Are older men more interested in being Bisexual

Like a lot of people, my first sexual exploration was with another guy, although we went to some lengths to remind each other there was nothing gay about it. This was in the 1970s. Even as we masturbated together, there was always a girlie magazine spread out. I don't know about him, but I was watching his penis at least as much as the girl in the picture.

I had one extended sexual same sex relationship, with a married a professor when I was in college. It never felt natural to me, and I was always seeing women as well.

Eventually I got married and had kids, and didn't think much about guys. But as I think more about my med fetish, it is definitely connected to male sexuality. I love being examined by a male doc. So I guess it's something I'll explore now that I have more time and feel more open about it.

Yes, I believe so. I lost a bet some years ago, and my forfeit was to sub to a gay guy who was a part of our group of friends. As a lifelong straight Dom, you can imagine the ribald comments from the rest of the gang, and the look of glee on the winners face! Anyway, we fixed a date and I turned up, shaking! I had been thinking about what might be about to happen, and the more I thought about it, the more aroused I became. I was shocked at my own reaction, and confused about where this might be going.

I was led upstairs to the playroom, and treated to two hours of submission, access all areas. Some pain, but a lot of pleasure!

I have thought of that evening ever since. It began the broadening of my sexual attitudes, and now I am firmly a bi switch..

How and why, I don't know. I never expected this seismic shift. But it happened, and I am enjoying a much wider range of pleasures, with a much wider range of friends. I certainly wouldn't change back!

I have noticed since I was a teenager and continuing into my 40s that more older married men tend to seem to try to find sex with younger guys. I have had a lot of guys in their 60s and older try to cruise me in public restrooms. They try to get a look at my penis at the urinals or will sit in the toilet stall next to me and make a hand motion or their feet to hook up. Since I like to show my penis and get a hand job from another guy, I will frequently accommodate them.

I have noticed since I was a teenager and continuing into my 40s that more older married men tend to seem to try to find sex with younger guys. I have had a lot of guys in their 60s and older try to cruise me in public restrooms. They try to get a look at my penis at the urinals or will sit in the toilet stall next to me and make a hand motion or their feet to hook up. Since I like to show my penis and get a hand job from another guy, I will frequently accommodate them.

@exam_doc Wow, that's a pretty big condemnation of gay/bi men! That they have no social abilities and resort to propositioning innocent men just using a restroom. Many religious groups would love to use this as evidence for homosexuality to be a perversion worthy of prosecution, like pedophelia!

I always liked to believe that gay people are like everyone else, that they might talk to those with common interests, maybe decide about an attraction and meet, not that they practically assault or traumatize random strangers in bathrooms!!

Am I wrong??

I have to agree with @CJ1999 here, you have just painted gay men in a very very awful light... And that is a group you belong to! I doubt you fully intended to cast gay men in this predatory light (again, a group that includes you), but that's certainly how it could be viewed.

I always liked to believe that gay people are like everyone else, that they might talk to those with common interests, maybe decide about an attraction and meet, not that they practically assault or traumatize random strangers in bathrooms!!

Am I wrong??

Given I'm a female, I just wanted it to go on the record that straight men can be just as disgustingly behaved, and in no way should this be thought of as an LGBTQ+ problem. I can't state how many boys/men this has happened to, but I can state with confidence it's happened to as many women and girls, if not more.

I have had a desire to be female for a very long time. Although as I get older my desires for sex as Lisa is overwhelmingly. I never thought a cock would feel so good in me especially sucking. I truly enjoy cherishing my lovers hard gift.

I'm certainly more interested. My goto JO fantasy is serially sitting down on several well endowed males in a very dark adult movie house.

Actually Prov1 you kind of have it backwards. Men at age 15-30 have raging hormones and testosterone output is highest at this point in life. Women at this age do not have the same sex drive and they are biologically mature enough for sex but don't have the raging hormones that men do except for when they are ovulating. Male testosterone tapers off between age 30-40 and up, and males are no longer as interested in sex. But for women, pre and post menopause is their horniest time. So older men get your sex toys out because your older woman bride ain't ready to hang it up she's just gettin started.......

But being in public crowded places, often doesn't stop people shouting obscenities at young girls, so even an obviously lewd gesture is more subtle than "SUCK MY COCK!!!".

Seriously, no matter the hour, I've never heard people shouting obscenities at girls in public places.

I do however live in a small narrow street which seems to be a favorite place to come and hang out or else to conduct a break-up. That is when I hear obscenities. And lots of sobbing and crying and recriminations. But those are one-on-one affairs.

Seriously, no matter the hour, I've never heard people shouting obscenities at girls in public places.

I do however live in a small narrow street which seems to be a favorite place to come and hang out or else to conduct a break-up. That is when I hear obscenities. And lots of sobbing and crying and recriminations. But those are one-on-one affairs.

In areas with a concentration of bars, nightclubs etc where the nightlife is busy, it's actually hard to miss hearing the colourful language, remarks and comments being directed at women, usually the more attractive ones. It's far less common during the daytime, but on weekend evenings after people have been drinking copious amounts of alcohol, there is much more of it.

Shop doorways and quiet side streets are also favourite places for little bust-ups or domestic arguments to be conducted - again alcohol fuelled.

In areas with a concentration of bars, nightclubs etc where the nightlife is busy, it's actually hard to miss hearing the colourful language, remarks and comments being directed at women, usually the more attractive ones. It's far less common during the daytime, but on weekend evenings after people have been drinking copious amounts of alcohol, there is much more of it.

Shop doorways and quiet side streets are also favourite places for little bust-ups or domestic arguments to be conducted - again alcohol fuelled.

@DrZ described it well. I didn't mean to imply this was a daily occurrence, or something that happens in every place all the time, but that it does happen, and not so infrequently that it can be brushed off as a unique event.

My original point wasn't that women can't go about normal day-to-day life because of being harangued, just that it happens occasionally involving heterosexual pairs (myself and a man, sometimes older men) to illustrate that gay men don't just hang around in toilets to prey on boys.

I am super bi still have no interest whatsoever in being with a manly man, but the idea of using a man's cock or being fisted very much appeals to me....I would need a guy with at least a 10" cock as i love it real deep......the idea of a guy coming in my ass as i ride his huge 10" hard cock is very appealing too..... i guess there are shemales for me right......

I often fantasize about sucking cock, swallowing a load of cum, and having a nice hard cock up my ass. However, those fantasies always involve a transsexual. At the very least I am bi curious. Unless my wife (12 years my junior) predeceases me, those will remain unfulfilled fantasies. I never had fantasies like this until about 10 or 12 years ago.

I find my self attracted to male penises ( hard) now that I am older and can no longer get hard! I have always been BI curious, but more and more I want to be a sissy cock sucker. Do other men have this fantasy much more often in older age?

i'm a gay bottom, though i spent most of my life married to a woman where i was the 'top,' so i am very familiar with the dynamic. For me, wanting to suck a mans penis has nothing to do with age, nor has it ever. And, not that the OP was implying this, i don't think "sissy" and "cock sucker" are synonymous or necessarily related.

i think of "sissy" as being effeminate. i hooked with a guy who fucked me a couple of times several years ago and was a strict top. He liked to 'talk dirty' while fucking, but had a sort of whiny, effeminacy to his voice that struck me as incongruent.

i'm pretty much wired bottom, love to suck cock, but i'm not what i consider "sissy." i wish i had half as many guys who have been attracted to me as women. No one seems to realize i am gay unless i tell them, and even then they are surprised. i guess i just don't have any of those stereotypical ("sissy") attributes that are traditionally associated with being gay. i don't think of myself as 'butch' either, but "sissy" is not something i am or aspire to be. i say that neutrally. i've met guys, like the one described above, who are gay, top and 'fem' (though i don't really associate that word with female), and guys who are exclusively straight and kinda sissy, i.e., "sissy" doesn't necessarily go with "cock sucker."

For me it's the energy and dynamic between Top and bottom that is so powerful. There's a strong mind fuck component to it for me, i.e., a Top is both physically and emotionally 'Top' and a 'bottom' is physically and emotionally bottom.

i've been with a few Dom guys who were into 'forced effeminacy,' and it thoroughly turned me on. It wasn't me being sissy that turned me on, it was their lust to have me be something that they molded or controlled. I.e., it wasn't my desire or idea of wanting to be something, it was their desire and idea of wanting me to be something that had me responding and wanting to submit.

I believe that there's some truth in this. An interesting self-revelation comes in the second volume of the great 19C philosopher Schopenhauer's major work, 'The World as Will and Representation', where he admits to lately having sexual feelings towards young men - although he adds that of course he suppresses those feelings! (Schopenhauer never married although he is thought to have fathered at least one child.)

As you get older your perspective may naturally broaden. Hmm. I had gay feelings from boyhood, and for a long while had only such feelings. I still harbour and enjoy those feelings, in a role-playing context, but find that some of my women friends are also attractive, especially in terms of my principal fetish (odontophilia)!

- Ken

@tallslenderguy Thank you for articulating how complicated human sexuality is! It's not as simple as getting older changes things... it was most likely always there and suppressed, consciously or subconsciously.

And gay doesn't mean sissy. Two very masculine men can be gay with no bottom/top, d/s dynamic at all!! They are simply guys that are attracted to other guys, even if one only receives.

Granted I'm hetero but I have a feeling every person in the world is slightly different in their sexuality, just like snowflakes.

I am older and not bi-curious at all.

I have to admit that this has been something that has turned me on more and more lately. To the point that I sucked my first cock about 4 months ago (35 year old I met online). Loved making him cum in my mouth and felt very damn good cumming in his. I will do it again if the opportunity arises.

I've always been turned on at the thought of being examined by male doctors, at least going back to my teenage years. But it wasn't until my mid-40s (when I discovered this site) that I considered actually meeting another male for a homosexual encounter. (For the sake of this discussion I'm going to consider a play exam and a handjob a homosexual encounter.)

What I don't know is what factor my age played in my decision. Would I have met another man for an exam had I discovered this site in my 20s or 30s? Who knows. My wife and I were also a lot more sexually active back then so I'm certain a lack of physical gratification at home has played a role in my seeking out other men and recent conversion to "heteroflexibility."

I think it's easier to admit to yourself your homosexual instincts when you're older and self-assured than when you're young. In junior highschool and highschool "pédé" (homosexual) was a huge insult.

In junior highschool and highschool "pédé" (homosexual) was a huge insult.

What about 'jeanette' ? That was the standard taunt in Belgian high school. It took me several years before i found out what it meant ... ha ha

Interesting discussion, and something that has intrigued me more over the last few years. Other than a number of group masturbation sessions as a young teen, both male only and mixed several times and one session of sucking a friends cock at 13 or 14, I have not had any male on male experiences in spite of having a number of gay friends and come ons from others. I'm a retired RN, not shy about touching genitals just never had any desire to try . The last few years I've had increasing interest in sucking cock and swallowing cum loads and/or getting off myself being sucked and stroked by a male. For a while my wife seemed interested in MMF action, but that has waned as her interest in any sexual activity has dwindled and never came to fruition. Her interest now is down to once every couple of weeks getting off twice first with oral and then fucking and getting back to her detective novel.

I'd like to find someone to have a bi relationship with but its probably never going to happen in the small isolated town I live in.

I’ve noticed as I get older the attraction towards men has increased over the years. Maybe it’s the novelty of having a threesome with a bi guy and a woman stimulates my interest

Over the weekend we went to a pool party, there were about 10-15 gay guys (young) there. I was attracted to the shaved chest of one as his nipple jiggled while he walked, not him persey but just his NIPPLE! It got me a little excited even at 70!

I wonder if the guy in my previous post thought about MY 70 yr old chubby titties?

I can honestly say I have never had those thoughts. To each their own!

I always considered myself heterosexual but recently I have found myself very attracted and aroused by watching guys wash themselves in the gym shower. I particularly like looking at circumcised penises

I have chatted with several older men. Here is what I have learned.

As men get older and have ED, their ability to have sex diminishes, and the options for any kind of sexual activity with a woman is almost nonexistent. So what they turn to is meeting up with men and giving oral or in some cases, receiving anal. That gives them some mental sexual gratification, even if they don't orgasm.

Watching a guy ejaculate is also rewarding due to it reminding them of when they used to be able to do that.

I have had prostate cancer and had radiation treatment, I can still have erections and orgasms but don't ejaculate. Now I am finding watching videos with a guy shooting cum is enjoyable.

Yes, RA, I can relate to what you have said. My enemas give me some satisfaction. I am disappointed in my partners words of "get over it" that I can't get an erection these days

As men get older and have ED, their ability to have sex diminishes, and the options for any kind of sexual activity with a woman is almost nonexistent. So what they turn to is meeting up with men and giving oral or in some cases, receiving anal.

Watching a guy ejaculate is also rewarding due to it reminding them of when they used to be able to do that.

@Real_American Sorry I just don’t buy this at all. Having ED or never having an erection doesn’t make men desire cock. Heterosexual men don’t want dicks... ever!

So you are saying that without a working penis, you are sexually useless to women?!?! Seriously??? Fingers tongue, teeth, lips, hands, body, ass, toys in skilled hands - these all mean NOTHING to a woman? Women just want a penis for sex, everything else about the man is useless? If you can only please a woman with an erect penis, you are doing sex wrong.

And no, the only guy I want to watch ejaculate is myself. I could care less seeing it anywhere else.

Also, men can have an orgasm WITHOUT an erection. Sexual activity with a woman doesn’t end just because erections do.