WOMEN: How long does your man stay erect after ejaculating?

WOMEN ONLY:

How long does your man stay erect after ejaculating?

Good question Sue, and one I never thought much about to be honest with you.

Well, I think it depends on a lot of things like time between encounters, sexual or other, desire, attraction, and perhaps even the use of medications.

While I can't speak for anyone but Doc and I, I have found that he is hard somewhat all the time we are engaged in sexual things and only goes completely soft when we are completely done with our sexual activities. Whether we have sex 3 times or 12 times a day I don't think he really ever goes completely soft until he is either exhausted, or when we are really done, or sleeping, and to be honest with you, not always when he is even sleeping either, lol.

I keep telling you he's a stud. I'm not kidding lol.

Mashie

It depends on his mood. If we are still playing around he never gets completely soft and usually gets hard again in a few minutes. He will ejaculate too, the second time around, but that takes longer and not much comes out, occasionally nothing at all.

Mashie said:

Whether we have sex 3 times or 12 times a day I don't think he really ever goes completely soft until he is either exhausted, or when we are really done, or sleeping, and to be honest with you, not always when he is even sleeping either, lol.

Mashie, I think you may have spoiled the honest answers from a lot of women because of your studly doc's unusually amazing abilities. 😁 😁 😁 Most men (NOT teenagers or twenty-somethings) can't do that at all.

Well what I said is true, but to be completely honest with you I think a lot of it has to do with the fact that we don't see each other as often as we would like so when we do we are in a constant state of excitement/arousal. If we lived together or saw each other daily or even weekly I am sure my answer would be much different.

But because of how it is for us now, he often gets a chubby just from us talking on the phone and not necessarily when we are talking about sex or other such fun things. Hell half the time I can't even pee if I am talking on the phone with him because my plumbing is thinking about other such activities no matter how bad I have to I just can't. So I either have to hang up from talking to him or really concentrate on something like Margaret Thatcher naked standing in front of a brick wall at Yankee Stadium in the pouring rain. We are just two horny kids, lol, what can I say?

Mashie

The time apart, not withstanding, you are a lucky woman!

With Tom and just the two of us - a lot depends on the setting and the mood, when we are in bed and the 'moment' happens, then he gets very hard and we get it on, once he cums, and depending on how hard he cums, he will begin to soften after probably a minute. If we have time - a weekend or when we don't have things to do, and it isn't just a morning fling, we keep him semi hard between times. It is different - in different settings, if we are into sex play, then we time or pace ourselves differently, to make things last, and we are looking to extend our play time.

With Steve and during play - the whole idea is to just have fun, and to be honest I don't keep track of how long he stays hard, once I get mine, I'm not really worried, or running the stop watch. But when Steve and I - have that quiet time, then there is a lot of 'after play' and he will be semi hard after he cums, and we 'make out', and we can get him hard all of the way again and have another go. But once Steve - makes his second contribution, he will go soft fairly soon after, just like Tom. 😃

Sometimes with Tom and Steve - we will use some Viagra or Cialis and that changes a lot of things, and both of them will stay harder longer. Tom usually takes this - when we are with Beth Anne & Steve, and so there is a 'whole nuther' set of circumstances going on. 😉

As a teenager and twenty something, he could stay hard and do instant replays. In his thirties he could do a replay after several minutes. He was insatiable. As I posted six years ago, that in his early forties, he could be tamed. Now he stays erect for a few minutes after ejaculating unless I keep stimulating him.

I have not timed my husband on a stopwatch but his penis goes soft soon after he has ejaculated and I do not think it matters if he is in my vagina, I have given him a blow job or a hand job. Maybe he just lasts a minute.

I can not remember a lot of what my friends have said about this sort of thing when we have been talking about sex but I have heard that some men can do it twice in an hour and they have gone soft again in between. I have only had sex with my husband so I can not compare him with any others. We like to have sex a lot when we have got time but we like it to be really good sex so he does not ejaculate more than once in an hour.

There's a guy that I adore - but He has what He calls TFD 'that fucking diabetes', a scientific term according to Him. With Him - there was / is a lot of stimulation, Viagra, Cialis, oral, visual, lots and lots of visual, touching, toys, enemas, and timing. Patience - playfulness, and it pays off, oh and lots and lots of communication.

That works with ALL - of my guys 😉 I am such a slut.

My husband always goes soft almost instantly after ejaculating. However when we met he was in his early 30's, he could be brought back for an instant replay in no time. Today as he approaches 50, once he goes soft, he is more than likely done for a while. Just part of aging.

@Switchablesusie said:

...Most men (NOT teenagers or twenty-somethings) can't do that at all...

...As a teenager and twenty something, he could stay hard and do instant replays. In his thirties he could do a replay after several minutes...

Given that I have only had sex while I was a teenager or twenty-something (actually twenty-nothing) with similarly aged guys, you can guess what my answer here is going to be!

Though my first boyfriend was hopeless. I was 16, so new to sex and boys, and didn't realize at the time that I could (and should) keep a guy hard until I had taken everything I wanted. So not every teen will be... Satisfactory...

Now, of course, I am enjoying the perks of young cock that can be kept erect for up to a few hours, if I am really going to drain him dry. Some will soften slightly, to a 'semi' about a minute after, but harden back to a full erection within 2 or 3 minutes, depending on how determined I am.

It depends as much on what I am doing as it does the guy.

Now the advantages of being a bisexual... Have you ever seen a strap on lose it's erection? 😁

My husband is in his late 50's and still has a lot of vigor when it comes to us in bed. However it is not like when we were going together or first married when he could become erect almost in an instant and had a lot more staying power. When we were younger we could have sex and he would soften a little after he ejaculated and if we wanted more, then he would have no problem getting hard again.

However as we have aged we've noticed that it takes a little longer for him to get an erection, but not much longer, and then he goes softer quicker after he ejaculates. It is a little more difficult now to have "seconds" but not impossible and we have used some Viagra in the past. But since we have become a lot more "kinky" I've taken to going down on him and getting him hard by my hand, or mouth, and it seems to work faster since we have started experimenting with each other.

Age has a lot to do with it and we were headed to a so so sex life, but thankfully we started talking about it and trying different things. I think the talking about it openly had a lot to do with it, and so we know that not "staying up" longer or "getting up" quicker is part of aging but there are ways around that. As to how long does he stay erect after ejaculating, we haven't timed is, and I don't think we will. That was getting us in trouble relationship wise before we started experimenting which meant we were communicating.

A guy's ego is fragile as hell, and I think I better understand from all of the other posts throughout this site.

@Ms_Lila

A guy's ego is fragile as hell, and I think I better understand from all of the other posts throughout this site.

Thanks for your PM 🌹 - and I want to clarify that I did talk to Him about my post on His diabetes, and He was OK for me posting that. He has no problem - 'scratching that itch' for me and for us getting there, regardless. 🌹

I know when I gave it up to my ex the first time it sucked. It may have lasted all of two or three minutes. Once my hymen tore and it went in he came and instantly shrunk. But the longer we stayed together he got a little better but not much. As soon as he would cum and press against me for a minute or so not wanting me to move. Then when he was messing with my ex best friend he would get hard and stay like that. It took him forever to cum if he did and then there was no pressing. I could roll him over and ride him until I came no matter how long that took. But once I stopped it would shrink.

@Ms_Lila ...

Age has a lot to do with it and we were headed to a so so sex life, but thankfully we started talking about it and trying different things. I think the talking about it openly had a lot to do with it, and so we know that not "staying up" longer or "getting up" quicker is part of aging but there are ways around that.

... you're lucky you caught on to that little fact early enough that it didn't hurt your marriage ... kudos to you. 🌹 It took me quite a while to adjust to ... my husband aging ... and when you said that ... 'a guy's ego' ... is so fragile ... well that goes for women too ... I was one of them. I've written about this before ... so I won't go over it again ... it's just that my hat's off to you and your husband for having the brains to ... talk it out ... and then do something about it. 😃

I was pretty young ... in high school ... when I went ballistic on sex ... the boys I had sex with were sometimes immature and added to premature ejaculations ... but they were ready to go in a very short time. They were ... trainable 😈 ... and I went through quite a few of them ... 😄 When my husband and I started going together ... he was a little older than me ... by about 8 years ... and very experienced and got what he called ... diamond cutters ... and we had some fantastic sex ... and he was quick to recover ... but then age and what I see called 'TFD' snuck in ... and it was the pits.

And as Lora C said ...

... is a lot of stimulation, Viagra, Cialis, oral, visual, lots and lots of visual, touching, toys, enemas, and timing. Patience - playfulness, and it pays off, oh and lots and lots of communication.

... my husband may lose his erection ... but we can get it back enough to have another round ... but I learned to love toys and pretty much gave myself over to him for him to ... 'finish me off with a vibrator' ... if he can't finish 'in person' ... and I'm fine with that.

Some of the ... 'younger' ... women ... late 30's ... 40's ... 50's ... might want to keep it in the back of your mind ... we age ... they age ... and the diamond cutters and quick recoveries probably won't last as long as we would like ... and now's the time to experiment and open up the lines of communication ... get your kink on ... 😉 ... ... but most of all get those dumb ass guys of yours into the doctor for check ups so that stuff like diabetes doesn't get too bad and play head games with you and him. Been there ... done that ... and it sucked ... ... ... now ... ... ... I suck 😉 ... and that helps 😈 too! 😄

I know, this is a womens thread. But it's perhaps interesting to see this theme from a male's view.

@Neptun this is a women's thread as there is a male equivalent http://www.zity.biz/index.php?mx=forum;ox=display;topic=83363

@Switchablesusie asked in the men's thread what the women would say, so created this thread, please don't think we are excluding or disinterested in male observations/opinions

This thread is for WOMEN ONLY.

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The men have their own thread on this topic.

http://www.zity.biz/index.php?mx=forum;ox=display;topic=83363

A very short time. As he is aging cums very quickly and then he is done.

My husband can stay hard for hours with his cock inside me with just occasional motion. We often sit on the floor for an erotic dinner or watch TV. I sit on top of him face to face with his cock in me. At some point, the urge to finish overcomes on of us and the active fucking motions take over. It only takes a couple of minutes of active motion for both of us to orgasm. Within a minute or so of ejaculation, he has become flaccid enough for me to push him out with my vaginal muscles.

We have sex in the morning before work so once he’s ejaculated, his cock goes down relatively quickly because he’s got to get on his suit and tie and head out. Occasionally it’ll stay hard for about 10 mins after if it was a really intense session.

He softens almost instantly most times. Very rarely does he keep even ½ a hard on. In the 14 yrs we e been together, we've never gone more than once, simultaneously.

Just after ejaculating, he goes soft quickly, like a minute or two in most days… sometimes he keeps half hard, but usually it goes soft for couple minutes, but with some playing it can get very hard again in 10-15 minutes.

2 - 3 minutes ……. then off to sleep

My husband's multiply orgasmic and mostly dribbles and usually ejaculates right at the end (he described it as “it put's a period on it”).

A few minute. He goes to maybe half for a bit then soft.