Giving spanking a try -tips?

I've started trying some kinky stuff. Some of it I'm not going to do again, some I might see if we can bring out from time to time. The next on the list might be spanking. This would be her spanking me.

I think I'd want to do the position where she's sitting on the edge of the bed and I'm laying across her lap. Good body contact, good support. However from there I'm not sure exactly where to go.

My wife has carpal tunnel syndrome, and I don't want to make it worse. That probably rules out a bare hand spanking, though this would be the most intimate. I'm looking for an implement that ideally I can make or re-purpose that would preserve her wrist, could be used at close range, and could be used across the range of a more sensual/sexual spanking or to a harder "spank until I cry" sort of scenario. I'm not sure where we'll go with it.

Complicating things further we also have kids, so we'd either need something quiet or save it for times when we've sent them elsewhere.

I was thinking a small paddle that I could make or possibly braiding together some silicone tube that I have. I could also possibly make a "loopy johnny" sort of thing. The last two may be quieter, but they seem to be rated more severe. I'm not sure if I want huge long-term black and blue bruises, but I would like something that would allow a longer spanking possibly. We also have some of the 5-gallon paint stirrers left over from a project that could be sanded and re-purposed, but I'm not sure how long they should be.

As far as history, I was spanked a couple of times with wooden spoons. I think my wife may have gotten the belt a few times. I'm pretty sure it was not abusive, but as I'm not sure what her response would be I was thinking probably best to avoid anything with memories.

Any input would be great, either on the implements or on other things that I should know.

While not spanking electro play might be ideal causing your wife no pain being quiet and possibly being quite painful depending on how high you have it set. Having it set high touching different spots briefly might mimic a spanking effectively.. you would need to talk with some familiar will it to get a better idea luckily you are in the right place as I am sure many have at least some experience with it. Violet wand is a popular type of electro play.

I've started trying some kinky stuff. . . . My wife has carpal tunnel syndrome, and I don't want to make it worse. That probably rules out a bare hand spanking, though this would be the most intimate. . . .

Complicating things further we also have kids, so we'd either need something quiet or save it for times when we've sent them elsewhere.

I was thinking a small paddle that I could make or possibly braiding together some silicone tube that I have. I could also possibly make a "loopy johnny" sort of thing. The last two may be quieter, but they seem to be rated more severe. . . . .

Any input would be great, either on the implements or on other things that I should know.

Use a small paddle and drill a hole or two in the handle end so you can make a loop of leather or rope similar to a dog's leash/handle. That way it won't fly out of her hand and she won't have to hold it so tightly. There is really no way you can make spanking or paddling quiet.

KIDS, yeah, we had that problem for a while. We would only do severe stuff when they were away for the night, weekend or at sleep away camp. Sometimes the screaming got loud, but once we got caught in the middle of a scene by our older daughter and they both saw our equipment room, we were less reserved in our noise and activities in the house because they both knew we were deranged. Once you're open about it, it's not that you can get away with more, but they aren't surprised when they hear you. My husband and I hear our daughters and we told them we will not interfere. People do "weird" stuff and once everyone accepts that, you can all just do (most of) it.

OK, so I'm thinking probably 12"x3", likely no holes (some of those pictures of blue/red/yellow bottoms are not really appealing). I'm not sure how thick it should be, I'm thinking 1/4-3/8" split and sanded hardwood so it's strong and won't break but still light enough to not bruise too much (unless she really wants it to 😈 ).

Not sure whether I should make it plain and functional or try and cute it up a bit. I'm also not sure about the best shape. I'm thinking oval, but rounded edge square seems to be traditional.

I might make a braided hose strap as well. It shouldn't be too hard, and it will give her choice.

Sail battens are good.

Their width stays constant but their thickness tapers from one end to the other and are made of fiberglas. Just sand the sides and you have a great paddle. One about three feet long and two inches wide will make one end flexible and sting badly, the other thick end will hurt like hell.

Thank you again, West Marine.

An equine tack store is a great place to find pervertables.

I am more concerned with your wife's comfort i have known people with carpal tunnel syndrome and I fear most items will end up with her in a lot of pain giving it to you.... One solution is to find an electric motor say like a hand mixer (most people i know who have done this sort of thing have used an electric drill but that might be a bit heavy for your wife to use comfortably ) and remove the blades and attach leather shoe laces.... One might try a dollar store hand held fan but i think the motor may be a bit too light. Your wife would know best but I really think the most of a traditional implement might be painful for her... and in the end you pain is what we want, not any "this will hurt me more than it does you" I know I have had hand spankings that left me relatively unpained but left the spanker with a very sore hand...

I am more concerned with your wife's comfort i have known people with carpal tunnel syndrome and I fear most items will end up with her in a lot of pain giving it to you.

In that case I'll probably push it off until after she winds up having surgery and heals. I don't want to hurt her, and I think we both would be more interested in "intimate and maybe even erotic" (even if I wind up crying in her arms) than "mad scientist's lair."

Sail battens are good.

One about three feet long and two inches wide will make one end flexible and sting badly, the other thick end will hurt like hell.

How would you use that with me over her lap? Sounds like it would work great for a bent-over-the-desk type of thing, but I really want the skin-to-skin connection if I try this.

In the interest of an OTK experience, A Scottish tawse is painful with minimal effort given. She might be able to give you all you need with little pain to her, you must remember it was designed so that the frailest of teachers could maintain order in the classroom. A simple two fingered model is all you really need. From the tack shop a BILLET CINCH STRAP can easily be cut down to a fine suitable alternative for a cheaper price.

I'll definitely keep it in mind and have a plan for later (maybe even start work on supplies), but for now if she's going to do something that might give her some wrist pain I'd much rather it be a prostate massage, since that can be fun and might have some health benefit 😉 .