Kink Gene?

I think there may be some studies on sexuality and genetics but I'm just now looking into them. According to Quora.com, there's a "long discussion on Biology and sexual orientation, and there doesn't seem to be a clear consensus on the matter." But the more I read about evolutionary psychology the more my earlier suspicions that we inherit some of our sexual tendencies from or parents gets confirmed. I started noticing behavior about my father when I was about 10 years old that I thought was somehow sexually peculiar. I couldn't put my finger on it but something was making me think, "I wonder if he's gay?" I quickly dismissed this though and put the "blame" for thinking such awful thoughts on myself. Surely my dad isn't gay. It must be me. Right?

Now, some 40 years later, I have come to accept my sexual kinks, fetishes, and preferences and wonder just how much I inherited from good ol' pop. I'm pretty kinky and where did that come from?

. . . . Now, some 40 years later, I have come to accept my sexual kinks, fetishes, and preferences and wonder just how much I inherited from good ol' pop. I'm pretty kinky and where did that come from?

Being gay or bi is a different kind of "kink" than med-fet, enemas, diapers, injections and BDSM.

It's different not because of WHAT you do, it's WHO you do it with.

Kink and fetishes definitely run in families. It may be familial or genetic. What I can say is that when we have gotten together for big family gathering weekends for Thanksgiving and other big holiday weekends, discussions have occasionally "degraded" to the point where we discuss sex and BDSM. At least half of my cousins and their children as well as my children have either experimented with BDSM, frequently engage in it or are interested in trying it out. For my children, part of it was being exposed to kink/BDSM at a young age [seeing us do it in person] and my husband and I never pre-empting any of their masturbatory activities, in fact being open about it and encouraging it. I even gave bondage and S&M lessons to one of my daughters because she expressed an interest.

more in a little while. . . .

Well certainly from the posts I've read there isn't any one better qualified to teach introductory lessons in bdsm then yourself susie, new side line business perhaps? 😃

Joking aside I think there is a great deal of truth in it; "the apple never falls far from the tree" and whilst too young to know about kinks etc and what her mom gets up to, eldest has already inherited her mom's insatiable masterbatory habits and alternative use for a sharpie.

After having read this thread, I now wonder if my attraction to the idea of enemas could be because in my family background (although no one actually came out and openly discussed it), I do vaguely remember someone in my family's past saying something about a woman who was always carrying her enema bag with her where ever she went.

My husband's sister and I talk about our sex lives. I'd bet my bottom dollar that she's somewhere here at ZITY. A couple years back we had a get together with high school friends. Most of the girls are still married to the boy/man they went to high school with. I'd say they were as active as I am but not a darn bit bashful about talking about it. We have a mix of house wives like me, teachers. military professionals, doctors, etc. These ladies are still deeply in love with the men they met in high school.

I can't recall my parents being close to one another. All they did was fight and call each other names. I was treated like a Cinderella stuck in the cinders. My father called me fat cow because my hips were wide. I can't see anywhere in my young life where I picked up any Kink Gene from my family. And I never received an enema until I was married.

Perhaps these things we enjoy now were buried in us a long time ago. I don't know much about genetics but I do know that love opens the doors to many good things. I guess one and one finally made two.

Kink gene ?

There's a complex interplay between genetics and the environment: There's also something called epigenetics, which involves the interplay between the expression of genes based on the environment.

A great example of this is the warrior gene (MAOA-L): People who are raised in normal environments or loving environments usually develop normal, but those who are subjected to abuse/rejection and violence, and/or forced to partake in violence against others can end up with serious aggression problems.

I assume some people are more prone to develop unusual sexual proclivities.

Sexual preferences are mostly a mix of social and personal context. Meaning that what one society/culture considers to be a ‘kink’ or non-standard sexual behavior, another culture may very well find to be perfectly normal and expected.

Moreover, what is considered to be a ‘kink’ or deviant behavior, can easily evolve over time within one culture and change.

So, unless all of our genes somehow mysteriously evolve and develop in the same manner in the same general time-frame, non-standard sexual behavior is more than likely determined by a person's individual experiences while growing up, by experiencing certain situations that bring on sexual excitement and fulfillment and by internalizing these situations as a personal preference and making them part of your sexual make-up and practices.