I don't, for the reason it's my private time, my enjoyment , and with everything that goes on around my house I don't get a release in very often , but when the time presents itself , I take advantage of it .
When my wife and I enjoyed sex together, sometimes it involved mutual masturbation - masturbating each other and ourselves. But, when left to my own devices masturbating by myself, I've never mentioned it to her. Heck, in our living room the couch is positioned closer to the TV than the recliner. She lays on the couch facing 180Ā° away from me and toward the TV. I sit in the recliner about 6' behind her and that much further from the TV. I often masturbate in the recliner while watching porn on my laptop; and, she has no idea (I keep the sound completely off.). Remember, I cannot get an erection so it's not as though I'm beating off like I'm running a race. I'm not going to cum; so, I don't have to catch and dispose of a load of cum. I just sit here watching porn and gently masturbating. There are times I've probably masturbated for an hour in this situation. If she caught me, so be it. I'd just keep on keeping on. It's just not something I feel the need to tell her about; but, it's not something I'd go to the ends of the earth to hide from her.
If I feel like masturbating, my wife expects me to ask her to provide that service and frowns on me relieving myself, unless either of us is away.
I do but not all the time. I think he gets it that I do it pretty often by now. I tell him anyway in the hopes that he'll get interested and start conversation about it with me. Doesn't work too well yet, so I might just stop saying stuff and just start routinely masturbating in front of him. š
@ppillowrockerDoesn't work too well yet, so I might just stop saying stuff and just start routinely masturbating in front of him. šMy husband and I have a king sized bed I started masturbating around him in bed along towards early mornings. My husband would wake up a little and I could tell by his breathing that he was listening to me as I worked myself up. I would pretend that I believed he was not aware of what I was doing. Then I worked up the courage to masturbate while we were on the couch just hanging out with each other and that would lead to other things.But at that time I would usually begin masturbating in front of him to initiate other things and it would work and he would take me 'the rest of the way.' š However we both got into our new lifestyle where almost anything goes and masturbation is one of those things we enjoy.We only call it masturbation when we do it individually without the help of the other but it can and more often now, be in front of the other. When we masturbate each other then we call that foreplay or part of our sex. Most of the times I masturbate in front of him are when I am doing enemas. As a matter of fact I mostly masturbate when I am having an enema.
I dont tell my spouse only because thats not the kind of relationship we have . We are not very open with each other like that and we probably both feel indifferent to when we each masturbate .With a lover yes I would tell him. Not everytime , unless he asked . And I would definitely include him ! It can be a very yummy part of foreplay or with a text describing what you are doing is a great way to get him going throughout the day leading up to the main event .There is a very sexy scene in the movie We Own The Night when Joaquin Pheonix walks in on Eva Mendes masturbating and he helps her out šH O T !!!!
Then I worked up the courage to masturbate while we were on the couch just hanging out with each other and that would lead to other things.There is a very sexy scene in the movie We Own The Night when Joaquin Pheonix walks in on Eva Mendes masturbating and he helps her out šH O T !!!!Sounds like we started in the same place Ms Lila. Thanks for sharing your progression and growth. I'm getting there little by little.Now I gotta go watch that movie! LOL!
I always tell my wife . As I tell her what I have done I stroke my cock as I explained every detail to her . She loves to watch and makes me cum all over myself. Also I love when she catches me jerking off and sticking a big dildo in and out of my ass . She knows when I'm going to cum so she will purposely bust in stops me so I can't cum till she tells me to and that isn't till she is satisfied
No,she,d freak for sure. She won,t even give me a hand job. Apparently someone told her that a man should only cum in vagina or mouth for some reason,I suspect something to do with religion. So I do it on the sly.Jim.
When I masturbate my wife always wants to know as she loves to see me cum all over myself. She usually teases me if she catches me without telling her. If she catches me she will stroke me for a few times and then stops or she will start giving me a blow job and when she knows I am close she stops and walks away. It is horrible so it is best she knows.
Apparently someone told her that a man should only cum in vagina or mouth for some reason,I suspect something to do with religion.I can't think of any religion that mandates or encourages ejaculation in the mouth. If there were one, it ought to be very fast growing ... ha ha. At most I'd say there are religions that pretend it doesn't really occur or treat it as inconsequential. Some will even condemn oral sex and ejaculation into the mouth ...So, the oral part sounds like it has an origin somewhere else. I bet it might be a difficult conversation trying to find out where though ... š
If there were one, it ought to be very fast growing ... šI think in most countries, oral sex has hit 100% saturation. It can't grow much. Who doesn't do it?
I think in most countries, oral sex has hit 100% saturation. It can't grow much. Who doesn't do it?When I was growing up in the 1960s, oral sex was still very much considered something less than ordinary, maybe even sophisticated or borderline kinky. There were, in any case, many books published on the subject.So it really did grow quite a bit since then, at least in the public perception of acceptance. But aside from the change over the decades, I don't think any religion actually considers oral sex to be the correct manner of having sex. It might be tolerated, but not encouraged.
Agracier: Also oral sex was a crime in some jurisdictions (most of the US, as far as I know)... In any case, my mother found the idea of a man licking his wife disgusting and perverted!
Agracier: Also oral sex was a crime in some jurisdictions (most of the US, as far as I know)... In any case, my mother found the idea of a man licking his wife disgusting and perverted!That was a problem when there were laws that vaguely described what they were prohibiting in the first place, because of not wishing to upset delicate sensibilities. Also because vague laws are useful at times, if you want to convict someone who hasn't done anything wrong.That's what happens with laws that prohibit things like sodomy (which could mean just about anything other than PIV sex in some places) or the catch-all, crimes against Nature - and they weren't talking about polluting rivers or dumping chemicals back then.
Oral sex a crime? The Kinsey Report described a guy who got a blow job from his wife (this would have been in the 1940's). She told her mother, who hated her son-in-law. She reported him to the cops, there was a trial, and he got 2 years in jail. Note that a wife cannot testify against a husband, and vice-versa. Note that the mother's testimony was hearsay, which is not allowed in court. Two years for a blow-job. In the land of the free and --- oh what the hell.
Two years for a blow-job. In the land of the free and --- oh what the hell.Why do you think a recent candidate for governor - or was it a rep (?) but never mind that detail - thought it would be a good idea if he promised that when elected he would make oral sex illegal? I think it was in Virginia.He was not elected (duh) and was a laughing-stock (for a while anyway), but all that aside, it is sobering and pretty scary as well, to realize there are politicians who think such kind of laws would be a good idea to enact again. It's not that such laws are easily enforceable, but they do lend themselves to blackmailing situations very easily and would be wonderful devices for divorce lawyers.
I don't tell my wife when I masturbate. Though she knows that pretty much every time I take a shower that I masturbate. So I guess by letting her know I'm going to take a shower I am telling her?
I tell my spouse when I masturbate if he asks. Most of the time if he asks me what I'm doing. I tell him the truth. I am his baby and he is my daddy.
Although we are not married yet, my girlfriend lives with me so it really seems as if she is my spouse. Sometimes I will tell and sometimes I don't. I have done it in front of her and she had done it in front of me. She has a hard time getting off without a vibrator so I see her more often than she sees me.
Iām not in the habit of telling my wife every time I masturbate, quite frankly she would probably get sick and tired of hearing it everyday.
I do not tell my wife when I masturbate. We are in our 60s, and grew up when nobody talked about sex, in the US. We have both told each other that we masturbate, but do not tell each other when we do.
Iām not in the habit of telling my wife every time I masturbate, quite frankly she would probably get sick and tired of hearing it everyday.XxxxXXX, that's hilarious! Reminds me of when my wife and I were in our 20s.Unless I'm masturbating to porn, (which is my least preferable option), or she's asleep or away, I usually tell my honey that I need to give myself a good orgasm, and I invite her to watch or help. She enjoys both. If she declines, it's just due to disinterest or busyness. She usually accepts my invitation, and she usually prefers helping to watching. When she helps, about half the time she'll get horny before I cum and we'll end up fucking, (usually a really good one.) All four possible outcomes are win-wins for us, so why not advertise before I masturbate?
We are more open after all these years so sometimes I tell her I am going to masturbate. I ask her if she wants sex or for me to masturbate her first. Sometimes she wii come watch or help, sometimes not.She never tells me what she does, which is usually not much as she seems to be satisfied with what we do together. It would be fine with me if she did it whenever she wanted to.