Coping Mechanism?

I have noticed that when I am getting heterosexual sex on a regular basis that I don't think about being kinky as much. I feel like my kinkiness is a coping mechanism for lack of sex since I'm only kinky when I'm alone or when my partner doesn't want sex but I do. Is there a relationship between kinkiness and sexual appetite in general? Do we turn to kinks to supplement or replace something that may be missing?

Your kinkiness isn't a coping mechanism for lack of sex, your heterosexual sex is your coping mechanism for not engaging in real live kink.

Apparently, once you have your orgasm, you're done and sex is not at the forefront of your mind.

You sound generally confused. Why in your profile introduction do you say you are "bi-curious but lean strongly heterosexual" and in the additional information you state your orientation as homoflexible????

I have noticed that when I am getting heterosexual sex on a regular basis that I don't think about being kinky as much. I feel like my kinkiness is a coping mechanism for lack of sex since I'm only kinky when I'm alone or when my partner doesn't want sex but I do. Is there a relationship between kinkiness and sexual appetite in general? Do we turn to kinks to supplement or replace something that may be missing?

I'd say there is something to this, sort of in the way that people mean when they say 'idle hands are the devil's playground' or whatever the saying is.

But sooner or later your personal kinks will raise their heads and demand attention.

@SwitchableSusie

Heteroflexibility is a form of a sexual orientation or situational sexual behavior characterized by minimal homosexual activity in an otherwise primarily heterosexual orientation that is considered to distinguish it from bisexuality. It has been characterized as "mostly straight".

I think that describes me pretty well and agrees with my profile. I'm bi-curious but mostly straight.

There is something in me that wants to keep my kinks private and solo. I know I do love being with a woman more than being solo kinky. But, in all fairness, I've never been kinky with a woman and I've never had sex with a man (other than receiving a blow job once). The relationship I have now is one in which I feel comfortable enough to talk about kinky desires and in time I'm sure we will.

I know what the words mean.

What puzzles me is why you said you were homoflexible.

Sorry about. Apparently I misread it and clicked the wrong box. It's fixed. Thanks for pointing out my error. ?