Need some ideas/ advice

Hi all. Long story short, planning a romantic trip home to see mostly, my boyfriend. I want to do something special, he's had some recent surgery and though he says he's ok, i just "need" to see him if you know what I mean. so, here goes.

I'm thinking of buying some lingerie. He loved what I had on last time, but unfortunately I'm not as small as i once was. So now, I need to know what the terms mean, as in what do they look like? I mean crotchless panties, I get. 😉 also, any sites or companies you have dealt with would be great too. Men, feel free to let me know what is the easiest quickest way to get it off. I mean do you like the clasps like on bras, or is there something sexier? So to sum up, this is important to me, and I would appreciate descriptions of what a teddy or baby doll or anything else is. Thank you so much. If I take a shine to someone, I may ask you to actually help me look. Thanks again everyone.

In my opinion, finely crafted, sexy, REAL underwear is vastly preferable to 'sex shop' undies, which can be tacky.

No guy (or girl, if that's what floats your boat) can resist a well fitting bra, bikini panties, and a garter belt.

You can spice things up with a bit of fetish gear, or accessories like some handcuffs or a flogger.

Decide where your mutual interests lie, and build from there.

#1 rule- fuck-me heels will make any guy come in his pants.

. . . . #1 rule- fuck-me heels will make any guy come in his pants.

Be careful. The heels will also rip your sheets if you wear them to bed and you're on your back getting fucked.

Garters have never done much for me, but then again I have only seen them in pictures. My wife isn't a big lingerie person. Well, to be honest I don't think she has any at all, and I'm not about to try and buy her something on my own. I got myself a G-string/pouch thing and when I surprised her with it I think she had trouble not bursting out laughing.

If you can go to a real store that has good stuff that might be the best way. Then you can get a much better idea.

As a guy I will tell you that the most important thing is how you carry yourself in whatever you're wearing. Get in there and show him that you want him and you're going to take what you want and he'll be blown away. You initiate, maybe even give him some oral, and then confidently get things going.

unfortunately I'm not as small as i once was.

Do not dwell on this. He loves you and thinks you are sexy. Trust me. Keep telling yourself how hot you are, pick your best features, etc.

Blind babe, I too am not as small as I used to be but I can tell you that attitude, confidence, & personality goes a long way. A pretty teddy or baby doll can make you feel extra sexy and get you in mood then let yourself just have fun , be flirty be seductive, whatever makes you feel good about yourself and you will exude sex appeal .

Look for something that compliments your best features but I can tell you from experience, he wont let you keep it on for long ! Lol

Enjoy each other & have fun ?

To the sage advice already given by the ladies below (especially about 'fuck-me' heels, every man's kryptonite) I would add to stick to satin, silky garments. Lace looks good but it's itchy - for everyone involved.

I will pass on my GF's basic starter kit for getting me in her pants sooner rather than later:

Day 1, meeting him at the airport: wear a mid to lower thigh length (but definitely above the knee) skirt and blouse or dress that is well tailored and looks good on you. Sheer thigh high stockings underneath, black bra and panties (thong if he likes them, some guys don't), pumps with no more than 4" heel - tasteful and alluring outfit on the outside, sexy as hell underneath. It WILL get his mind going. Bonus points if you precede him on a stairwell or escalator (above him) and flip up your skirt to flash him once or twice when only he can see. There will be no mistaking your intent.

Bedroom later on: black satin chemise with spaghetti straps. Alternatively, sheer see-through 'baby doll' negligee, especially if you have a nice rack you want to show off. Stay clear of teddies - they look good, but having to undo the clasps / snaps underneath is a major pain when it's time to get down to business [access is everything]. Save it for when you send him dirty photographs of you in it. Optional hooker heels, but not necessary and can be dangerous as @SwitchableSusie mentioned. Just make sure your toe nails are done nicely and painted. Can't go wrong with red polish.

The morning after: throw on one of his dress shirts, optional panties, nothing else. Wake him with fresh coffee and a blow job.

Hope this helps, it worked on me!

Use some excuse to go into the bed room, get naked, undo the bed linens if you need to, lay on you back with the most inviting, hottest pose you can think of

Then call him on his cell phone and tell him you need him in the bed room

Fuck his eyes out when he jumps you

Holy shit. First off, thanks for the personal messages, and responses. Yes, I know he loves me, thinks I'm sexy. It's just been a wicked fucking long time since I've seen him. As for the dude who posted about the meet at the airport flashing? I'm blind and chances of him only seeing are, yeah well? Fuck me heels? Hmm I could but those spikey ones scare the fuck outta me. Hi baby, faceplant? no thanks. :d Seriously, I'm overthinking this, I know. This is why I ask for help. I know I have him where I want him, pun intended. I'm just building this up to much. Thanks everyone. Oh, and sex shop undies, no he's gonna ruin some vics or something like that. 😉 Ugh I'm a naughty girl.

@blind_babe15 your birthday suite is the best option , it always works?.

As Bridgette mentioned already, attitude, confidence and personality does go along way. Get into the right frame of mind, love your body, in your head you know you are sexy, don't be afraid to ask for what you want either. Take advice from a woman that lived back in the mid 1800's, Elizabeth Cady Stanton, "The best protection any woman can have... is courage". And use that courage to love and get what you want!

When you say you're not as small as you once were, are you looking for plus size recommendations? If yes, hipsandcurves.com has some nice lingerie options. I've ordered from them and most of their stuff is decent. If I've missed the mark with this, my apologies.

What did you wear last time that you liked? Is there something similar to that you can riff on?

Others have said what I'd also say so I'll just add that I hope you have all the naughty fun you can handle!

Thanks for the responses. First, I'm not a plus size yet, and to those who are, I support you. Go!! 😉 Seriously, i'm just not a size two anymore. I know it's all in my head, I think he'll have me for dinner, breakfast, and lunch all at once. 😃 I had a thing that had clasps up the back and garters, those clips you put onto stockings. Only problem was I had a problem clipping them, I couldn't slide the clip over the button thing. So I'm thinking something like that is out. Yeah I could go completely naked, but he's seen that, except the new belly ring I'm gonna have repierced. 😉 I'm confident about my body, i'm just looking for the holy fuck! baby, or oh my god, shit! reactions. 😃

Yes sexy clothing can foretell what's about to come, but a sexy attitude greatly outweighs whatever you might choose to wear. Showing a real interest in your partner and what they want and slowly giving it to them will make it a night to remember.

@ProV1

Bonus points to you for that advice! Sexy outfits are great, but without the I-am-sexy-attitude to go with it they could just be window dressing. A confident lover is a huge turn on for me!

If you are on the soft mushy side, but not yet BBW try wearing an all in one body suit. Va bien has a cream colored silly smooth one with lace that is very feminine, you can wear with thigh hi nylons. Has on open crotch for fun and games. If you want a change it is like unwrapping a present when he takes it off.....have fun .

Why dont you try some latex underwear? maybe croutchless panties and long socks and gloves? Its an idea.....

@blind_babe15 when you are going to meet him, just let him know that you won't be wearing any panties on your trip out there to see him. And that maybe you'll just be wearing thigh high hose and a garter belt underneath your skirt all the way out to see him.

His mind will do the rest. 😉

I guess it all depends on what he is into but maybe garters with stockings might do it for him. If he loves you your size won't matter a whit. There is a ton of sexy lingerie out there, just pick something and go for it. 10 minutes after you meet it won't matter anyway...

I would like to hear exactly how Susie knows heels will destroy a bed. that has to be an intersting story.

I would like to hear exactly how Susie knows heels will destroy a bed. that has to be an intersting story.

I'm sorry to say we, actually I learned it the hard and expensive same way TWICE.

If you're the type who fucks in a gentlemanly or ladylike manner, you probably won't have this as a problem. We on the other hand fuck like farm animals and when (I'm sure I don't have to say this, but Moppy just wants to hear me say the words 😁 😁 😁 ) I'm on my back getting laid, I like to thrust my hips forcefully upward against the impaling penis. In doing do, the heels on my shoes, or the anatomic heels of my feet, are ground into the bed for my forceful up-stroke and that's how stiletto heels punch holes in sheets. There Moppy, I said it and I hope it made you hard! 😁

The other way stiletto heels can tear through sheets is if the woman squats with her feet flat on the bed hovering over the man, the heels will go straight through the sheet, although that has not happened to us.

Not that the OP or her lover will likely find this interesting, but just as a side note on kink shoes in bed. As some of you know, perhaps my most unusual or uncommon kink is women or myself wearing sneakers (canvas and rubber) or running shoes. Heels are okay but normally not much of an arouser for me. Destroying your bed sheets (and maybe your mattress as well?) wearing heels during enthusiastic sex makes unfortunate sense. I can attest to the fact that through years and years of very enthusiastic masturbation or heterosexual sex with my exes, we've never destroyed a single sheet or blanket even with both of us in sneakers or running shoes! And that includes both a lot of multiple-position PIV as well as wriggling and writhing around trying to move or escape during one of us bound. Of course, not much of a reason to enjoy or pick up this particular kink of ours, but at least a nice side benefit. ????

Eric

I like to thrust my hips forcefully upward against the impaling penis

Impaling. Such a nice descriptive word. Love it.

Impaling. Such a nice descriptive word. Love it.

I agree. Great descriptor. Same way I feel about an enema nozzle or butt plug.

Eric

Zaboots suggested:

Why dont you try some latex underwear? maybe crotchless panties and long socks and gloves? Its an idea.....

Glad to see someone else here makes suggestions about enhancing your interest or sex appeal by adding or wearing rubber clothes. I've been a dedicated rubber and latex lover since I was about 8 years old (from watching sexy women SCUBA diving and walking around in neoprene rubber wetsuits and rubber sneakers on an old B&W US TV show, Sea Hunt). I didn't realize my intense attraction to women in rubber was actually sexual until I figured out orgasms at age 15 - I just knew I liked watching them wear it. I own a lot of wetsuits and some other thin black latex clothes (and a lot of sneakers) and wear them a lot to enhance orgasms either solo or with my exes who enjoyed it too. Rubber clothes have several different attractive/fetish qualities in addition to visual appeal, including texture/feel, tightness, sound, and aroma. Fantastic fabric.

Eric

I am not sure if the event is over and you are still looking for ideas or what not...

Unless you know your SO has a certain kink I would avoid anything too extreme. Excuses to thar latex/rubber people but that would do nothing for me except tell me she has a kink that I am not all that into. If you know he is into that, than go for it though.

I would also avoid going over the top with more or less normal stuff. It just looks like you are trying too hard and you wind up with a lot of stuff you will get that special thrill out of once.

I would go for sexier versions of the stuff you normally wear. You know he likes you, and he has seen what you normally wear, so ramp that up like one notch. Get perhaps a silky soft sheer bra that he can peek at you a bit through and will feel good to both of you to be caressed and perhaps licked and sucked through a little bit before it comes off or gets pulled out of the way. Same thing down below. Get something you feel comfortable in and is in the theme of what you normally wear but a bit sexier.

He will get just as much enjoyment out of feeling and stroking you through it as he would something else and if it is not too crazy and over the top, you can wear it to work once in a while if you want to feel naughty or wear it when you go out with him some night as a nice surprise when you get back home.

I am not big fan of over the top sex outfits. But that is just me. YMMV.