How many sex partners have you had?

I'm a male virgin, at 38 years old.

And from France no less, where everyone assumes everyone is fucking, all the time.

Hookers count by the way - maybe time to consider the investment? Cheaper than marriage by far...

I've thought carefully about this. The number of partners I had before I met my wife is quite high, but I don't go around with a number in my head and I don't keep diaries or carve notches anywhere, so I've needed to make a list to be fairly accurate. Every once in a while, someone else emerges from the dark corners of my memories and I add her to the list. It's been interesting to look back.

There have certainly been 96, but it is likely the true number is into three figures. Possibly as high as 110.

At least I've been able to remember all of their names and I have very clear memories of them. None of them were anonymous one-night stands. During certain years, I was very busy. During my university years in particular, I was a complete tart.

I am 27.

6 so far.

​​​​​​I'm a male virgin, at 38 years old.

What are you waiting for????????

Hookers count by the way - maybe time to consider the investment? Cheaper than marriage by far...

That's definitely true.

If it Flies, Floats or Fucks, it's cheaper to rent it.

At risk of sounding like a total slag I honestly don't know the answer but ball park figure.

It's not in my opinion a stupidly high number but I don't count or mark it on the bed post.

Does having a small orgey count as more than one ?

At risk of sounding like a total slag I honestly don't know the answer but ball park figure.

It's not in my opinion a stupidly high number but I don't count or mark it on the bed post.

Does having a small orgey count as more than one ?

ABSOLUTELY!

How many guys did you do that night?

4 but one was a woman so 3 guys.

Why do they say showing balls is brave and strong and being a pussy is insult for being weak. Should be the other way round. Slight knock to the balls results in tears but my pussy can take a pounding.

Once in my foolish salad days my girlfriend and I had orgasmic sex eleven times in twelve hours. What a mistake! We felt as if we had a bad flu. And the abrasions. In retrospect I'm amazed that metal fatigue didn't set in.

Liquidsky, I also recall those days gone by when I could generate 4,5, maybe 6 or seven orgasms in a day, but never as many as 10-11! Glad you experienced, enjoyed and survived it! Kudos.

Eric

Wish I could answer one and only one! There have been only two for me. The first, I married and proudly, I am still married to her today. The second was an infidelity early in my marriage that should not have happened and I regret. The first knows about the second and has for many, many years as I confessed it to her a long, long time ago. Fortunately, she forgave me all those many years ago and I am proud to be married to her for 28 years. She rocks my world!

Once in my foolish salad days my girlfriend and I had orgasmic sex eleven times in twelve hours. What a mistake! We felt as if we had a bad flu. And the abrasions. In retrospect I'm amazed that metal fatigue didn't set in.

LUBE man, LUBE and you can fuck until your back and hips give out. 😁 😁 😁

Metal fatigue?? Doing stress/strain/finite element analysis?

Wow Buttwoman you lit up the switchboard.

I'll explain if the rest of you want.

And from France no less, where everyone assumes everyone is fucking, all the time.

Hookers count by the way - maybe time to consider the investment? Cheaper than marriage by far...

What a silly misconception about France. That is only because an American army was sent to France in 1917 and all the young farm boys were shocked at French (urban) sexual habits. Which probably differed little from Big City American sexual habits. The doughboys would have said the same about NYC no doubt if the Expeditionary Force had been sent there ... and the myth and big tales lived on ever after ... 😃

About hookers: what about masseuses? If working girls count, then do masseuses as well? I'd rather argue as not, as there is little reciprocity with a masseuse. Most don't undress. So what kind of 'sex' would that be?

Anyway, if some purists do want to count masseuses as sex partners, then add another 5 to my score. But personally I don't count them. Not out of any 'shame' or prudishness, but rather for an opposite reason: not to brag. Once you start paying for sex, it's easy to rack up an impressive score. The paid partners don't even have to like you at all.

About hookers: what about masseuses? If working girls count, then do masseuses as well? I'd rather argue as not, as there is little reciprocity with a masseuse. Most don't undress. So what kind of 'sex' would that be?

I agree. There has to be reciprocity.

Hookers count.

Getting jerked off by a masseuse/happy ending doesn't count.

Only one. Two, if threesomes count.

But we have sex like bunnies, anytime we come in contact.

If you fuck them both in a threesome, that counts.

About hookers: what about masseuses? If working girls count, then do masseuses as well? I'd rather argue as not, as there is little reciprocity with a masseuse. Most don't undress. So what kind of 'sex' would that be?

Yeah, agree with @SwitchableSusie , handjobs don't count; penetration of an orifice, especially to completion, is required.

That said, I've had some horrendous blowjobs and PIV action over the years in comparison to some of the expert happy endings I've received from skilled masseuses. And the ones I've had have usually stripped down and encouraged mutual 'respectful' (non-vaginal) touching. One in particular has these cantaloupe-size melons she incorporates into the grand finale, and I've never climaxed so hard as in her capable hands (and boobs). You can't tip high enough for that kind of talent.

But, a handjob is a handjob, and they still don't count.

27

Well if you count concentual and non I have had 7. I would guess that you have to put in the people that raped you also if you had sex with them.

About hookers: what about masseuses? If working girls count, then do masseuses as well? I'd rather argue as not, as there is little reciprocity with a masseuse. Most don't undress. So what kind of 'sex' would that be?

Anyway, if some purists do want to count masseuses as sex partners, then add another 5 to my score. But personally I don't count them. Not out of any 'shame' or prudishness, but rather for an opposite reason: not to brag. Once you start paying for sex, it's easy to rack up an impressive score. The paid partners don't even have to like you at all.

There are three types of masseuse.

Therapeutic- He/she is very professional, and will not do anything sexual.

The spa massage. For relaxation/stress/sore muscles. Will not do anything sexual.

The Happy Ending massage- If it's a four foot tall oriental girl in short shorts, and a push up bra- That's sex. Plain and simple.

Cowboy- Rape is not sex. It's a power trip, and assault that involves genitalia.

There's an easy way to tell if it's sex or not.

Tell you partner you got a handjob/ blow job etc. on your way home.

If all your belongings end up on the front lawn- It was sex.

Sorry but a happy ending by a masseuse is not having sex or her being a sex partner unless you fuck her.

A spouse accusing you of having sex when you had a happy ending is like a fat person telling his wife he had a few burgers at McDonalds on the way home from work and the wife calling that a gourmet meal.

She didn't really think it was a gourmet meal, but she didn't like that he was fat and had a meal on his way home before dinner.

It has been 7 different women for me in my life time, 2 of them were my former wife and my current wife. The other 5 were most casual sex or semi girlfriends...

Buttwoman said

There are a few responses that sound almost apologetic for having few partners.

I envy someone who has found true love, happiness, and sexual gratification with one/just a few, people.

However, if your answer is one, or a hundred, that's you. The way you were built, and wether it is nature, or nurture, it's all good.

First of all, I think of it like playing tennis. It's fun to play with someone a bit better than you so you can learn and experience more and have a challenge. On the other side of the coin, it's also fun to be a teacher.

Second, would you want to play tennis with the same partner all the time, never playing someone new?

Yeah, agree with @SwitchableSusie , handjobs don't count; penetration of an orifice, especially to completion, is required.

Sorry i have to go with Butwoman on this. If penetration is required I guess you are with Slick Willy then... I hope you know what "is" means though!! Lol

How would oral sex NOT count? It has the word 'sex' in it! And like Buttwoman said, every husband should go tell your wife you had a happy ending with a girl in an alley and then explain that you didn't have sex!

Partner - when two people work together towards a goal

Sex - an act that brings sexual pleasure, sometimes resulting in orgasm.

How is getting a hand job not a sexual partner?

if we talk 'intercourse' that is different and mean penis in anus or vagina. Does a mouth count? It's an orifice. And does intercourse have to be a penis? Strapons dont count?

Its all very complicated...

The Happy Ending massage- If it's a four foot tall oriental girl in short shorts, and a push up bra- That's sex. Plain and simple.

What about an erotic massage with no happy ending? Since a few months ago I have had several of these. There is lots of genital massaging, but I specifically request no happy ending. And it is not because I am trying to justify anything to myself - there is no one to hold me accountable anymore. It is just because I do not like orgasming in the middle of the day and then have to immediately go back on the city streets (or any streets for that matter) and walk back home. It would a major letdown having to do that, depressing.

So, I prefer a massage to be thorough and nude, but without a sexual climax. How would others here classify that? I've already told several friends of both genders about this pastime of mine and I get answers in the style of: good for you, it's time you started to enjoy yourself again. But never any mention of how it might be sex, nor do any see any indication that I'm two-timing any ladies I am now seeing/dating. And I don't think they are saying this to spare my feelings.

@agracier : I don't see anything wrong with what you're doing. It doesn't really matter if it's considered sex or not, though as for the ladies, if you're exclusive with her, I would consider erotic genital massage a breech of that. Otherwise, no harm, no foul.

@agracier That sure is a tricky one, but doesn't really matter at all since you are not exclusive with anyone. But if you are, I agree with Zika. It may not be sex, but it is cheating, imho.

i know if my wife/gf said she met a guy and he fondled her pussy and played with her clit, orgasm or not, I would NOT be happy! Of course, being the typical male double standarder, if she said a woman had fondled her, I'd want details and pictures!!!

@agracier : I don't see anything wrong with what you're doing. It doesn't really matter if it's considered sex or not, though as for the ladies, if you're exclusive with her, I would consider erotic genital massage a breech of that. Otherwise, no harm, no foul.

I don't see anything wrong either and as I said, I have no one who can hold me accountable anymore. My wife passed away almost 2 years ago and I have no exclusive, let alone an intimate friend again. I am what I guess should be called dating, but it's quite conventional, no sex or serious expectations of. Some of my female friends seem to treat me as a sort of gay boyfriend, meaning we exchange very personal information about desires and experiences, but with the unspoken knowledge it will not lead to anything more. But the honesty about intimate affairs is there. And it's nice actually as I've never been open before in that way.

Mainly I asked as it does seems a grey area.

As a professional musician in my youth, too many.

Later, after I got married and much later, divorced, not enough.