Does your bisexuality ebb, and flow?

I grew up thinking I was straight, my first sexual experiences with a guy were a bit 'meh' which was massively disappointing. A few months later I ended up sharing a bed with a close girl friend after a night of drinking & dancing and she put the moves on me, I just went with it. I can remember thinking "she's going to kiss me" and I let her, then I kissed her back, it was very pleasant and soft, she smelled good, I remember vividly her hair hanging down over my face when she was kissing me from above and thinking how different that felt to my boyfriend. Her hands were everywhere just squeezing my bum, legs, hips, stroking my back while we made out for a long time and it was incredible. Eventually she put her hands down my shorts and before long I had my first orgasm with another person. It was everything I had wanted my first experience to be like with my boyfriend. After that we continued sharing a bed either at her place, mine or mutual friends for a while, always after nights out, at this point I loved the intensity and chemistry of the sex and the excitement of knowing it was going to happen but I would say I definitely did not get turned on by the female body at that point, that only came quite a long time later.

I am comfortable calling myself bisexual now, I am married to a man and find him insanely hot and attractive, I look at other men and can find things I like about them, I admire a good physique but I think without that connection it doesn't generate that sexual desire in me. But I do get that when I see an attractive woman. I haven't been with a woman for about a year and a half but I fantasize about it still. It definitely ebbs and flows, sometimes it is all I can think about some days, and other times I realise I'm thinking about it for the first time in weeks. Not sure if my experience is common or unusual.

I've always enjoyed both men and women. I am only romantic with women, and love to be the girl for men. That is constant. It just depends on who I am with - their sex determines my interest! I've always just accepted that sex should be enjoyable, and love is to be accepted.

While my husband and I are completely monogamous and do not 'dally' outside of our marriage; we do admire members of both of the other sexes. And we discuss (privately) their 'attributes' : looks, physiques, dress and shoes, hair, make-up, piercings and other jewelry, presentation, his strut and/or her swish, his package, her camel toe, and anything else we can discern. We do find men and women attractive, but do not act on physical impulses until we get alone. Then we play our games, sometimes as two women, sometimes as two men, but mostly as wife and husband. We are both involved in civic and religious organizations and really don't want to be 'outed'. My husband is involved in programs involving youth who would not look favorable on him 'entertaining' men. So I 'entertain' him (and me) with our strap-on, 3 or 4 times a year.. Does that count as being 'bi-sexual' ? ? Sometimes he requests it, sometimes I tell him it is time. From my side, I have had a double mastectomy and reconstructive surgery, loosing both nipples; so that erogenous zone is no longer there. I sometimes I put him enfemme and we 'pretend' as if we are both females. I know it is not the real thing, but between his tongue and lips, nimble fingers, and our toys, he pretends to be my female lover and he is good at it. And I enjoy those sessions as often as we can. Another factor that plays into me being involved with a woman is the fact that I was a Labor and Delivery and gynecology nurse for about 40+ years. I have seen, smelled and handled more pussies than most men or women see in a life time. Some are shaved, and/or pierced; some have large clitoris's or labia. Some are very well shaped attractive and very pretty. I won't even begin to describe some others out of respect for them, and there are sometimes extenuating factors and circumstances that may have been beyond their control. But disease, cleanliness, and 'being rode hard and put up wet' are all factors that can be remedied. I could go on, however that is not the topic of this thread. While I adore and enjoy the female sex in many ways; suffice it to say, pussies are not my top choice of meal. We have interest in the other sexes, I guess it depends on your definition of 'bi-sexual ebb and flow'.

As a follow-up note to Nurse Phillips and Switchablesusie and others; I too find my husband's balls and scrotum to be wonderful and and powerful toys for our fascination and his pleasure and/or torment. Rolling them in my hands, kneading them back and forth, stretching, sucking and so much more can be both challenging and delightful for him and highly exhilarating and erotically stimulating for those of us who take the time to enjoy them (the perineum also). More women should try it and more men would enjoy it (as will the women). DommeOB

Yes it does, as my desire for sex either with a male or female fluctuates. My favorite is being with a bi male and a female, that combination produces some very hot sex.

@bagman925 I never thought of that combination. Like the two of them teasing for your attention.

I’m visiting this thread because I was looking for others who experience this ebb and flow. I certainly go through phases where I only crave the opposite sex. Then, out of nowhere I get the urge to watch gay porn and start craving same sex action.