One of the most rewarding things I have got from Zity is a sense of how I'm not alone but subject to the same impulses that drive others. I'm talking about my medfet which for me, personally, involves a 'mouth' fetish (male and female mouths); also an interest in anaesthesia. I have traced it back to my sense that my tonsillectomy at age 4 was like a 'rape' (quite obviously I could not have said that at the time). In my boyhood, other situations and images began to accrue in my mind around this basic one. Then on arriving at puberty, and the more intense sexual feelings that brought, my 'fetish' became even more marked, and my related impulses and activities deeper. Also, more generalised. I had pronounced masturbatory fantasies involving my fetish. I sensed that my fetish could have permutations involving 'bodies', and not only my own. It could be explored in various ways (e.g., by reading medical textbooks, if not yet - in my case - by actual, investigatory sex).
Through personal correspondence here, and from the posts of others, I have confirmed that the above pattern is far from unique. One of my correspondents has a dental fetish, which became pronounced when in his early teens a dentist was particularly firm with him while giving him two fillings. My correspondent began to read medical and dental textbooks, and started to build up a collection of dental equipment. Two recent posts here tell respectively of a guy who was affected by the invasiveness of his school physicals, until, in his teens, his sexual fantasies began to centre around those exams - and recently he has found related part-time occupations; and a girl who underwent physiotherapy from childhood and into her teens, when the physical exams involved became in her mind more intrusive of her personal space, and who has now sought out various activities to feed the fetish that she developed ('I have no explanation as to why', she adds).
For a while I thought that no-one else here could share my mouth fetish. But I started an album called 'Mouths and related stuff' and have been gratified by several 'likes' from both gay and straight members. (The album has a range of pics.) Also, I have corresponded with a guy who suggested that the effect on me of my childhood tonsillectomy is not unlike the phenomenon described by Freud in his essay "A Child is being Beaten" which relates certain fantasies to the Oedipus Complex. (Hmm!) Lastly, for now, I recently re-visited a passage from the once well-known book 'Man Against Himself' by Karl Menninger that speculates on the traumatic effect that a tonsillectomy could have on a frightened child, and is very similar to my own memory of such an event and its effect on me.
As I say, Zity has helped me feel less alone in my fetish and its mechanisms. How do others see the matter? I would like to observe in another post that there are an extraordinary number of paraphilias, and that to recognise this fact is to be 'egalitarian'!