the stopper was pulled out of the end of the tube and allowed the enemae to flow unimpeded into me with absolutely no way of stopping it except for removing the nozzle, which would have led to quite a bit of mess."

Ah, yes, but that inexorable, unimpeded unstoppable flow is a great feeling and produces delightful submission and humiliation to me. No matter how much I squirm around, push, clench, beg and plead, since the nozzle is inside my anus, nothing I can do wil stop the flow until my Domme makes it stop. Especially with the right Domme, that's a truly a spectacular feeling, especially since I don't know when she'll make it stop or how much she wants to see me squirm, moan, beg and plead to enhance her own orgasms. Since the goal is that the more she makes me endure and submit the better she makes her own arousal and orgasms, I'm usually in for quite a ride. Eventually if I've submitted long and completely enough, she let me have my own orgasm. But often that's several large enema fills, long multi-hour holds and doing submissive chores including giving her orgasms before she's satisfied. Can't keep a good Domme down!

Eric

I agree. As giver (95% of the time) and recipient (5% of the time) there really is no more effective tool of power than the big, soapy enema. There simply isn't any choice in the matter. "You're not quite full yet, sweety… let's take some deep breaths and start again in a minute." "Of course it's uncomfortable... that's just the enema doing its work; let's see if we can't relax and hold it another ten minutes". Really, in my humble opinion, submission at its finest.

I agree. As giver (95% of the time) and recipient (5% of the time) there really is no more effective tool of power than the big, soapy enema. There simply isn't any choice in the matter. "You're not quite full yet, sweety… let's take some deep breaths and start again in a minute." "Of course it's uncomfortable... that's just the enema doing its work; let's see if we can't relax and hold it another ten minutes". Really, in my humble opinion, submission at its finest.

Right, exactly. Hard to feel much of anything but intensely submissive when you're not only being filled and distended but pretty much held down by the 6-8 pounds of water inside you, which she won't let you get rid of. That's part of why they're so erotic. Having a trusted Domme partner in complete charge of what's going into and out of my bowels is a massive erotic thrill. Especially when she's showing and telling me how much controlling my bowels is getting her more and more aroused. The more controlled and submissive and humiliated I am to her, the hotter her arousal gets - sincere motivations to act as submissive and humiliated as she wants. Win-win.

Eric

I have found that to be the case as well, and it doesn't have to be a bulging red bag filled with warm soapy water. It could also be, in my case, a couple or few 8 oz bulbs with the long and fat black nozzles coated with Vaseline sitting on the bathroom sink next to the sink filled with warm Ivory Soapy water.

After a long and drawn out bare bottom spanking with his hand, paddle, four fingered tawse, and Daddy's black belt, I get up from being over his lap, he takes me by the ear, and takes me into the bathroom. My eyes go wide when I see the enema bulbs waiting on the sink, I plead saying "Please sir I don't want or need those". He replies " I didn't ask you young man, it's part of your punishment." and with that said I am placed over his lap as he sits on the closed toilet lid. With a finger full of Vaseline he parts my clenched tush with his thumb and forefinger and then spreads the gel around my rosebud hole and then slowly butt firmly pushes his finger all the way into my rectum and bowels to make sure it is well lubed. Once he pulls it out, he slides the first nozzle into my hole till its firmly against my hole and then squeezes the bulb till all the soapy liquid flows into my rectum and bowels. Then he takes the next one and does the same thing and then one more just to be sure I get totally cleaned out. Then to my surprise he sticks his finger back into my hole and starts to wiggle it and says to me....Don't you dare leak young man or you will be in Big Trouble." I try to hold it butt tell him I need to go now sir otherwise we are going to have a mess on our hands. Quickly he gets up and I sit down just in the nick of time. All of the soapy water comes shooting out of my rectum filling the toilet bowel. My friend stays in the bathroom to further embarrass me. Once I am finished expelling I have to bend over the sink so he can wipe my dirty brown stained bottom for further embarrassment.

I am sent to the corner while he cleans up the bathroom and cleans the enema bulbs. Once done, I have to go back over his lap for another spanking only with his hand this time before I get up and get dressed. We try to meet once a month .

Great thread! When young it was always my thought that I was not going to let the enema I was about to receive "win" - I was somehow going to defy and defeat the enema! I remember being asked if the enema was going in, and of my saying, no when it was, only see the bag raised higher.. . In hindsight, it was rebellion over parental control or authority....

When I read Duncan's first post in this thread my first thoughts were of enemas from mother and how I would go from a cocky male, even at a young age, and especially as a teen and older, to a increasingly contrite and humble state when it was enema time. One person commented they didn't submit to the enema, they submitted to the giver. For me it is both. I have always had great respect for a red rubber bag filled with suds or just warm water, the hose and the nozzle. Starting with mom, and now my wife, when I'm to have an enema I submit to their decision and directions, but when the enema is injected, filling me up, it takes control. No matter how determined I might be not to lose control, the enema giver and the enema itself have taken control of my body and I am powerless to resist the necessity of expelling. I am helpless.