Using daughter's or sister's sex toy

I was just wondering if any mothers have used their daughters sex toy/s? Or sister using sister/s sex toy/s? As for myself I have used my sisters and her girlfriends sex toys and they have used mine. Share and share alike. My sister and I grew up in a strict old fashioned family. Church on Suns and Weds, visit people when they were sick. Never touch down there except to wipe or bathe. That type of family. I did a search an didn't find anything on this. I figure this would be the place to ask.

The only person I share sex toys with is my husband.

With all due respect, that's so nasty. Toys should not be shared unless it's with your partner in my opinion.

Mashie

I never used my mum's sex toys when I still lived at home and I think it would have been gross to do that. I did not have sex toys until I was over 16 and my mum never used mine either, I am sure she never would never do anything like that. I think sex toys are just personal things that should not be shared. I would just never share toys, not even with my mum.

I would only ever share toys with someone I was currently having sex with.

I also be sure to clean them at least twice before their next use. I clean mine first after I use them, and then again before I use them the next time. Sometimes if one hasn't been used in a while, I'll clean that again too, as a refresh, and put it away.

I also wouldn't lend anyone my toys, whether we were fucking or not. I would be worried that the wrong heat was applied to a glass item, causing a crack or weakess that could lead to breakage during MY use of the toy. That's just one example.

I think a FAMILY sharing toys is just as disgusting as sisters/mother/daughter licking the other's vagina. Just don't. You've got your own private set of fingers, don't borrow your mom's dildo.

I wasn't talking about licking family. The reason this came to mind was I was talking to another woman and she was telling me that her daughter has better toys than she does. I have shared toys with girlfriends before. As far as my sister and her girlfriend go if we use someone toy it is washed after. I also wash them before use. I wasn't talking about taking a toy out of them and putting it directly in me. I didn't own a toy until I was older than 18. My sister however did. I don't think it is as uncommon as some may think. Plus my sister and her girlfriend rent from me so I would know if one of them had something. I had a friend who used to baby sit at one ladies house who had a vibe. The lady was young and very pretty BUT I would never use that vibe. My friend did. My sister and I laugh when we talk about what mom would have done if she found a toy at their house when we were growing up. She would have totally freaked out. We both keep our toys in a drawer in our own nightstands in our own rooms. If we know mom and dad are going to visit we put them away in boxes under things in our closets.

As for the original question, I too would have an 'Ick' factor based on the sharing among family members, especially a generation apart. It just seems wrong, although I don't really have any real justification for that belief. I also wouldn't borrow or loan out any sex toys I had to anyone.

However regarding re-use, does every toy, once it's used, become useless and garbage to anyone else? I mean, should every toy a couple has be thrown out if they were to break up? A toy can be cleaned with soap, or toy cleaner, or bleach, or boiled, or put in a dishwasher or sterilized. That is WAY more cleaning than any penis or mouth could undergo, however those are always 're-used' on a new lover.

I use the dishwasher on the top shelf for toys all the time and the washing machine for our ropes.

I see a lot of gross and ews. It makes me wonder if any of you who had siblings did each have their own rectal thermometers? What about your children? Just think about it. I'm not trying to gross anyone out. Just being real. I think a rectal thermometer is a lot more gross.

Tabitha: When I was a kid, there was one rectal thermometer, then two (after mom bought a non-mercury one) for everybody. They were swabbed with alcohol after use. Can you disinfect the toys?

@CJ1999 that's where your wrong for girls if they can't ask their mother about stuff like this and have an open conversation about it then that's a good thing who else are they supposed to ask about it

@CJ1999 that's where your wrong for girls if they can't ask their mother about stuff like this and have an open conversation about it then that's a good thing who else are they so posed to ask about it

I didn't say parents and children can't discuss sex. I said IMO it was inappropriate for a parent to discuss their child's sex life here, or for someone else to ask about it.

It's not the sterility factor that caused my Eeeeeeeew comment. A mother and daughter can be close, and discuss everything together, but sharing sex toys? Buy your own. There CANNOT be a kink factor between mother, and daughter. Toys are cheap.

My sister and I are as close as siblings can be. We discuss everything, and despite be as vanilla as soft serve, she knows all about my kinks/fetishes/perversions/hobbies. That still doesn't mean I flop some enema equipment on her kitchen counter and say 'Want to have a go?'. If I handed her a dildo, straight out of the dishwasher, she would hold it with her fingernails, and say Eeeeeeew. I hate the word normal, but sometimes you have to bear in mind what is normal, and what is not.

Pecan nutjob yes you can get a lot of toys sterile. Some you can use alcohol on as in nonporous. You can use soap and water. Some porous you can just use soap and water. The cleaning of sex toys is in another topic already done. Actually the majority you can use alcohol on and soap and water. That is my point exactly. I guess for a lot it is the thought that counts. Damn I am sounding like a Hallmark card. If I need blood my sister is a match for me and the other way around. We are close and even go to the doctor together. No we don't sit down with the doctor but we would know if either of us has a problem. I think my points are making people think. I mean years ago they used rectal thermometers in hospitals. Then they went to everyone got their own. It was an extra charge they could tack on to your bill. Like not discharging you until after noon. That way they can bill your insurance for another day. But this is getting off subject. I think I have people thinking now.

God, Noooo.!!!

Absolutely not. Toys are personal, and care, cleaning, maintaining are imperative. Only my partner would use mine, when I am with them.!!

It sort of seems like everyone is being a bit hard on Tabitha. I think we all know sex toys can usually be cleaned very thoroughly. So really, the objection is psychological, not sanitary. If she and her sister don't mind..who cares. If you don't like it, don't do it. But, if she is cool with it, than that's fine too...just my two cents.

I don't see an issue with Tabitha sharing of toys from a hygiene view point, if its cleaned. Its like having sex if you are with a long term partner you trust and know are free from STD then there is no issue with not using condoms.

I myself would not share sex toys with my own girls but if we were at that point they were curious about it and asking questions then you should let them get their own.

Sharing wouldn't work, would need a rotor for whose allowed it on what days lol.

Do you clean your toys in the dishwasher separately I assume and not with your dishes and glasses etc.

I won't put the dogs bowel in the dishwasher even, I was unhappy when I discovered every time husband loaded dishwasher he was putting the dogs stuff in with out dishes.

I guess we all have our own views and opinions of things. I feed my dogs off my fork and I let them lick my plates sometimes. Some may think that's gross, I personally don't. I think sharing toys is absolutely disgusting, but again, that's my opinion, lol.

Mashie

If you go to this thread which is going around now. (Did Mom Get You Your Own Enema Bag or Bulb?) You will find where Pecan nutjob had one bag for the whole family. All of that is inserting nozzles that has been in another family members anus or in some cases vagina.

All of that is inserting nozzles that has been in another family members anus or in some cases vagina.

I will clarify why I said I was disgusted above.

I will use my mother's fork to taste a bit of her food, or wear my brother's top, and just yesterday I shared a flask with my Dad. But just as I would NEVER have sex with the same man as a family member, or have a threesome with them and another person, I would never share a toy with them.

I'm going to presume none of the parents who share nozzles did so to sexually please their children, which is the only function of a sex toy.

As Mashie said, different things disgust different people, but I would share my toys about as quickly as I would share my toothbrush.

We only had one bag but had separate nozzles.

I have been in the situation where a small vibe went missing from my bedroom. A semi-awkward conversation later it was returned. I didn't throw it out, merely cleaned it well and also purchased someone their own a short time later. I would not call that sharing a toy though.

I do see the point of views of others, when I read JR3 comment on toothbrush I did semi gag at the idea a little bit lol.

Tabitha: As far as my wife recalls, the nozzles were washed after use, and also left to soak in bleach before the bag was stored again.

I think the issue is not hygiene per se. In hospitals, before disposables, they used rectal thermometers, enema nozzles etc. for many patients, as long as they disinfected them in between. The issue is rather a cultural "eek" factor that sexual items are private.

Think about the following: a parent may show genitals on a textbook or anatomy book to a child for educational purposes, but most people would find it gross if the parent showed his or her own genitals.

What about nudist's pecan, showing and being visible aren't the same thing. Tabitha didn't say anything about showing each other using the toy.

Susie, I thought your husband was your sex toy! 😎

That too.

I find it interesting what people are calling "disgusting".

Sharing cleaned toys is orders of magnitude cleaner than feeding your dog off your plate or silverware (which gets cleaned before the next use) or especially letting your dog "kiss" you. (Which for you non dog owners means licking your face with the same tongue they lick their ass.) I have to say growing up, our wonderful Irish Setter used to kiss us in the face all the time and nothing bad ever happened. So, is that disgusting?

Sharing toys and what makes that "disgusting" to some people appears to be that the person with whom you share your toys knows that you have them and what you do with them.

When my older daughter models her corsets, catsuits or other "fun clothes" My husband knows what she's been up to. He even jokes about it to me, saying she looks like I did before we had children!

Both daughters have gone out of their way to go topless swimming in our pool while we were sunning ourselves on the deck. They just have no modesty, are obviously exhibitionists and are completely comfortable with their bodies.

They have been seeing the same boyfriends since high school and have been careful selecting their handful of other partners. They have a lot fewer partners than my husband and I did and our sex life began in the peak of the AIDS epidemic. They use lots of condoms.

Since I am obviously not a mother, nor do I have a daughter, I suppose my two cent's worth is just that. I see a psychological, but no medical reason for not sharing. Most of the toys I've seen can be sterilized, so nothing would be transferred to the other user. On the other hand, I'm sure a lot of mom's don't add sex toys to their syllabus when teaching about the "birds & the bees".

My wife used her sisters dildo on me.

I have "shared" with girlfriends, and used my older sisters before moving out. No harm done. Switch I am very jealous you have an equipment room!!!! I only recently got on property ladder and barely space for a vacuum cupboard lol.

Interesting thread. I know when our daughter was 17 she and her mother had a discussion about sex toys. I wasn't around when it started but they reached an agreement that daughter should get a vibe rather than a dildo at that time.

A few years later after my in-laws both ( in their 90s) died my wife and her sister were cleaning out their bedroom and ran across their toy stash. They weren't terribly surprised that there were toys, but were surprised at the variety and volume they found. Amongst other things was a beautiful carved dildo which looked surprisingly life like albeit a bit larger than the average male. When they showed it to me I was surprised to note that it was carved ivory, obviously very old and very expensive. They were going to throw it out with the rest but I suggested not, and perhaps it could be donated to the museum in San Fransisco. Don't know what their going to do yet but I hope they don't throw it away. By the way there is no way either would use it, they touched it like it was some kind of poison.