Parental Spanking into later Years

When it comes right down to it- I respect the shit out of my dad. When he told me he was going to spank me, I didn't even consider fighting it. I would argue usually, but when it comes right down to it, if he said I was getting it then I took it.

I don't disbelieve you guys about getting spanked at an older age (18,20,22 etc). I just find it odd that you would submit to it or that your parents still thought it was a necessary or effective form of discipline. Maybe a fetish. I wasn't spanked a lot - but after about age 12-14 my folks wouldn't stand a chance of spanking me.

It was never considered after 14 or 15. If my dad had tried (which he never did) there probably would have been a fist fight. I moved out right after high school anyway and never went back so it was a moot point.

I was 18 and dating a girl. One day when I came to pick her up and we were about to leave, her mother called her into the bedroom and I could clearly hear the sounds of a spanking. Her mom came out a few minutes later and told me that her daughter would have to stay home for now and I should leave. I never discussed it with her. She also was 18. I heard later from her sister, who dated my friend, that her mom regularly uses the hairbrush on them. Her mom was a large hefty women who I would not want to mess with. On the other hand, I was spanked only a few times growing up and the last time i was around 8-9.

I was 18 and dating a girl. One day when I came to pick her up and we were about to leave, her mother called her into the bedroom and I could clearly hear the sounds of a spanking. Her mom came out a few minutes later and told me that her daughter would have to stay home for now and I should leave.

How coincidental that the mother first waited for you to arrive and then spank her daughter and then tell you her daughter wasn't allowed out.

I call that the actions of a mean-spirited person, needlessly denigrating. Not only towards her daughter, but also towards you who had nothing to do with the matter. She could have had the daughter call you ahead of time, but no, it was apparently more spiteful for the mother to have you come, hear the daughter's humiliation and then get told to your face to beat it kid ... you really have to be a calculating sort of mean to carry out a punishment in that sequence and involve others.

Spanking for me stopped when I was about 12. After that I just wouldn't accept it. Nowadays the girlfriend does it before we get down to it.

I never got a formal spanking as an adult but my mom did smack my butt a few times during arguments. I wouldn’t dream of ever fighting back or hitting my parents. She was basically just letting me know she was frustrated and tired of arguing and asserting her place as the parent. Keep in mind this was usually after she had said “enough!” at least once.

I was spanked a couple of times by my mom between the ages of 27 and 32 as close as I can remember!! She could swing a hairbrush!! WE laugh about how it came about now but I learned my lesson!! Denise

My mom believed in the old adage if you live under my roof then you follow my rules. I lived at home while I went to college. Moved out around age 24 and then moved back from 27-32. All of the house rules applied. She had no qualms whatsoever about spanking my ass fire engine red whenever she felt I deserved it.

It was interesting the last two posts mention the ages 27-32 and still getting spanked. As adults you are still treated as a child? Worse yet - you still act like a child at that age and you and your parents share a mutual fetish for spankings? Even around 7-8 I wouldnt consider spanking. Consistent parenting when young establishes values and limits. There are lots of consequences besides physical punishment. if they don’t have it in their 20’s - then someone failed as a parent. Or there is something else motivating parental spankings at that age that I don’t wanna know about.

Or there is something else motivating parental spankings at that age that I don’t wanna know about,,

How about the pleasure of inflicting pain? Maybe as a surrogate for lack of sexual gratification? Or maybe the infliction of pain IS sexual gratification, possibly sublimated without any overt signs of sexual arousal as such.

If both parents and children at that age actually 'like' the spanking, well good for them. But to me there seems something rather unhealthy about it all. Why would an adult consent to being spanked unless there were other elements involved that included pleasure of some sort?

Why would an adult consent to being spanked unless there were other elements involved that included pleasure of some sort?

Believe it or not some people respect their parents authority, love their parents, and would submit to physical discipline from them without fighting them. I never got "excited" about any parental discipline I received, but I did accept it. I posted that my mom smacked my butt a few times during arguements as a young adult. I didn't get turned on by it I can assure you (yuck)-- and I was actually quite annoyed by it. I'm also annoyed when I get pulled over, but I submit to it anyway, even though most of the time I don't agree with them.

It was interesting the last two posts mention the ages 27-32 and still getting spanked. As adults you are still treated as a child? Worse yet - you still act like a child at that age and you and your parents share a mutual fetish for spankings?

Sometimes reality doesn't fit into our neat little box of perceptions. About a century ago and backwards through human history, corporal punishment was practiced commonly, and it wasn't a "fetish". In rural areas and larger families especially, domestic corporal punishment still is very common. I know because I know rural folks and hear about it. There is never an idea of enjoyment attached to it.

Consistent parenting when young establishes values and limits. There are lots of consequences besides physical punishment. if they don’t have it in their 20’s - then someone failed as a parent. Or there is something else motivating parental spankings at that age that I don’t wanna know about.

Ok, so you don't know of any 20-30 year olds from good homes who ever got into trouble, or did foolish or even dangerous things? Drinking and driving, illegal drugs, stealing, lying, not doing their share around the house? There are other punishments, yes, but what if you're in a large or busy family, and can't really enforce groundings, restrictions, etc.? Kicking them out on the street is a more loving alternative?

I'm not saying whatever was posted is true or false, but all the snarky remarks every time something falls outside your paradigm are annoying and disrespectful. Assume its true for a moment, and you're saying that about someone's mother?

In rural areas and larger families especially, domestic corporal punishment still is very common. I know because I know rural folks and hear about it. There is never an idea of enjoyment attached to it.

From all the many accounts posted here, I find that very difficult to believe. It sounds like an idealization of rural life and values (like so many over the centuries). It's the old story of corruption takes place in cities and towns, but never in the countryside where everything is in harmony as Nature intended it ... ha ha.

Come on, there are never any dark secrets in the countryside, people with fetishes who depart widely from the norm of the good wholesome country dweller? There are no frustrated people, no people with unusual urges and desires, just as elsewhere?

Believe it or not some people respect their parents authority, love their parents?

If they really respected their parents authority, there wouldn't be any need for over the top and violent physical punishment.

There are other punishments, yes, but what if you're in a large or busy family, and can't really enforce groundings, restrictions, etc.? Kicking them out on the street is a more loving alternative?

Since when can parents 'kick their children out into the street'? That can only happen without legal consequence once 'children' are no longer children, namely once they are adults. Try doing that before and let's see what the consequences are. You may be from a busy family, but you'd better find time to attend the resulting court proceedings ...

Its always impossible to tell when someone posts something like claiming they were spanked as an adult by their parents if it might really be true or its a fantasy.

I go back to pre-Internet days when a major source of material on spanking was found in adult magazines letters to the editor. There was one called Mr. that always had something every month. Penthouse Forum too. In these letters people described, often in quite detailed terms, spankings they had given, received, or witnessed. Or sometimes just general thoughts and ideas on the subject.

When I started going online to spanking sites and mentioned this, I was told that most or all of these accounts were written by staff of the magazines, were fiction. Frankly, I was relieved to know this as some of these letters described events that were abuse, pure and simple.

One simply has to keep in mind that things said to be true events that turn up on spanking sites may not be true at all,but someone's delicious fantasy. You never know.

Believe it or not some people respect their parents authority, love their parents, and would submit to physical discipline from them without fighting them. I never got "excited" about any parental discipline I received, but I did accept it.

I believe @Mashie said in a different thread that it doesn't have to be sexual to be a fetish. @nawtybarebottom you state in your profile you have a lifelong craving for hard spankings and are looking for men for real discipline - no sex. When you say you never got 'excited' about parental discipline - did you mean sexually excited? Your lifelong craving for hard discipline implies that at some level you enjoyed/desired/wanted it whether from your parents or someone else (father figure?).

Ok, so you don't know of any 20-30 year olds from good homes who ever got into trouble, or did foolish or even dangerous things? Drinking and driving,..... Kicking them out on the street is a more loving alternative?

I know first hand of a mid 20 year old who had a severe drinking problem. My youngest son was living as a guest in our house and I finally dropped him off at a detox center and told him he was no longer welcome in our house until he got his problem under control. He lived in a halfway house for a year - and the lightbulb went off. Tough love is a tough alternative - but it worked. Eight years later he is part owner of a successful small business and doing well. Today, our relationship couldn't be better.

Since when can parents 'kick their children out into the street'? That can only happen without legal consequence once 'children' are no longer children, namely once they are adults..

You might want to revisit the topic of this thread.

If they really respected their parents authority, there wouldn't be any need for over the top and violent physical punishment.

So youre saying that if a person respects their parents they never do anything foolish like I mentioned before....Drugs, stealing, lying, drinking and driving, etc. And they never argue with them over their rules. Maybe in Ideal-istan thats how things work. And if a person is living at home or has parents that care, they're going to say something if they find out their adult children are doing such things, perhaps even punish them.

And spanking on the butt is not over the top, violent punishment. The effects are usually gone in two days at the most, and are usually minor. On the other hand, the cops zap people with tazers, and slam people face first into the ground if there is any resistance. No one seems to think that's over the top and violent, even when bones are broken or scars are permanent.

Its always impossible to tell when someone posts something like claiming they were spanked as an adult by their parents if it might really be true or its a fantasy.

One simply has to keep in mind that things said to be true events that turn up on spanking sites may not be true at all. You never know.

Keep in mind...yes.

Accuse people of lying when you are basing it solely on your own concept of what the world is like....no

I have posted things that actually happened to me on forums before and been told "nice fantasy." It was extremely rude and disrespectful to say that, especially since it was actually a true account. The person that said "nice fantasy" had no idea about any of the circumstances surrounding the event, time and place, different ideals, etc. Just their own personal experience.

An example, I grew up not even knowing what enemas were, so I could say all the accounts of people receiving enemas growing up are "nice fantasies" since I never experiemced or knew of anyone that experienced it. But just because I never saw or heard of it in my limited area of experience doesnt mean it doesnt happen. I actually overheard my downstairs neighbor giving their child an enema once when I was an adult and on my own. My roommate and I got a good laugh over it.

On the other hand, the cops zap people with tazers, and slam people face first into the ground if there is any resistance. No one seems to think that's over the top and violent, even when bones are broken or scars are permanent.?

No one seems to think that over the top? I certainly do, so does a large portion of the US population and an even larger portion of other countries do too. It is a very disturbing to say the least.

Since when can parents 'kick their children out into the street'? That can only happen without legal consequence once 'children' are no longer children, namely once they are adults. Try doing that before and let's see what the consequences are. You may be from a busy family, but you'd better find time to attend the resulting court proceedings ...

You might want to revisit the topic of this thread.

The topic of this thread is "Parental Spanking into later Years" - doesn't mention kicking kids out of the house as minors in the topic or the OP.

You cannot legally kick minor children (under 18 ) out of your house. In many states they can be emancipated after 14-16, but it isn't easy because they have to prove to a court that they can take care of themselves. If you want the kids out of the house you can send the off to boarding school, find a foster family or make their life miserable to they hopefully run away, maybe even commit crimes which will enable the courts to take custody of them in jail. You can also disinherit them since they are worthless life forms not worthy of receiving part of the decedent's estate.

To get back to the original topic of parental spanking of adult children I first would like to. say I agree with nawtybare in that we can be skeptical without being rude, not ridiculing someone and accusing them of lying.

I have to agree that some accounts one reads makes what was said to have happened so bizarre, so ritualized that it sounds like the screenplay for a spanking video! Some years ago I would visit the chatroom of. the now defunct WorldSpankingForum and there was this young woman who kept elaborating, embellishing the accounts of her spankings that people stopped believing her,figured she was fantasizing.

On the other hand, I can easily imagine a spanking of a young adult by a parent taking place, happening in a spontaneous situation, a parent provoked by really bad behavior or disrespect. Instead of hitting with a fist, or slapping the face, the parent goes after the young person's backside.

Couple of plausible case examples.

Scene 1: A 19 year old boy comes home, has been drinking,maybe even has driven home under the influence. Gets in an argument with his Dad, curses him, and so on. His father takes off his belt and nails his son in the seat of his pants! Or waits until he undresses for bed, and is in his underwear, or naked, and then welts his butt with the belt. The young man spends a very uncomfortable night on his belly, and comes away with a lesson learned about parental respect.

Scene 2: Mom comes home and finds her daughter who is in her early twenties, sunbathing nude in the yard. They have argued over this before, her mother telling her not to do it because she can possibly be seen by the neighbors or from the street. The daughter's attitude is 'so what'. Mom does not argue, but goes and gets a paddle or hairbrush. Her daughter is lying there on her front, eyes closed, earphones on, presenting a perfect target. Mom really lets her have it !So after a couple days not sitting comfortably, the young lady decides that in the future she will wear a bathing suit when she goes outside.

These are just a couple plausible examples, IMHO. Yes, technically it might be a criminal act. But Dad wisely chose not to slug his son on the jaw, or knock him to the floor. Then the police might well have been summoned. But the young man was not about to tell the cops his Dad upended him and spanked his butt!

Thats the point anyhow, with teen or adult spankings-the embarrassment. Getting beat up in the usual sense is something that can happen to adults. But spankings are for naughty kids.

And yes, would say could be an effective lesson. No, should not be brutal, but both painful and embarrassing. As the oldtimers said "need to really feel it." which would actually heighten the embarrassment.

Now just imagine an adult teen or twentysomething young man or woman having to sit on a cushion at the dinner table because he or she got a spanking! They just might think about what they did that resulted in this.

Couple of plausible case examples.

Scene 1: A 19 year old boy Or waits until he undresses for bed, and is in his underwear, or naked, and then welts his butt with the belt. The young man spends a very uncomfortable night on his belly, and comes away with a lesson learned about parental respect.

Scene 2: Mom comes home and finds her daughter who is in her early twenties, sunbathing nude in the yard. Her daughter is lying there on her front, eyes closed, earphones on, presenting a perfect target. Mom really lets her have it

These are just a couple plausible examples, IMHO. .

No offence but these scenarios sound even more implausible. And horrid as well, as they are sneaky, premeditated on the part of the parents and not even a spur of the moment occurrence.

If any of this had ever happened to me, I would have learned that parents are vicious, mean, conniving, deceitful and duplicitous - among other things. Probably never would have trusted them for a day in my life ever again, even if I had immediately moved out, which would be the logical conclusion.

If anything, these scenarios put the parents in an even worse light in regards to prospective legal actions. Waiting until the right moment to do something illegal is called premeditation. Usually carries stiffer penalties. Rightfully.

I know of one story that I believe to be true of a woman who was regularly spanked as a young adult. She is much older than me and her parents were around during the Great Depression. I forget how it came up but I remember everyone in the room acting all awkward about listening to her story. I didn't know I was into spanking at the time. I was 16 or 17 when she was telling the story. She said something to the effect of, "My dad would've tanned my hide." She then proceeded to tell the room about "getting the belt" with her "shorts down" for wasting household resources. I guess depression survivors didn't play around. She was gleefully telling her story. All the grown ups looked mortified lol! I was trying to hide my fascination at the thought of a lady 40+ years my senior talking about bare bottom spankings lol!

At the risk of being accused of fabricating a story. While I didn't see the spanking, I don't believe that Joyce's mother had any reason to make it up and there's also Joyce's comment that I overheard.

The most bizarre, factual spanking that I know is the case of Joyce McDonald. Joyce was a couple of classes behind me in high school. Although she lived in the neighborhood, I probably wouldn’t have known her if our mothers weren’t friends. Joyce was what we referred to in our clique as a peripheral person. She wasn’t active in school affairs and tended to hang with those that weren’t either. While she wouldn’t win any beauty contest, she was far from unattractive. She was about 5’4” a little on the pudgy side but yet not overweight. To my knowledge, she only dated one boy, Blaine, in school and she married him either during her senior year or right after it. Blaine ironically was one of my boyfriends in junior high. He once told me that he “enjoyed a good beating.” After I question him, I found out what he meant was that he would rather take a spanking in his case a strapping than being grounded.

After graduation from high school, Blaine went to work for the local telephone utility as a lineman. He continued to see Joyce and eventually married her. The couple wasn’t married long before Joyce gave birth to her first child. Blaine satisfied his military obligation by joining the Texas Air National Guard. When Blaine was called for active duty training which was for 6 months, the couple in an effort to save money decided to sublease their apartment and Joyce moved back in with her mother. For those that haven’t lived with your parents after being on your own, you probably can’t imagine the friction that generates. In the eyes of your parents, you will always be their little girl or boy depending on your sex. Of course, in your eyes, you are independent and used to coming and going as you please. I know I always had to be careful when I was staying with my parents in the summer or on breaks after I stated college to avoid upsetting them.

Three weeks before the incident, when Ethel, Joyce’s mother, was in our house working with my mother on an Eastern Star project, I overheard her complaining to mother that Joyce driving her crazy. Apparently, she missed Blaine terrible and was cranky and incorrigible. She stated at that time she sympathized with her but the situation was getting critical. Furthermore, she stated she needs a damn good spanking but how do you spank a 20-year-old and mother? My mother replied. “I imagine the same way you do a younger child only harder.” (Spoken like a true Texas mother.)

The day of the incident, Joyce’s mother came to our house about 12 PM on a Saturday to stuff the envelopes of the Eastern Star mailer which Daddy’s secretary addressed by machine. I was sitting at the kitchen counter. Joyce’s mom had not more that greeted us and took a seat at the dining room table when she exclaimed, “Well you know what hit the fan this morning and I took the strap to Joyce’s butt!” Although I was in the kitchen, I could hear her. My ears perked up but I tried to remain nonchalant.

My mother countered. “You didn’t?”

Joyce’s mom retorted. “I most certainly did.” She added, “Joyce staggered in at 2 AM this morning night reeking of alcohol. I was worried sick. When She finally arrived home my relief I soon turned to anger. This morning I had my husband take her son out to the park. I grabbed the strap marched into her room pulled down the cover; tuned her over; pulled down her pajama bottoms, sat on her back and took the strap to her bare butt like I never took it to her. By the time, I was done. She was pleading, promising, howling and carrying on like a five-year-old instead of a mother of a 2-year-old.”

Mother gasped. “Good God!”

Ethel retorted, “Now Alicia don’t act so shocked. I didn’t harm her although I imagine she’ll feel it for a couple of days.”

Mother answered, “I just hope it wasn’t anything that I said that led to this.”

“Hells fire! Alicia, don’t feel guilty! If it was and it wasn’t, you did me a favor.”

“Well, it’s just.”

“Dear, it’s what she needed and it’s what she got!”

I say it’s the most uncanny factual spanking story that I have ever hear for several reasons which are as follows.

1) This wasn’t just an older girl getting spanked but a mother.

2) This is one of the only two cases that I know where the recipient was spanked bare bottom.

3) It is the only case I know to be factual where a mother spanked a married daughter.

A couple of postscripts, one, after to listening to Joyce’s mother and my mother exchange, I wanted to find an excuse to casually visit Joyce to see if I could learn any more details; however, I couldn’t think of any.

Two, apparently Joyce’s mother told Blaine ’s mother of the incident because a few weeks she later told my father in the pharmacy and he mentioned it at the dinner table.

Three, about a month and a half after the incident on a Friday night, I saw Joyce and some of her friends at a local club. Although it was fairly early, I heard Joyce say that she had to run. (10 PM or so) One of the girls tried to persuade her to stay and Joyce replied, “Do you remember what I told you happened the last time?”

The girl retorted, “I still don’t believe she did that!”

Joyce answered, “Trust me she did.”

Four, I have no idea whatever happened to Joyce and Blaine. Neither lives here anymore and neither does Joyce’s parents or Blaine ’s mother.

I know of one story that I believe to be true of a woman who was regularly spanked as a young adult.

She then proceeded to tell the room about "getting the belt" with her "shorts down" ... She was gleefully telling her story. A!

If everyone was mortified and she was gleefully telling the story about her adult spanking, then I would start wondering how much she was embellishing or exaggerating to expressly mortify her listeners. Or if she perhaps really liked getting spanked and derived some satisfaction out of it all and therefore maybe did her best to provoke it ... making it a sort of dynamic going both ways.

To get back to the original topic of parental spanking of adult children I first would like to. say I agree with nawtybare in that we can be skeptical without being rude, not ridiculing someone and accusing them of lying.

It would be nice but some people think their narrow view of the world and their life experiences define the world in its entirety.

On the other hand, I can easily imagine a spanking of a young adult by a parent taking place, happening in a spontaneous situation, a parent provoked by really bad behavior or disrespect. Instead of hitting with a fist, or slapping the face, the parent goes after the young person’s backside.

This is basically what I experienced, my mom would get frustrated during an argument and say “enough!” If that went unheeded, SMACK...on the butt, of course; never on the face or with a fist, that would be unnecessary and abusive in my opinion, and would’ve probably made me respond differently.

I was spanked with my stepdads belt at eighteen but my

19 year old nephew lives with us and receives belt on a regular basis including a sound session in our garage today.

I was spanked with my stepdads belt at eighteen but my

19 year old nephew lives with us and receives belt on a regular basis including a sound session in our garage today.

And who gives the 19 year old nephew the belt? I would deduce it is you, but am not sure from the wording above. If so, you'd better hope he considers it consensual belting, because you do realize that at 19 he is an adult.

I am a male, now 62 years old,living and growing up in Austria.

My last spanking was at about 18, a proper caning on the bare bottom, bent over a chair with trousers down.

There should always be a good spanking if you do not behave. if you have not learned that at 18 and you do not want to hear, you just have to feel it.

There should always be a good spanking if you do not behave. if you have not learned that at 18 and you do not want to hear, you just have to feel it.

If you haven't learned by 18, virtually nothing will change a person's innate character and behavior. Whack away at someone and it will just cause resentment and anger.

The best thing to do is stay away from that person ...

If you haven't learned by 18, virtually nothing will change a person's innate character and behavior. Whack away at someone and it will just cause resentment and anger.

I think this is 100% correct. I think my last spanking was at about 13 which I did deserve. If my old man would have tried to spank me at 18 we would have been in a fist fight which I'm sure I would have lost. I moved out shortly after that and was working, doing school and other things. You were considered an adult at 18 around my house and were more or less expected to act like one. By that point all you got was the standard speech about how disappointed they were and how as oldest of 10 I had to set the example. This was usually all it took.