Did mom get off on giving you enemas

@Jacana

Where did that nurse work??

Hospital. I never heard of a nurse in a doctor's office carrying a spoon.

This sounds like an urban legend, but many years ago a newly minted nurse, who was a friend of mine told me one of the nurses she learned from still carried one, although it was never used in her presence. But the nurse told her what it was for. My friend's sense was, by that time the practice had stopped, but she was able to confirm it did go on. I'm not sure I've heard any first hand accounts from victims though. What's clear, as we discussed, is that boys were sometimes ridiculed by adult women for getting an erection, especially in a medical situation. So it's not an illogical extension.

@Koan Yeah difficult to know if it was a urban legend or truth. It would not surprise me though in a cultural context where corporal punishment of children and teenagers (school paddlings etc.) was considered normal, and sexuality, masturbation etc were considered very naughty.

She must have because there was always something going up my asshole. She would often have a friend help her and she went to their house when their kids got enemas. They still spoke about this years later.

@enemalover55 I was curious about your story lol

What did your friends say?

I never got enemas, for a reason i never found out.

My mom was a district nurse in the UK and not only gave my sister weekly enemas, but several local girls, sent to her by the town Dr.

Did she enjoy giving them enemas?

She only ever used a Higginson syringe and form the way she pumped the syringe i am sure she did.

She would pump the syringe really hard and this caused many girls to flinch as the jet of fluid entered them.

Why do i think she enjoyed giving the enemas?

I often wondered why she waited so long between pumping before injecting the next jet of the thick fluid into the girl. It did mean the girl was across her lap a lot longer.

If i was at home, i would see not only my sister getting her regular enemas but also other girls.

My sister had begged my mom to let me stay while getting her enemas and mom never shut the bathroom door so seeing the girls getting enemas was a regular occurrence.

One day we ate something bad and had to do enemas for everyone, as abdominal pain began. Mom gave us enemas in turn (3 sisters) and then to herself. We saw how each girl received her enema twice. When everything was finished, Mom sent us to rest and took care of herself.

Do you think giving you enemas was four play for when dad got home have you ever thought about that ? Deep thoughts

@Dr_Strangelove said,

Do you think giving you enemas was four play for when dad got home have you ever thought about that ?

Looking back now, I definitely think our two teenage aunts got turned on whenever they gave me and my siblings enemas at bath time. Getting the responsibility for our evening bath after grandma, a retired RN, taught them personal hygiene as preteens. I was six, the older girl twelve, and her sister eleven. Both girls were innocent and naïve, and like us, they both liked enemas. To that end, they made up excuses to give us and themselves enemas, that weren’t needed but wanted. Something we didn’t mind, because we liked enemas as much as they did. They also, took advantage of grandma's big downstairs bathroom with a large walk-in dual head shower. Making it convenient to put us in the shower together, then get in, to keep order and bathe us. So, on evenings when we all received enemas, like us, they were both naked. Giving enemas laying across their lap or the knee chest position. As I watched the others being given enemas, I sported a hard-on anticipating my coming enema. I didn’t understand why at my age but watching others getting enemas turned me on. So, there’s no way, the girls didn’t understand what was going to happen when they slid a finger followed by an adult rectal or long-curved douche nozzle deep in my behind for an enema. Having experienced something similar themselves.

Mom on the other hand, was a different story. She gave us enemas out of the blue occasionally, particularly on rainy days. If she only had her nightgown on without panties during the day, changes were fairly good she’d give us an enema. Even if she did have her panties on, it still wasn’t out of question. Especially if it was a rainy day. So, was she turned on, that’s a good question. She didn’t use a douche nozzle, like her two younger sisters, she used an adult rectal nozzle. Holding it in place during the enema. Nor did she have us laying across her lap. We were laying naked across our bed together, either on our backs or stomach, with my brother and I both sporting a hard-on. At our age, we didn’t have a clue about our feelings stemming from sexuality. All we knew was, it made parts inside our groin feel good, but naughty all at the same time. Something we really didn’t understand but liked. Looking back, I think she most likely was turned on. I also think, she liked giving us enemas, but just didn't like getting one. Something we already knew, because we overheard grandma giving her enemas in the evening occasionally and fussing about it. Consequently, it never crossed our minds, that her out of the blue enemas might be turning her on.

A couple of observations on this extremely interesting topic:

There seems to a pretty even split on whether mom sexually enjoyed giving their children enemas and many have made the point that mom seemed to enjoy the control process as well as a feeling of pride in keeping the kids healthy. I think all of these can be easily combined. The sexual aspect of exposing so-called private parts, penetration with a phallic device, etc. must be obvious to everybody on Zity. Isn’t the control process also a sexual satisfaction in many, many cases? And I think the feeling of pride could also be considered sexual. I am no expert so I may be talking out my ass as I am prone to do. But all in all the enema process must be sexual (in the widest definition) even if only in a subconscious way.

In regards to passing the enema fetish from generation to generation (lot of grandmas appear in these recollections) it seems to me that the kink is transmitted generationally. The thing about the enema fetish as opposed to any other fetish, e.g. BDSM, is that enemas are very often introduced as children whereas any other kink is acquired later in life. This is why so many of us here are so passionately devoted to the wet arts. Once again,I am no professional but as I understand it we are born with a sexual orientation, fetishes we pick up and nurture as we go along.

Thoughts?

Keep it flowing,

Bill

Being on the receiving end with sister I cannot judge mom's feelings. What is clear she was obsessed with enemas. We got pretty often. Even if we had no problems a weekly cleansing session was on the menu for me till age 14, but I have seen sister with the nozzle in her bum when she was 16-17.

I think so, I think it was the control element. Naughty strong willed boy as I was, it was an add on usually to either an inserted glycerin suppository or an enema bulb regularly inserted in my rear.

No, definitely not. I think I received at most 3 enemas in my childhood. Mom took them occasionally before some of her medical appointments, but she didn't want to give them.

I can't say I wish it had been different, but if she had been an aggressive giver, I think I'd have had far fewer intestinal problems. I got my enema obsession without help from my parents, so...

My mom did not give me enemas. But my grandmother did - when I spent a summer there as a teenager.

I never sensed any "getting off" vibe. I did sense a curiosity. Also, a tendency to discourage masturbation while recognizing a natural need for release. She alluded to the notion that if a seminal release happen during an enema, it was fine, just as a seminal release during a wet dream was fine. I later learned that grandpa used enemas for his sexual outlet.

Likely grandma too. There was a privacy step in her enemas and she encouraged me to hold the final round extra long and used a bulbous retention nozzle for that step. It was then I would release my semen. She did not see it. She had provided a cloth for that though.

My hunch is that for most moms giving an enema to a child or teenager, it is not a sexual thing but a curiosity thing. When they are little you can keep an eye on things with bathtime. But at a certain age, kids can bathe themselves just fine.

With the enemas, allows a bit of observation concerning onset of puberty, development etc. Also the potential for release other than masturbation or sex.

Been thinking more about this topic since my last post here (see #99 above).

If the goal for the enema giver (mom) is sexual pleasure for herself or a sense of control or pride for herself without regard for the feelings of the recipient (the child), couldn’t that be defined as child abuse even if unintentional?

Don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying mom is a monster but the results of her actions could have had a negative effect on her children. Hard for us here on ZB to imagine but the enema experience could easily been traumatic for many children.

Something we should be aware of.

Keep it flowing,

Bill

@Red_bag_user said,

If the goal for the enema giver (mom) is sexual pleasure for herself or a sense of control or pride for herself without regard for the feelings of the recipient (the child), couldn’t that be defined as child abuse even if unintentional?

In today’s world your statement would be accurate, however in the nineteen fifties, enemas were commonplace and used for a variety of reasons. As kids, my siblings and I got an enema after we got a spanking to help calm down. In today’s world, that would be considered abuse. However, in the fifties it was common to receive an enema after being spanked. Mom, grandma, and our aunts all gave us an enema after spanking us. Grandma was the only one, who asked if we’d like an enema after a spanking and were free to accept or refuse. The interesting thing was, my siblings and I never turned her down. Mom and our aunts on the other hand, didn’t ask, they gave us an enema afterwards wanted or not. Was it child abuse, absolutely not. The spanking was punishment for whatever trouble we’d gotten into, and the enema afterwards, was to help calm down and take our minds off our sore behinds.

As for mom or our aunts giving us enemas out of the blue. We didn’t really mind them, because like our teenager aunts, we liked getting enemas as much as they did. And as strange as it may sound, we even enjoyed the enemas we got after a spanking. Sure, the spanking hurt, but an enema right after a spanking was different somehow. At the time, we couldn’t put a finger on it, but they felt really weird, naughty, and good all at the same time. We looked forward to getting enemas, but they scared us at the same time. The scary part was the backside of a hairbrush, belt, or hand being applied to our bare behinds. Our trouble was, we couldn’t tell what mom's intentions were when she took us to the bedroom or bathroom. Enemas out of the blue were one thing, but a spanking with a hairbrush was something else again. As we got older and were able to discern mom's mood. We could tell if we were in for a spanking or a couple of enemas. Especially on rainy afternoons, when mom was more apt to give us enemas for no reason. Afterwards, we were finally able to relax and enjoy the enemas. Because we weren’t uptight about getting spanked. Being able to relax, made a big difference in the enjoyment of those rainy-day enemas.

If giving us enemas or a spanking turned mom or our aunts on, so what, the enemas felt good and were something we liked. Getting spanked with a hairbrush hurt like hell, and with a few exceptions, we deserved everyone we received. We were three active inquisitive kids and got into everything. Hence, we got our share of spankings followed by enemas. The enemas we got after getting a spanking, always did us a world of good, helping to calm us down afterwards. After I was married, and my wife and I had kids, we discovered that giving enemas or spankings laying across our lap had a surprising effect on us, something that mom or our aunts couldn't have missed when we were across their laps for the same reason.

Moms two teenage sister were more open when it came to giving us enemas out of the blue. Mom liked giving us enemas, but didn’t like getting them herself. However, her two younger sisters, liked both getting and giving enemas. Using them to relieve sexual tensions, much like my siblings and I did as teenagers. So, whenever they got horny, they used us as an excuse, to give themselves and us a couple enemas. Something we didn’t mind, because like the girls, we liked enemas as much as they did. Plus, they were the first ones to actually let us give someone else an enema.

Tho the girls spanked us occasionally; we always knew a number of hours before it happened. The worst part, was thinking about the coming spanking, knowing it was going to be both long and hard. Once across the girl's lap and the spanking started, it lasted for what seemed like forever. But in actuality, was probably no more than a minute or two. They never spanked us with a hairbrush, like mom or grandma did. Having felt the hairbrush a number of times themselves, they only used their hand to spank us. But by the time they finished, it felt like they had used a hairbrush instead of their hand. Because their hand spankings lasted a lot longer than mom or grandmas spankings with a hairbrush. After the spanking, and while still laying naked across their bare lap, they gave us a rinse enema to help calm down. Worked too.

If the goal for the enema giver (mom) is sexual pleasure for herself or a sense of control or pride for herself without regard for the feelings of the recipient (the child), couldn’t that be defined as child abuse even if unintentional?

To call a behavior "abuse" that was commonplace back in the day is incorrect. Standards have changed and morphed to fit the beliefs held now. That doesn't blankly make them "abuse".

@MissStress The difference is purpose and intent. If a parent gives an enema for no medical reason and experiences sexual self-gratification, then it is abuse. I've read about such behaviors (e.g. grandparents giving enemas to girls without any bowel issues, apparently for sexual gratification). Other abusive behaviors include gratuitous rectal temperature, suppositories, intimate washing (for instance, washing the privates of a child totally capable of washing them himself or herself), retraction of the foreskin even though there are no issues there. The same acts are totally ok if done when appropriate.

This is an insidious form of abuse, since those who commit it will explain that they were doing things for health and hygiene. And they may have a partially valid reason.

The difference is purpose and intent. If a parent gives an enema for no medical reason and experiences sexual self-gratification, then it is abuse. I've read about such behaviors (e.g. grandparents giving enemas to girls without any bowel issues, apparently for sexual gratification).

But do those claiming such activities actually know it as fact or are they passing their personal sexual fetish/interest onto their parents. I believe some are doing that. Their reason...who knows. But thinking ones own fetish/interest came from a parent is "better" than thinking it is all yours. Good or bad.

To call a behavior "abuse" that was commonplace back in the day is incorrect. Standards have changed and morphed to fit the beliefs held now.

But do those claiming such activities actually know it as fact or are they passing their personal sexual fetish/interest onto their parents. I believe some are doing that. thinking ones own fetish/interest came from a parent is "better" than thinking it is all yours. Good or bad.

I was going to post something similar. @MissStress has put my thoughts into words better than I could.

"Take the blame when it's yours." I could not help myself from dropping that one in.

I’ve been mulling about this “abuse” question since I first mentioned it a few weeks ago. I think there may have been some misunderstanding about what I was on about.

First let me give my definition of abuse as I used before. I define abuse as an action directed at a person who has no ultimate control of the situation. Usually the abuser has some power (physically, psychologically, socially, professionally) over the abused (in the situation I had in mind, a child). I’ll use the terms “abuser” and “abused” only from this point as it might be unwise to use loaded words like “victim” or “perpetrator”. Abuse has gone on forever; when a caveman hit someone with a rock for the hell of it, that would be abuse as I’m using the word. So the time period in which something happened has no bearing on whether the A word applies. Yes, I agree that the 50s and 60s were the Golden Age of Enemas (and most of us are glad to have lived in that age).

Like any situation involving more than one person, there may be as many divergent emotions floating around as there are people involved. But let’s keep this at the basic level and only include two people as actors. In any situation where two are involved it becomes political. Politics are about power and one actor of our two has power (in some way or ways) over the other. If I walk down the street wearing a custom-tailored suit and Italian shoes and I encounter a homeless person begging for change, I might well think that I am superior in many ways to this “bum”. The homeless guy might think “who’s this self-important asshole think he is, I’m as good as him”. This example is not abuse if I do not act out my thoughts, same goes for the homeless person. If I curse, strike, or in some try to belittle the homeless one I would be guilty of abuse. I could give more examples but let’s cut to the chase.

Imagine this situation. A mother (authority) tells her child (subservient) that it’s time for an enema. This leads to a few questions. Why is mother ordering an enema? Is she doing it purely for the health and well-being of the child? Does she insist on the enema because she derives some sexual feeling from the sight of her child’s open rectum and the process of inserting a foreign object there? If she has such sexual urges, is she truly aware of them? Is she ordering the enema as a way of inflicting pain, embarrassment, humiliation, etc. on the child to satisfy some sort of emotion of her own? Many questions, many answers.

Let’s look at this now from the child’s point of view. Does he/she think, “mom’s the boss, let’s just get this over with” and goes into passive mode? Does the child (a future member of Zity) think, “I didn’t think she’d ever ask, I love it when mom lubes me up” and goes into the nonchalant act. Does he/she say to his/her self “oh no, I told her how much I hate this, how it’s hurts and embarrasses me but she won’t listen even if I scream and cry”. The child may be so traumatized that some kind of transference takes place.

So there are questions of intent, acceptance or denial; questions of degree. More and more questions, more and more combinations of questions. More inference , more opinions. More, more, more but damn few answers or hints of answers. I’d need a super computer to crunch all the numbers.

Was your mom an abuser? You have to decide. If she came for you carrying an enema bag but wearing a corset and nipple clips under her house dress, she probably had only her own desires in mind. I’ll call this attempted abuse. If you, the child, doesn’t mind the enema and takes it as routine the can be no abuse unless the mother physically injures the child. If mom came at you (still wearing corset and clips) thinking “this is so hot. I don’t care that Junior says he hates it and cries every time, I just have to have the big O this will give me”. Now we’re talking abuse, especially considering the lasting effects on Junior. He would in all likelihood not be a member of Zity. Imagine a thousand more cases. Make them into logic problems and do them instead of the day’s sudoku puzzle. Did not Thomas Aquinas use the enema question in one of his syllogisms in Summa Theologica”?

I hope I have not wasted a couple of hours of my life writing this. I stand by my previous statement that enemas COULD be considered abuse.

I would really like to know what everybody thinks of this.

Thank you Zity and thank you all for giving me this forum.

Keep it flowing,

Bill

I think during the Golden Age, there was legitimate, for the time, belief that regular bowel movements were critical and that enemas promoted good health or contributed to avoidance or curing of disease, especially colds, flu, etc. My mother explicitly espoused the auto-intoxication theory of disease at least prior to my early enemas. That said, I think there was a legitimate motive for giving enemas in many or most cases. They were also used, and sometimes still are I believe, for potty training before other methods were adopted. Based on my experience and that of many others here, however, it’s hard to believe that if our mothers were also subject to enemas as children, some or even many didn’t develop similar feelings towards them that we have. Given the times, any conscious recognition that they were sexually stimulated by administering enemas was probably heavily suppressed or discounted by them. Some may even have felt guilt associated with it, but genuinely felt it was necessary for their child’s health. I’m not at all saying, however, that abuse didn’t occur in some cases and some mothers might even have had good motives, knew that it excited them, at that was just a bonus.

Absolutely!!

Red bag user….you're 100% accurate.

My mother sexually abused me. I didn’t realize it was abuse till I hit 60. I’ll write one day, how it hit me.

She started the enemas around 5. They ended around 13. She administered about every other week.

The scenario was always the same. She’d come into my room, tell me it was time for my enema. She’s grab me by my arm, and I’d be kicking and screaming I don’t want an enema.

In the bathroom was a chair, a pan with water, and a red bulb. My white cotton panties were pulled down to my knees. She’d put the lube on her finger, and start playing with my butt hole. Playing with my butthole alone was a good half hour. She would say, if you don’t calm down this will take longer.

When she was done playing with my butt hole, in would go about 2-3 bulbs full of warm, soapy water.

The whole time she’s squirming underneath me. Breathing heavy, moaning. Obviously aroused. I didn’t know at the time what was going on.

I’m going to assume when she was ready to cum, she’d sit me on the toilet. That was when she would climax, while I was on the toilet.

The worse part was when we had to go to the church elders and discuss my bowl movements.

That’s another story for another day.

@Assme that's awful. I'm really sorry that that happened to you.

My mom and many of my aunts liked giving me enemas and my cousins. I believed that it made them feel hornier and led to better sex with their husbands, my uncles later that day. My uncles seemed to enjoy enema time even though they never participated in it with the children. It was a signal that some great sex was coming later. It was never abuse.

My dad used to become sexually aroused with my mom if she decided it was enema time for the children because he knew a happy time was coming for him later. It was really obvious to me because my dad had a unique reaction every time he was sexually excited. His nose would start to run, like he had the sniffles. His nose and ears would turn bright red and then my mom would get annoyed with him because it was so obvious that he was hornier than hell because he knew good times were a coming.

My mom and aunts gave enemas to their children, they liked them also and it was more about being a mom a taking care of your their children’s health care.

The 50s to the 80s to me was the great enema age. Each ten year time period was a little different than the previous one.