Semen retention

I am learning tantra semen retention--have gone 22 days without ejaculating--my orgasms are terrific!!!

Yeah, have fun with that.

I bet 99% of men would rather have the pleasure of the orgasm with ejaculation on a regular basis.

Yeah, have fun with that.

I bet 99% of men would rather have the pleasure of the orgasm with ejaculation on a regular basis.

And my husband's semen is MY semen. I want it and I am going to get it. It will not stay inside him, it will go inside me. 😈

And my husband's semen is MY semen. I want it and I am going to get it. It will not stay inside him, it will go inside me. 😈

WOW!

Look who's wearing her ovaries on the outside now!

WOW!

Look who's wearing her ovaries on the outside now!

I am feeling horny and he is working a night shift but I am waiting to jump on him as soon as he gets home! 😈 😃

By day 54 it will be coming out your ears naturally

I am feeling horny and he is working a night shift but I am waiting to jump on him as soon as he gets home! 😈 😃

I know that feeling from when my husband is on business trips.

I think it would be crazy for letting your man not cum in 22 days and my boyfriend would go crazy. We have to have sex at least twice per day to satisfy both of us. Not saying a little teasing my boyfriend by bringing him to the edge of orgasm and stopping and making him beg a little bit never hurts. To me his orgasm is that much more intense.

I am in the 99% group. It's like quantity vs quality, where do you draw the line. It's persanal where the line is. For me, it's almost every day. That said, when I do not ejaculate for days, it does seem to be more intense and just a little more velocity as well.

I have sex daily--but only ejaculate once every few weeks--and the orgasms I have last for much longer than any ejaculation! In fact, a semen retention full body male orgasm feels better than any ejaculation ever did--and i can last for hours, with or without a partner--gives her more orgasms as well!! And there is no recovery time--I am always ready!!

Different approaches work for different people. Orgasm denial is very hot for me, but others don't 'get' it!

I am learning tantra semen retention--have gone 22 days without ejaculating--my orgasms are terrific!!!

Good for you. Tantric methods are often described as producing very intense sexual experiences. There is nothing new about them, they have been used and practiced for centuries, more likely for millennia.

Yes, it probably goes against all that biblical stuff about the preciousness of 'seed' and all that antiquated thinking about needing release in almost purely pressure related plumbing terms.

My personal take is that ejaculation is a messy thing, something that doesn't quite need an apology to your partner, but just doesn't always seem appropriately polite. Except for the fertility aspects of ejaculation, who really needs the mess and moreover often inconvenient proof of your sexual activity?

So go for it. Maybe explain some of the techniques in practical terms or some of your experiences.

My personal take is that ejaculation is a messy thing, something that doesn't quite need an apology to your partner, but just doesn't always seem appropriately polite. Except for the fertility aspects of ejaculation, who really needs the mess and moreover often inconvenient proof of your sexual activity?

I love it, I really love feeling my husband doing it inside me. It is part of the bonding between him and me. I think it is very satisfying and thrilling that I have made him do that. The more I get from him the more I like it.

@agracier said

My personal take is that ejaculation is a messy thing, something that doesn't quite need an apology to your partner, but just doesn't always seem appropriately polite. Except for the fertility aspects of ejaculation, who really needs the mess and moreover often inconvenient proof of your sexual activity?

So go for it. Maybe explain some of the techniques in practical terms or some of your experiences.

Well, each to his own, but I don't quite see why ejaculating would be something to apologise for. Why would it be considered 'impolite'? Isn't it a part of sexual activity that a partner should reasonably expect?

Only one of my past sexual partners had any aversion to semen, but she turned out to have an unusual attitude to sex that I never quite learned the reasons for. It wasn't a singular aversion to me as such, but was more general. The rest of my partners always seemed to expect, encourage and enjoy the act of ejaculation. Many were perhaps not as vocal about it as @Amethyst, but they left me in no doubt it was what they actually wanted.

@Amethyst said

And my husband's semen is MY semen. I want it and I am going to get it. It will not stay inside him, it will go inside me. 😈

I am feeling horny and he is working a night shift but I am waiting to jump on him as soon as he gets home! 😈 😃

Yes, you did, didn't you? 🌹 🌹 🌹

I agree with @Amethyst and @DrZ. I want a female partner to want my cum, even crave it, because it came from me as a result of the pleasure she brought me. Just as I love her lubrication, her squirt juice, and even her pee (if we're playing like that) all over my body/face/mouth because it comes from her body during intimate play.

As for the OT, I would never want to go 22 days without cuming. I think orgasms are healthy for you, both mentally and physically. But if I do have a date scheduled, I do like to hold off for 2-3 days beforehand, as then I know the first orgasm will be stronger and produce more cum for her to 'enjoy'! 😁

As for the OT, I would never want to go 22 days without cuming. I think orgasms are healthy for you, both mentally and physically.

Not talking about not orgasming, but the technique was Tantric sex yoga: not ejaculating but still orgasming. Huge difference.

Not talking about not orgasming, but the technique was Tantric sex yoga: not ejaculating but still orgasming. Huge difference.

OK, orgasm without ejaculating. What's the point of that? A male body was made to ejaculate during orgasm. Why hold it back?

I don't know much about tantra, I'm willing to say that the tantric technique may lead to 'better/stronger' orgasms, but does it REQUIRE not ejaculating? Why not have a tantric orgasm WITH ejaculating, the way your body was mean to orgasm?

Men ejaculate during sex. Women get wet. To deny or prevent these occurrences is to be like fastidious prim and proper old ladies!

Sex is messy.

GOOD SEX IS VERY MESSY!

I have asked my husband about this long ago. When he has an orgasm and I clamp the urethra at the base of his penis, he said it's a different sensation of pressure inside, but he misses the sensation of the semen rushing through his urethra coming out.

I have asked my husband about this long ago. When he has an orgasm and I clamp the urethra at the base of his penis, he said it's a different sensation of pressure inside, but he misses the sensation of the semen rushing through his urethra coming out.

I suppose that sometimes you will find people who like that particular different kind of sensation, for whatever reason. It is like having a different kind of orgasm from anal penetration/stimulation. And that while a vagina is the organ designed for penetration. So why penetrate someone anally then? Would that then constitute an 'unnatural act'?

Besides, Tantric sex might possibly have been a method of not only enhancing orgasms but also for reducing the risk of pregnancy. We are talking about techniques that long predate modern birth control methods.

@agracier I don't know if you are a practitioner of Tantric, but are you able to answer my previous questions? Are Tantric orgasms 'better' BECAUSE you don't ejaculate? Could you have Tantric orgasm and still ejaculate? And if so, then why prevent it? Does the act of ejaculating somehow lessen or worsen the orgasm? Or is this used to hold back for a while, so that when you finally do decide to have an ejaculating orgasm, it's much stronger/forceful?

I understand the birth control thing centuries ago... but we've advanced past that now.

Sex is messy.

GOOD SEX IS VERY MESSY!

I'm with you there @SwitchableSusie !

The Sexual Relation for me is very close to the meals and the food, food is for your survival, sexual relation is for the survival of the human race both are genetically engraved.

I love to change of food, this don't means that I change of restaurant, let us understand "restaurant" as "partner" . . .

When there is a variety of food you never loss your appetite, it is the same for your sexual relation, make it good you will never lost the sexual love appetite you have for your partner.

Loosing weight ? no problem, eat each time the same, it is the same with your human relations.

I love my husband cumming inside of me and making me all wet. By the time get through having sex with each other, it's not just me being wet with my own juice but it is US being wet with each other's 'juice' and combining it into our own cocktail. 😉 I think there is a pun in there somewhere. 😉

And @Amethyst

I love it, I really love feeling my husband doing it inside me. It is part of the bonding between him and me. I think it is very satisfying and thrilling that I have made him do that. The more I get from him the more I like it.

and @DrZ

Many were perhaps not as vocal about it as @Amethyst, but they left me in no doubt it was what they actually wanted.

Um, 'they'? 😉

Um, 'they'? 😉

I didn't mean all at the same time. 😁 😁 😁

I didn't mean all at the same time. 😁 😁 😁

Is that your story? And are you sticking to that story? 😉 Just kidding. 😉

Is that your story? And are you sticking to that story? 😉 Just kidding. 😉

Ha! There are somewhere over 100 separate stories. I don't see sex as a team game. It's always been strictly one-to-one.

@agracier I don't know if you are a practitioner of Tantric, but are you able to answer my previous questions? Are Tantric orgasms 'better' BECAUSE you don't ejaculate? Could you have Tantric orgasm and still ejaculate? And if so, then why prevent it? Does the act of ejaculating somehow lessen or worsen the orgasm? Or is this used to hold back for a while, so that when you finally do decide to have an ejaculating orgasm, it's much stronger/forceful?

I understand the birth control thing centuries ago... but we've advanced past that now. I'm with you there @SwitchableSusie !

No, I don't practice Tantric sex, so I can't really answer your questions from experience. However I have had extended periods of abstinence from sex and also from ejaculation. I'm not going to say it was voluntary, because it was due to my wife's prolonged illness - 22 years, almost to a day. And from that came prolonged periods without orgasming which was a bit more voluntary, let's say out of necessity and because of where mind and feelings were at.

Anyway, it is not the same as Tantric, but is somewhat similar I suppose. In any case, I have to smile a bit when hearing some members cannot last longer than a few days without ejaculating. I'd say try going longer, if only to prove a control of mind over body. Perhaps that is part of the attraction. You'd really have to ask the member who is doing the Tantric sex practice.

I was also trying to try to show that there can be different points of view on the aspects of ejaculation, the mess it causes (some people can really get upset over stains on a sofa or sheets or a new dress you know) and just keeping an open mind when hearing about something different, not exactly playing a moderator, maybe helping to keep an even view. I'm also curious about the nuts-and-bolts and I have to admit I find the idea attractive, probably because of my last two decades and some.

There is also the idea behind semen retention as a method of preserving a precious bodily fluid, as a 'life-force'. Sounds Dr. Strangelove-ish of course, but it's an idea that has been around for a long long time. I would think Tantric sex uses that idea as a starting point in trying to explain the advantages.

SwitchableSusie--let me answer your questions on tantra orgasms and semen retention. First, when most males ejaculate, both good and bad chemicals are released. The bad ones make the guy tired, have a refractory (recovery) period, feel a bit depressed, feel depleted, have no interest in sex for a while. Doing semen retention, none of that happens. I get to the point of no return then back off--edging--many times, and eventually ride a wave of orgasm, when the feel-good chemicals flood my entire body, not just my penis. I can do that for several hours--and do it again the same day if I wish! I am horny and ready all the time! My penis has become much, much more sensitive--just touching it sends me to bliss! The feel--good extended full body non-ejaculatory orgasm does feel better than ejaculating. An ejaculatory orgasm lasts maybe ten seconds of shooting out cum--and it is over. I get that same feeling--or better--and for as long as I want. It is also possible with tantra to have a pulsing, throbbing, jerking orgasm without ejaculating--I have done that a few times--it takes practice and learning--but I prefer the full body non-ejaculatory orgasms. I also have learned full body energy orgasms with tantra--without even touching my penis!!

@Teddyball said

First, when most males ejaculate, both good and bad chemicals are released. The bad ones make the guy tired, have a refractory (recovery) period, feel a bit depressed, feel depleted, have no interest in sex for a while. Doing semen retention, none of that happens.

I think much of that is being overplayed.

Any feeling of tiredness should be short lived after sex. A fit and active man should recover fairly quickly after sex. By that I'm not referring to the refractory period, which will vary according to the individual, but general physical tiredness. Perhaps you need to work on your general fitness if a physical tiredness is is a concern.

Personally I don't feel sleepy after sex. To me it makes absolutely no difference. My wife was actually quite surprised when she heard a few other women complaining that their male partners are out like a light immediately after sex.

Depressed? Is that how I'm supposed to feel after my wife and I have had a wonderful time? I can't say I've heard any other man complaining of how sex drepresses him for a while.

The feel--good extended full body non-ejaculatory orgasm does feel better than ejaculating. An ejaculatory orgasm lasts maybe ten seconds of shooting out cum--and it is over. I get that same feeling--or better--and for as long as I want. It is also possible with tantra to have a pulsing, throbbing, jerking orgasm without ejaculating--I have done that a few times--it takes practice and learning--but I prefer the full body non-ejaculatory orgasms. I also have learned full body energy orgasms with tantra--without even touching my penis!!

For me it is actually over 30 seconds.

I'm afraid you won't convert me to your tantric practice, but whatever works for you.

Since I don't have a penis, I didn't want to be the first person to say:

I think much of that is being overplayed.

Any feeling of tiredness should be short lived after sex. A fit and active man should recover fairly quickly after sex. By that I'm not referring to the refractory period, which will vary according to the individual, but general physical tiredness. Perhaps you need to work on your general fitness if a physical tiredness is is a concern.

Personally I don't feel sleepy after sex. To me it makes absolutely no difference. My wife was actually quite surprised when she heard a few other women complaining that their male partners are out like a light immediately after sex.

Depressed? Is that how I'm supposed to feel after my wife and I have had a wonderful time? I can't say I've heard any other man complaining of how sex drepresses him for a while.

For me it is actually over 30 seconds. I'm afraid you won't convert me to your tantric practice, but whatever works for you.

My husband would agree with you 100%

. . . but it is US being wet with each other's 'juice' and combining it into our own cocktail. 😉 . . .

We love to taste our cocktail, as soon as we have make it, it is always a delicious strong tasty kiss we share 😜