Parental Spanking into later Years

Even when I started dating and actually got married our spanking sessions continued! My wife, we both spanked and still do spank each other, was very happy with the arrangement! She would often watch me getting spanked; taking some tips from Aunt Rose who was the consummate spanker! She and Aunt Rose would spank each other, as well!

So a spanking trio. Interesting and probably fun too.

Still, I can't help wondering what early sex researchers (like Kraft-Ebbing and such) would have thought about it. Under which of their list of perversions it would fall under? Remember that back then oral, anal and same-sex activities were all lumped under the heading of 'perversions' ... ha ha

It certainly was fun, agracier! And yes in an 'objective' and 'technical' sense, a 'perversion', I suppose! I never had a problem with admitting that! LOL

I'm 19f, and my mom still spanks me. I live at home for college so there hasn't been a clean break or whatever at 18, life doesn't feel much different than 17 tbh. I've got it all my life, I don't feel it is super weird and honestly accept sometimes I deserve it.

This is all fascinating but foreign to me. My parents never touched me, didn’t hug much for that matter. Punishments were lectures and silence.

Hard to visualize a 20-something being spanked bare bottom by a parent but I’m enjoying the fantasy 🫣😁

I’m increasingly interested in spankings from reading in Zity.

This is all fascinating but foreign to me. My parents never touched me, didn’t hug much for that matter. Punishments were lectures and silence.

Same here. And add being obviously annoyed in their attitude towards you while ignoring you if you tried to say something. Never any yelling either. More like stony silence. The classic 'I'm disappointed in you' tactic.

@emmaspankedgirl you say, on being spanked, you can honestly say you sometimes deserve it. I'm wondering what, if any benefits you might identify for yourself, your family? Or, are there no benefits?

Thanks, Tom

Wow - sounds interesting...

Yes, indeed, my Aunt Rose was a spanko, for sure! My cousins often heard my Uncle Frank spanking her as a prelude to sex! She was often heard uttering fake protests as he spanked her; "No Daddy, please no"! LOL Often after one or more of their kids had received a spanking they would go to the bedroom for sex! In my case, even as a kid/teenager some of the spankings, from Aunt Rose, were 'fun' ones as opposed to the purely punishment spankings! These 'fun' spankings still stung plenty and heated my butt up but the burning hot throb was not as intense as it would be from a genuine punishment spanking! As I got older, once the spanking was over, I started to become sexually aroused by the warm, tingling feeling, once the intense throbbing burn had subsided, radiating from my bottom! The consequence of this was that I started to actually enjoy some of these 'fun' spankings to the extent that I even began flirting with my Aunt so as to bring them about! She quickly realised what was going on and it became a sort of game between us! As adults this, naturally, continued and we engaged in continual consensual spankings! Both of us spanking each other!

@Thomas893 for me it helps me improve myself especially for stuff I don’t notice I’m doing wrong, and helps relieve guilt for stuff I do know wrong. For mom I think it helps like diffuse the tension when stuff is going wrong and let us quickly deal with things and go back to normal family life

@emmaspankedgirl Thanks for the reply. I sure don't think spanking into later years is good for all, or even very many, but I'm interested in how, for some, it works. At the core of working I think is a trusting, loving, strong relationship between mother and daughter/son to start with. I say mother as I think when it works it will more likely work between a mother and offspring than a father. Not impossible with dads. Especially single parent dads, but not as likely.

A question I meant to ask, and I apologize for not doing so: If you could choose between being spanked by your mom at your age, or not, how would you vote?

Thanks, Tom

@Thomas893 I think it is more good than bad for me in the end so I would vote to keep it (and obv since I am an adult I must mean that, or I could make it stop I think)

@emmaspankedgirl Again, thanks for your interesting reply. Good point you made about, being an adult, you could/might be able to stop the spankings so obviously you are voting each time to get it.

There could be at least three reasons for baring your bottom and presenting it for a spanking. One would be at some level you felt you deserved it, you wanted to clear the air between you and your mom (dad too) and you thought a spanking would help you be a better, nicer, person. The second might be that you took the spanking in a sort of trade for something else. For example, you had no job, no money, needed to live at home and being spanked was the price you had to pay to have food and a roof over your head. That sort of thing. The third would be a mixture of one and two.

My feeling is you accept spanking mainly for the first reason but also, a small bit of the second. I hope you don't mind my asking if you'd agree with this guess of mine. Then, if the first is the primary reason you take the spankings would you say you're spanked more than is needed by you, about the right amount, or too often?

Warm wishes for a great day!

Tom

Yes, I have no doubt that it happens, although can't imagine it's common. Some parents are very controlling and that's not going to suddenly disappear. And all sorts can end up in situations which they feel may not be the best approach but see no alternative, or that's it better than the alternative options.

Yes - Agree, and repeating your thought.

Yes, i would also agree !! - but maybe a nice phantasie to talk about it in the worldwide web !!

As someone who got spanked into their early twenties, the one thing I will say is if you grow up with spanking, it doesn't seem as odd. It's not like someone who's never been spanked is all of a sudden spanked at 22, they've been spanked through their whole life.

If you live under your parents' roof, you live under their rules. Seems pretty straightforward, especially for young women who still behave like little girls!

My dad did til he died when I was 20. My mom did it til I was 25 - when I moved thousands of miles away. lol

@Pbox95 Welcome to Zity.

I'm sorry to read your dad died when you were 20. Must have been really tough.

You say your mom spanked you until you moved away at 25.

Wondering if you moved those thousands of miles to escape her spankings, or did you move for some other reason and, in fact, found the spankings helpful?

All best, and again welcome!

Tom

When I was 18 I was dating a girl, the sister of my best friend girl. She was also 18. We were at her house one afternoon when her mother, who was a big women, took her into the bedroom and spanked her with a paddle. You could hear everything. Then the mom came out and told us to leave. I was told later that her mom spanks both girls regularly for minor reasons, over her knee and bare ass. I lost track of her when I went into the army. I do know my friend married one girl who died later of alcoholism.

I don't understand why people think this is a big deal. If you've grown up with it all your life then I can't imagine it's anything but normal.

Plus as an adult you'd be giving consent anyway. You can't be forced.

What people do in their own homes, is up to them. As long as it's legal.

Plus as an adult you'd be giving consent anyway. You can't be forced.

What people do in their own homes, is up to them. As long as it's legal.

Of course grown-ups can be coerced into submitting to things they don't want. Abuse happens.

There can be financial pressure to submit, no income or insufficient, where are you going to live and how to buy food? There can be psychological pressure and guilting people into submitting to all kinds of degrading situations and acts.

Spousal abuse is something no can deny exists. Why should parental abuse of adult children also not exist?

Forcing adult people into submitting to violence, even if a family member, no matter how it's done, is illegal.

Simple and clear cut. Do some parents confuse the concepts of children and chattel?

If it is sex play, then that is entirely different. But the description given isn't about sex play between consenting adults.

@agracier I was meaning under "normal" circumstances you wouldn't be forced or coerced.

Of course there are evil people out there who would attempt to do such things, and try and take advantage of any vulnerabilities you might have. But I was meaning more generally that decent people wouldn't do that.

Wasn't suggesting that abuse can't and doesn't happen.

I don't understand why people think this is a big deal. If you've grown up with it all your life then I can't imagine it's anything but normal.

Assuming these are strictly for punishing transactions and not for some other sexual or devious reasons (which is bigger deal) ….I do think parents punishing adult children with spankings isnt normal. At some point young adults need to take responsibility for their own actions rather than still be under the thumb of their parents. It’s part of growing up and self discipline.

Yes as long as you lived under your parents roof you were subject to house rules. Leather on a bare bottom reinforced that

Yes as long as you lived under your parents roof you were subject to house rules.

That has a medieval, feudal and puritanical sound to it.

Wife/spouse beating is truly frowned upon and illegal and not looked lightly on in a court of law. So why should beating adult children be looked on any less?

@agracier Because it was legal

@agracier Because it was legal

Hitting people is not legal.

Seems there’s an element of “implied c onsent” on the part of the young adult allowing this to happen. Just like BDSM activities which can get pretty rough, it would be hard to prove there wasn’t some level of consent involved. Like domestic violence, there’s a line that has to be crossed in order to prove assault, sorta like a domestic discipline agreement amongst family members.

That said, I think it’s wrong and there’s something else (sexual? Dominance?) going on between the parents doing the spanking and the adult recieving it. It teaches one to be accepting of an abusive relationship

Seems there’s an element of “implied c onsent” on the part of the young adult allowing this to happen.

If a parent/adult practices spanking on a live-in child, that is akin to the situations in which doctors, teachers, employers etc are in: namely there is a power dynamic in their favor and therefore one cannot conclude that any agreements for infractions were concluded between equals.

Of course parents cam always have a live-in child, who commits infractions or displeases the parents for any reason whatsoever, removed from their house. But that still does not give parents any legal right to hit anyone. The infraction is called assault and battery.

I had my last parental spanking at 16, but got the slipper at school when I was 17. Spanking and corporal punishment was still used at school until we left up to the age of 18. It was less common to be punished in that way in the last couple of years at school, but it happened occasionally. I think I would have found it strange, to say the least, to have been spanked at home over the age of 18 and I wasn’t aware of anyone I knew at the time who was, if they were prepared to admit it.

@Rigel it was normal and accepted, my friends had the same deal. As long as you lived under your parents roof. Coming in drunk was not acceptable.