MEN wanting to be a WOMAN

How about men wanting to become a women

Why I asked this question is because I have always felt I was born to be a women. I have really wanted to have a nice set of breast and a nice tight vagnia. Would enjoy the pleasure of having sex with a men, feeling his hot spark being shot into my vagnia and say I really would like to become pregnant and have a baby.. I believe for these reasons I have always enjoyed dressing in women clothing . The thought of someone nursing on my breast always sends me into a great organisation.

@ diaperdon: There are a lot of people who have the same fantasies of sex pregnancy and nursing...mostly women. However women your age 70+ have to give up on the pregnancy and nursing fantasies. Sex is probably low on the list of priorities at 70. Finding a man at 70 for sex is harder than at 20. It seems a little late, but I think successfully becoming a transwoman is doable. Depends on how far you want to go. I found that learning how to 'pass' to be a long process. I've done it without surgery, and I don't see surgery in my future. Other MTF persons have extensive surgery. However, no amount of surgery is going to get a transwoman pregnant or nurse.

I wanted to be a girl from the time I was 13 but didn't know it. I started wearing panties at thirteen. I had wet the bed at my cousins' house and the next day my aunt told me to shower and the took my underpants and pajama bottoms to be washed. In their place she had one of my cousins get me a pair of her panties to wear. I still remember the incredible thrill of pulling the nylon panties on and being able to wear them all day. I asked my cousin if I could wear them each day I was there and she let me. I spent a lot of time with my three girl cousins.One was my age then (and still is), one a year older and one three years older. They liked me to be with them because I was interested in all their feminine things. As time went on I was wearing panties every time I was with them which was very often. When I was 14 one of them suggested maybe I should get my own panties.

It was at this time that my aunt discovered I was wearing panties. I thought she'd be upset but she wasn't. She told my mother and my mother was surprised but not angry. My aunt said that my mom had said she wasn't surprised because she always thought I was more feminine than masculine.

My cousins started wearing nylons when they were in their teens. The older ones already wore them when I first started in panties and the cousin my age got her first pair that summer. A year later in late summer on one of my many sleep overs the older cousin came into the bedroom I shared with the cousin my age and was looking for some pantyhose to wear out to dinner that night. My cousin gave her a pair. That got me asking her what it felt like to wear them and she simply said to find out for myself and went to her drawer and came back with a pair. I put them on and loved the feeling so I started wearing pantyhose as often as I could and usually whenever they did. One day the four of us were sitting around talking and the middle cousin suggested they "do my makeup." I had never worn makeup but was intrigued. An hour later I looked at myself in the mirror and was stunned. They had put on the whole works. That got me started and by the time I was a sophomore in H.S. I was wearing makeup every day even to school. It took some time but soon I was accepted for who I was. Needless to say I was wearing panties all the time and also was wearing pantyhose under my jeans very often. At 16 I finally had a serious talk with my mom and told her I wanted to become a woman and that I always felt I was a woman down deep. So now I'm going to start the psychological part first and then move on to the whole process.

I would love to be a woman for a few months to explore my sexuality as a female both with women and men. I want to see what it's like to have a cunt and tits and to get fucked by a big dick. I want to go to a gynecologist and have my legs put in stirrups while being examined. I want to attend a swingers party as a unicorn. I want to be gangbanged by a group of black men. I want to go to the beach wearing the tinyest bikini. Maybe I will like being a woman.

To become the woman I am within my heart would be a dream come true. I have wanted to be female since I was about age 8 or 9. My first real venture with womanhood occurred when my mom used to send me to the local drug store with a note to buy her tampons, if I had to buy them I was sure going to use them.

I think I’m a lesbian trapped in a mans body hmmmmmmm paradoxical........

I had a very good friend who went through the transition. Even got his drivers license changed to say female. It's not an easy journey and I respect those who travel through it.

I was thinking should I reply or not... But here it goes, my 50 cents.

(hoping not to start a heated discussion, then I will pull out)

Sex is great and fun, but shouldn't be the reason to transition. Being "male" at first does give you an overdosis on testosterone, hence the sexual desires. Thinking if I was a female I will do everything I like to do to a woman, or things my wife doesn't do, etc. Your sex drive will greatly diminish when you start HRT. If you are not trans, or have strong female desires, transitioning isn't for you. There are of course alternatives, cross dressing, social transitioning etc. Also not everyone is able to start HRT or have surgery due to health and/or cost.

Not to mention possibly losing loved ones, jobs and housing.

Now you can't just get one thing only (for example breast tissue), no you will get the entire package once on HRT. Next to the growth of breast tissue, you will get lots of changes, softer skin, less body hair growth and softer hair, body odor (sweat), sensing of odor (smell), hot flashes, emotional. And you will loose up to 30% strength, loose your sperm, shrink your testicles and loose your spontaneous erections.

I have been lucky to go on HRT and have genital reconstructive surgery. I will be paying the bank for the next 6 more years, but to me it's worth it. HRT and surgery can come with risks. I have friends who developed cancer and blood clogs, most likely due to HRT and/or surgery.

I am glad to be able to live my life in my "new" body. Knowing something wasn't right since I was 8, eventually accepting myself and deciding to transition. The decision to come out and start my transitioning I did after already being a member on Zitty, hence various old posts are still under my old male identity.

If someone isn't sure about which path to follow, please see a gender therapist to make the right move.

Hugs, Erin... woman of trans experience.

@MsErin

Excellent post.

Erin,

You are right on. Being a woman is not just physical but it is very much in heart and mind.

I may be more of a crossdresser, but have always wished i were a female , have mildly (If there is such a term for it) crossed dressed since i was 8 or 9. Ive had dreams being female and dreamt I have breasts. Lately I have been obcessed with wanting breasts.

I always wanted to be a girl since I can remember. I'm married and my wife knows of my gender struggles. I had to give up on my dreams as due to my build, there's no way I could pass. I hate the way testosterone makes me feel. I take a low dose of oestrogen and this has put my male side to sleep.

I can say that men do think with their cocks and a more feminine mindset has made me a better person in so many ways. I'm less selfish and more empathetic.

I cross dress below the surface and my wife buys me a good selection of functional and pretty undies, talk nothing of the odd slutty pair.

@Dena said

I always wanted to be a girl since I can remember. I'm married and my wife knows of my gender struggles. I had to give up on my dreams as due to my build, there's no way I could pass. I hate the way testosterone makes me feel. I take a low dose of oestrogen and this has put my male side to sleep.

I can say that men do think with their cocks and a more feminine mindset has made me a better person in so many ways. I'm less selfish and more empathetic.

I cross dress below the surface and my wife buys me a good selection of functional and pretty undies, talk nothing of the odd slutty pair.

You mean you couldn't be a better person -- a kinder, less selfish and more empathetic man simply because you wanted to be a better person?

How exactly would your life be any different from how it is now?

Your profile is blank. Would you date or marry women or men?

Would you have taken a different job or occupation?

Would your hobbies be any different?

What dreams did you have to give up?

. . . .

Hi,

With reference to becoming a better person, I found that before the hormones, I found it very hard not be be aggressive, hard not to make snap decisions, but for reasons I can't explain, I'm just not that way any more. I seem to be a more empathetic and sympathetic these days.

TBH before I met my wife, my orientation could have gone either way. My wife isn't highly sexed, so sex has never been an issue.

I think I would always have ended up being an engineer and engineering needs more ladies. They have a different skill set which can only add to things.

I.hope you'll bear with me over time and I'll try and fill in all the gaps.

Thanks to all involved for creating this uniquely diverse site for people like me to vent their thoughts.

Interesting question. My thoughts are to remain partly a man and become more feminine and woman like. I actually would like less libido and smaller genitals. Breasts might be interesting but probably a bridge too far.

I Want to know how it feel to be a woman. How it feel to play with my breast. How it feel to insert something in my vagina. How it feel to have something inserted. How it feel to be pregnant. Best answer I will ever have : it feel indescribable

Interesting question. My thoughts are to remain partly a man and become more feminine and woman like. I actually would like less libido and smaller genitals. Breasts might be interesting but probably a bridge too far.

i know that traditionally men are thought to have a higher sex drive than women... but i have wondered if that's true, and/or if its physiological? Psychological? i did find this:

"Replicating past findings, no significant correlations between testosterone (T) and desire in men were apparent, but these analyses showed that the null association remained even when psychological and confound variables were controlled. Men showed higher desire than women, but masturbation frequency rather than T influenced this difference. Results were discussed in terms of challenges to assumptions of clear links between T and desire, gendered approaches to T, and the unitarity of desire."

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/22552705

When I was little I would go to bed hoping and praying I would wake up as a girl. Never would do surgery to change that. But do wish I was born a woman.

@ThongNaturist said

When I was little I would go to bed hoping and praying I would wake up as a girl. Never would do surgery to change that. But do wish I was born a woman.

EXACTLY WHAT do you think would be different about your life aside from the shape of your skin?

EXACTLY WHAT do you think would be different about your life aside from the shape of your skin?

All that comes along with being female.

@ThongNaturist said

All that comes along with being female.

That's NOT an answer.

That's a cop out.

What would be different? DETAILS please.

I've become interested in going feminine. At my age my male equipment doesn't work so well, but I love pleasing my girlfriend, but I also love having a nice cock in my pussy. I am thinking that feminizing would be a good solution - Pleasing women, and enjoying men. I wonder is breasts are possible at my age. I would love to feel the sensations of being suckled and have them used.

Becoming feminine doesn't mean sissy - but that may be OK took. There are many experiences I have never had to deal with - such as being humiliated by a man in public.

I've taken the first step by shaving my pubic areas and ass. Stay tuned!

All that comes along with being female.

Not even close!

No periods. Will never get pregnant or give birth. Will never feed a baby.

Questionable: Have a vagina. Feel a penis in that vagina.

Not even close!

No periods. Will never get pregnant or give birth. Will never feed a baby.

Sounds like this is having the best of both worlds. I have yet to hear any woman praise and glorify the experience of menstruation and childbirth is both dangerous and painful. So what is lost by not being able to experience this?

@intruder said

All that comes along with being female.

@agracier said

Not even close!

No periods. Will never get pregnant or give birth. Will never feed a baby.

Questionable: Have a vagina. Feel a penis in that vagina.

BIG DEAL You get to feel it one way or the other.

So as it is now as a man, you get to feel your penis INSIDE a vagina.

It sounds like if you were a woman you would complain about wanting to feel your penis inside a vagina.

Would you be willing to give up what you have for what you THINK you want? The grass is always greener on the other side of the fence.

Each sex has its pluses and minuses regarding physical attributes. Societally and culturally, It is so much better to be a woman than a man in first world countries. I would not want to change.

Be careful what you wish for boys! Transgender or trans girls are much more likely to be victims of violent assaults and even murder. I was impaneled on the 1st jury of a tragic case:

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Murder_of_Gwen_Araujo

I asked to be let go because of a work related hardship, which pissed off the judge to no end, but the DA agreed to let me go and the defense didn't argue.

Sounds like this is having the best of both worlds. I have yet to hear any woman praise and glorify the experience of menstruation and childbirth is both dangerous and painful. So what is lost by not being able to experience this?

Good question! My point is that NO "transgender woman" can have "All that comes along with being female", as ThongNaturist claimed.

OTOH, why do so many women go through so much pain and expense to get pregnant and have babies? Why do they do it repeatedly even after experiencing the pain and knowing the danger? Why do they continue to menstruate when there are birth control alternatives that will suppress periods?

It sounds like if you were a woman you would complain about wanting to feel your penis inside a vagina.

Not me - I'm not the one who thinks I can become a woman and have "All that comes along with being female."

OTOH, how many "trans women" STILL have penis-in-vagina sex with other women? To me, doing so would mean they really are NOT women at all. I suspect it is more than a few...

A quick and short reply, and these are my own personal feelings.

I have been transitioning for 5 years now. The moment I had my surgery and my penis was gone, that was the moment I was no longer in dysphoria and felt like truly "me". The fact that my penis is gone is more happiness than the fact that I have a vulva. I have never wanted to feel a penis inside me, other than my butt, that's where my pleasurer spot is anyway. I always hated my penis. That doesn't mean I like other people's penis though.

Also my interest towards man has changed also. Not so much in the "sexual" way, but in the "pleasing him" way. Hard to explain, but I feel more myself if I could take care of a man, the way a woman does. not just sexually, also making sure he wakes up on time and have his lunch to go to work, be there when he gets home etc.

Also 1 in 4000 to 5000 cis gender, or biological, woman don't have a vagina canal and can't have babies. And there are other reasons cis gender woman can't get pregnant… Are they not female? No, they are true female as well as any other woman, just unlucky to be able to have babies. But they are still woman.

Just like some man with a penis and 1 or more testicles, but no sperm count for example, cant father children, are they still man?

Yes I am a female, yes I am a trans woman, no I am not a cis (or biological) woman. I do know where I came from.

Again, this is my personal feelings and thoughts.

Love and hugs everyone..

PS, now I'm going back to my regular scheduled masturbation in progress... 😃

The only way for a Man to become a real true legit functional women (and vice versa) would be to body swap

Maybe one day...