Are older men more interested in being Bisexual

Older men can lose their potency and male sex drive as the testosterone level declines. This makes us more likely to give into whatever tendency we might have had toward a bisexual orientation.

I don’t buy this either. Don’t see a correlation in loss of sex drive resulting in an increased interest to bisexual activity. I would think that perhaps a loss of intimacy in a marriage might make some look for other options, but they would still have an active sex drive.

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I would love to find a small group of men, aged around 55 and on up, to hang out nude with sometimes. Masturbation (mutual or self) okay/encouraged, “other activities” okay too, mutual respect to accept or decline.

I guess I won't be considered “older” by some of the Zity folks, but I'm turning forty-five next month, and I still have no interest in being bisexual. Good on those who do, though, as it leaves them more options.

I feel the ability to perform has no relationship to sexual preference. If you are a senior guy (or any age) and think because you can't keep an erection bisexuality is going to be your answer- think again, it probably means that you have been bi-sexual or gay for a long time and this just you an excuse to act out on it. What is the difference between not keeping an erection with a woman or a man?

I find my self attracted to male penises ( hard) now that I am older

Yes me too; especially if it's sticking out of a girdle or pair of classic full-cut women's panties. A man's body does not excite me otherwise.

Interesting thread. I am over 70 and have been a very content bi sexual my whole life. Started with a good buddy at age 12 or less where we masterbated together and I got regularly fucked which I learned to absolutely love. However soon discovered girls and still enjoy both. Still love having sex with my wife of 55 years but at same time absolutely love a hard cock in my ass. I just melt in a mans embrace. My ass enjoys attention and when I can't have man sex I enjoy a butt plug for hours. I just love sex LOL.

I would love to find a small group of men, aged around 55 and on up, to hang out nude with sometimes. Masturbation (mutual or self) okay/encouraged, “other activities” okay too, mutual respect to accept or decline.

Wouldn't we all? I'd like a group of guys and for me to be the middle of a circle jerk.

I think a few things combine to make older men now more interested in Bisexuality. Most grew up in times when male/male sex was either illegal or else highly disapproved of. The ‘bi curious’ woman was somehow seen as more sexual not less so; but a male partner who also had sex with other men was not something many women would tolerate. Even in this enlightened forum, certain users have told men expressing such leanings to ‘face what they are’ etc, as if ambiguity was not allowed.

Fast forward a few decades and bisexuality etc is far more acceptable. Plus their female partners, if they still have one, may not be nearly as sexual as they once were. They look around and find other older men in the same situation.

My thoughts on this subject have certainly changed as I grow older.

I find my self attracted to male penises ( hard) now that I am older…

Thinking about this I have to wonder how much a part does the easy access we have via the web to where we can see photos and videos of erections. As such, images seen on a screen are isolated from the reality of actually being in the presence of another male.

Thinking about this I have to wonder how much a part does the easy access we have via the web to where we can see photos and videos of erections. As such, images seen on a screen are isolated from the reality of actually being in the presence of another male.

I think you have a very good point. An impressive erection may well look attractive on screen, but the big hairy bloke it is attached to might make less pleasant company. The web makes it much easier to indulge in fantasies that might never realistically happen.

@BulgeInPants An impressive erection may well look attractive on screen, but the big hairy bloke it is attached to might make less pleasant company.

Yes - exactly, having been there, done that as they say. I also think we give off pheromones and we seek the sweet scent of our sexual opposite…

To be honest I started having sex with other men because it was a lot easier to hook up. Then nature took over and I couldn't get hard anymore so not being able to satisfy anyone that way I changed. I started to bottom and I can't lie, I love it.

I finally get excited about sex. Before I guess I was just going through the motions. So I guess getting older wasn't such a bad thing after all.

In another thread about monogamy @Phoenix7 wrote:

Monogamy evolved as a way to provide a stable and protective environment for child rearing where a couple can focus their limited resources into bringing up their children and also later descendants.

Several others have theorized that everyone is bisexual - it is just suppressed by societal constraints, religion etc. When children leave home and child rearing responsibilities for both spouses decrease, do the natural human instincts of expanding their sexual experiences - both heterosexual and bi-sexual - manifest and come into play?? Not sure how true all these assumptions are - but if you put them together it makes for a reasonable argument.

Most likely the same arguments (if indeed those arguments are valid) would hold for women the same as they do for men. If the assumptions that mankind (including women) have both a “bisexual” seed and are not sexually monogamous - except for societal indoctrination are true, then as women age and the children leave the nest one becomes more free to explore either bisexual or other heterosexual relationships.

I do not know the answer to this question but can give you information from my own experience.

I had sex with my best friend back in grade school when we traded blow jobs as often as we could. I enjoyed my time with him but still lusted after women. This was back in the 60's and I did not know about bisexuality untill later. It was after that when I finally was able to understand my sexuality and acknowledge my being BI.

I married a great gal and thought that I could ignor my bisexual needs for cock and cum. As time has passed, I find it much harder to ignor these needs and wanting to suck a nice cock and swallow some cum once again. BTW - I have always swallowed my own cum when I masturbate just because I love it so much and also thought this would keep me satisified. It has not completely kept me satidified.

Is this a function of my older age or just because it has been a long time since I had a cock to suck? IDK.

Definitely yes

I would love to get with other older men for intimate play. I’ve not had any sexual intimacy with my wife (or ANY warm body) in many years…. My wife is just not interested when I try to spark things up. With me having ED, I get no sexual pleasure except when playing with my plug and dildo…which I must do only when I can get some privacy. She would freak out if she knew I do this! So having some nice, sensual anal sex with an older guy, who can still get hard, would be something I might enjoy on a regular basis. At least I’d like to give it a try! I know there are some older guys out there who would like it, too.

I've been bi for over 60 years. I have loved girls and made love to many. I have enjoyed men, but only their penis and testicles. I loved having a nice cock in me (mouth and ass), but was never attracted to men except for sex. I never had my cock in a man or boy!. But in plenty of girls. Now my cock is pretty well useless, but my GF loves me to make love to her - I think of it as being like a lesbian. I enjoy her and she love to play with my shrunken cock and balls, and my ass. I still think of getting a man in my ass, but really am satisfied with my GF's attention. Growing old but still enjoying sex is wonderful. Just have to change expectations. I can make love to her much longer than I ever could when I was using my cock. And I never lose interest as I used to when I “finished”!

It's exactly as TM48 told it. Some women lose interest in sex as they age, or become very reluctant to participate. It's much different with most men, and they miss the intimacy. I know a couple of friends who faced this exact problem but also didn't want to cheat on their wives with another woman. The only way out was to try out a sexual adventure with another man when the opportunity arose. My acquaintances aren't actually gay or bisexual, and they only cared about sexual satisfaction. If I now imagine that men who are about to meet somewhere, in a relevant cinema, in a sauna or somewhere in the dunes, then these encounters will happen. And I still think that's much better than separating from your partner.

....in addition, a sexual adventure between men is more non-binding; there is mostly no love involved and no other feelings towards each other. You meet, masturbate together, maybe there's a blowjob or (rarely) anal sex, then everyone goes their own way and that's it. With women it is very often much more complicated.

I have noticed that as I age the idea of male to male interactions are no longer frightening, taboo or what ever. I have never had sex with a man but I imagine with the right person it could be very exciting and

male to male interactions are no longer frightening, taboo or what ever.

In an odd way, it was those very things that became intriguing - along with my wearing women's undergarments 😈