ENEMAS: Give it, Get it, Watch it or Be Watched

What do or would you prefer in consensual enema play and why?

From the giver's point of view: Prescribe an enema and give it... or administer after being asked for an enema? Or ask if the receiver wants one?

From the receiver's point of view: Receive because the giver decided you need one... or ask for an enema and get it? Or be asked if you want one and approve?

Any enema play would have to be after a TWO WAY discussion of what is going to happen BEFORE it happens withe EITHER person able to veto any one thing.

Nothing else is really FULLY consensual.

ANY non-consensual sex is abusive BY DEFINITION!!

LISAK said

Any enema play would have to be after a TWO WAY discussion of what is going to happen BEFORE it happens withe EITHER person able to veto any one thing.

Nothing else is really FULLY consensual.

ANY non-consensual sex is abusive BY DEFINITION!!

Consent does NOT have to be written or verbal.

Consent can simply be allowing an activity to proceed.

"No" does NOT mean "no" in a consensual S&M scene.

In a consensual S&M scene, the safeword means no.

I would be on the receiver side primarily. For me enemas come bundled up with BDSM stuff so being 'forced' to take one would be my ideal. i.e. I would consent to being forced to take an enema.

Strapped down, gagged, no escape as the tube is inserted, inflated and then I'm informed what I'll be taking. The fear as the flow starts and the inevitability of itnentering me with no escape or release until the Mistress/nurse decides. I'd happily consent to that!

Humiliation sub here so definitely a receiver. For me, to be told I'm getting an enema for whatever reason would be the ultimate experience for me. I think being forced to receive, even with a consensual prior arrangement, for me is the excitement and experience I want. But then again, I am a submissive. Asking for one seems to be more of a mutual agreement and not really a submission. If someone asks if I want one, again it's a mutual thing and not really submission, plus I would almost certainly always agree to one. So a mutual agreement is to be on an equal level regardless of who requests and who gives permission. Being told you are getting an enema is to submit to someone. So in my case definitely being told and submitting to an enema would be my preference.

With a submissive ..

As a giver, I never ask if they want an enema, they are given an enema(s) as I deem appropriate. It is always a nice surprise if they as for an enema.

As a receiver, I generally direct the submissive to what she needs to do, I maybe on the receiving end but have not abdicated control.

with a frolicking partner ...

it is just "play" and enemas are asked for or given as the whim's of the participants. It is just an ebb and flow activities desired.

Consensual means "with consent or with approval; not forced"; non-consensual means "forced, without approval" (think "rape" as non-consensual).

With enema play between two people, the receiver and giver usually already know what the other's desires are. These are expressed in on-line chats, phone calls and even casual meets well in advanced of a play meet. If an enema is "forced" on a play partner, in all likelihood the giver has already learned from the receiver that this is a desired act or dialogue.

As for what is asked (e.g., "I'm going to prescribe an enema."), this is learned from initial contacts between the two parties. The giver already knows what the receiver wants and how he/she wants it carried out so the question becomes part of a pre-planned script where the dialogue is already determine to bring as much reality to the parties' fantasies. What is asked or said is determined by what each already desires.

Alex

I agree with SwitchableSusie, consent (or refusal) doesn't have to be verbal or written. I also think having to sign documents (or anything very formal) before any activity of that nature is an absolute turn off; it is a sign of lack of trust and I would never play with someone that do not trust me or that I can't trust.

In a consensual play situation, I find it more thrilling to go with the flow (pun intended). As a giver I may announce the next step of the exam or treatment. But also I may leave some details out to create a more submissive feeling when some aspects are taking place. Announcing the steps create some anticipation that can also be pleasant.

As patient, I like the element of surprise (or realization of what I was secretly hoping for) enhancing the feeling of what is happening.

From a giver perspective, I do not like to have to 'ask' as it gets too close to a formalism that gets in the way of the feeling. The same applies when I am the patient. Too much asking for approval gets in the way of the feeling and I like medfet play for the feeling.

So, as doctor, prescribe and give it and, as a patient, have it prescribed and have it given.

When role playing with someone most of the discussion should already be done before the time of play. That way you get a feeling for how comfortable each is in their role. I prefer to play a somewhat resistant submissive who must be controlled and dominated by way of discipline and/or enema punishment. I prefer to know options though no exactly what will be. If various discipline implements are present then I may expect to receive discipline like that. If various enema equipment is present as well as suppositories or laxatives, then they may be used. For example expect to get castor oil, if present, or expect a bar d ex, if present. If you don't like an option say so. If you're feeling very uncomfortable say so. There should be an agreement to stop if beyond your limits.

What would you prefer to give someone an enema or watch someone get one. Or would you prefer to get an enema or be watched get an enema?? I guess for me never having given an enema except to myself I would like to try that. I have been watched getting one. I have seen others get one. I of course have gotten plenty off them over the years.

I have never been watched by anyone while getting an enema, other than my partner when he is giving it to me. Nor have I ever watched anyone else being given an enema.

However, as a submissive, I would really enjoy being given an enema before a small audience. This would really bring out my submissive side, especially if done in a punishment type scenario.

In addition, I would like to see another female submissive being given an enema in the same situation

I've experienced everything you mention. I've found all of it, any of it, to be incredibly erotic.

Yes!

I agree, and in that order!

None of the above

I strongly prefer to self-administer in private

I want to give an enema to very receptive female who is receiving clitoral and anal stimulation during the admin.

by finger vibrator with the subject on her knees and stroking her clit with the vibrator and anally with a finger vibrator attached to the tubing/nozzle so the water is vibrating as well along with being inserted and withdrawn during the enema

when it comes time to expel 1st enema on the throne she could expect very involved clit stimulation with a high speed vibrator or

Hitachi style massager 2nd enema maybe a bath tub expulsion clitoral and vaginal stimulation with and insertable in the vagins and massager on the clit for the A plus session vibrating anal beads fully inserted in the rectum for some retention of the solution

then upon start of the orgasm full release just as the oragsm hits

It would seem if the partner is not anal erotic it becomes forced I wouldn't want to be there, just ran into that situation the girl did it because of an arrangement there was no connection which was a complete turn off for me had a girl that was erotic giving her oral and fingering her rectally when she came she almost broke my wrist there is a monster difference if the girl doesn't get off there's no point to me that' s the whole game how hard she cums and how many times

I would volunteer to demo receiving a enema at an e-fest. Think it would be exciting! 😜

I think consensual is pretty important. One's limits should be laid out before play begins. Of course if you are interested in pushing your limits, that's good too, as long as you trust the giver and their judgement. For me the first time I play with someone, I tell them or have them tell me when something is too much and that gets respected. As time goes on in a relationship or play relationship, safe words are appropriate, but at first until we get to know each other better, no means no, stop means stop.

I am rather uninhibited so I have taken an enema in front of two women -- the enema giver and another -- I bet a dozen times. I have taken a bag in front of three women twice, having to produce proof of my spend as I held my enema on as many occasions. After the first time it is easy if you are with people who relish mutual respect. For the record, there is never any of the yelling, or humiliation you might find in cheap porno films. These people appreciate the scene.

I like to take my enemas in private. I haven't had anyone willing to engage in being a part of enema. I'd love to have a woman to be part of it one giving and receiving

For me the big reason to watch or be watched would be to learn technique or be a part of teaching it. For give vs get I'd probably choose get, though I'd give if someone was interested. Context would be very important for choosing who I would be comfortable getting an enema from or giving one to.

Yes, Yes, Yes and Yes, in any order !

In a one on one situation, communication is important. Telling each other what is expected, how it is prepared, how it feels while it flows in. When roles reverse, same consideration.

Afterwards both smile and plan for another round. It’s great communication and excitement. Love it.

I've always liked being seen 'accidentally' getting an enema to a point. When I was younger I was a bit shy. Not so much now.

A few years ago I was camping along a river with friends. I got there a day early and found a lovely secluded spot screened by trees on three sides. I hung my bag on a tree, laid down, inserted and began to flow. Sure enough I soon heard a noise and looked up to see a guy walking down a trail above me that I'd overlooked. Good thing I had covered my rear with a coat just in case.

I looked up, smiled slightly and watched the guy stare for a second then move on. It was obvious what I was doing lying on the ground nude except for the coat cover with a big red bag and hose leading to me.

Later that night or the next, I'd had a bit to drink and smoke so I got up the courage to take my bag out to the campfire, hang it, lie down (butt covered again) and take an enema in front of four other guys. They didnt' say anything. Not even when I asked one of them to squeeze the bag as he went by.

Today I'm very fortunate. I have a boyfriend whom I love very much who will give me enemas whenever I want. He'll even take one sometimes too. He's not really into them butt does it for me. There are pics of us in my album here.

I'd enjoy giving rather than just watching. On the other hand, I love being watched getting an enema but only by my (usually Domme) partner. She loves making me feel dominated and humiliated by filling my belly before making me give her orgasms.

Eric

I'd like to be watched getting a large volume enema series from the skilled hands of a nurse. It has never happened, unfortunately. On the other hand, I have a hard time holding enema water, so maybe it is just s well - I would have been a really crummy example.

I once had an old fashioned straight-tube sigmoidoscopy in front of about 20 cute teenage candystripers. It was unexpected but very exciting for me, and for them as well, given the wide eyes of the stripers after the "performance." I bowed and they laughed and clapped. The main nurse, she must have been Nurse Ratchet, was not amused.

All of them

I would prefer to give and then its my turn to be on the receiving end

In truth, would far rather be on the receiving end and I would be willing to be watched. However, if someone did wish that I be the giver, I would be willing.