Embarrassed

How do I get over the embarrassment of letting my wife change me? She'll do it if I ask but not without some dirty looks. I don't want to force her but it would be nice sometimes. I just think diapers are for me alone so I find it embarrassing to ask her for a diaper change.

Do you think if I did it more often we would get closer? I want to find something to bring us together more. I'm having trouble being affectionate and I was wondering if this might bring us closer.

Any thoughts?

If your wife isn't a DL, what you are doing may only push her farther away.

She may not want to play with your piss and shit.

A few points here. Look at it from her point of view, if she's not comfortable with it, or not into it, and the more you push, the further away she'll move. I'm sure there are tasks you don't like doing in life, and the more you are required to do them, the more you dislike doing them. You may do things like this all the time, but begrudgingly.

She might want to, if you let her decide when and how much, to please you. You may want to make a bit of a deal with her. Let her know, you would be willing to do something for her, if she would be willing to change you. And let her decided, what she wants you do do for her in exchange. You may have to more for her, then you think is fair, but how important is it to you to have her please you?

I couldn't know how receptive she would be, and if it will work for the both of you? But, it's a suggestion.

Just keep in mind, no matter how much you want it to be, forcing it will not work.

Good luck!

I can't tell if you're asking how to get over being embarrassed over her changing you, or how to get her to do it more often.

If she changes you but you find it embarrassing? Well I personally would enjoy that humiliating aspect of it so I'm not sure what to tell you about that.

As for the rest, well you should probably talk to HER about things you can do to become closer. Also about the limits of how far she'll go with respect to your diapers. Sounds like she is at least willing to let you wear them whenever you want to, and that's a good place to start and a better situation than most of the folks here. I wouldn't at all force anything, but ask her how far she's comfortable with going. And also ask her what you can do FOR HER.

Me? I was prudent enough to work all of this out with mine before we got married. I'd just finally accepted the fact that I'm always going to want my diaper time and that anybody I ever married would have to know about it and accept it, so, when I got to that point I told her we needed to talk about "something" (and I was scared to death but knew it had to be done, and it worked out just fine). I can't imagine having to work this out after the fact. Well, good luck.

I know this may be hard for you to hear, but it really does sound like she just tolerating your diapers. This kink is not for most people, and as a DL, I often forget that most people see a diaper as simply something to absorb pee/poop, and do not get what we find so pleasurable about wearing a diaper. I believe most DL's fall into that same trap.

Perhaps you do need to try and see it from that perspective, and find a way for her not to feel pushed aside by your diapers.

I wish you the best with this -- good luck and I hope it all works out.

I did it! I asked for a diaper to be put on me and she did! She's getting used to me wearing diapers and bought me all sorts of stuff. She put me in a nice thick diaper and I used my tongue to satisfy her needs. She just wants attention too. She played with me in my diaper but I didn't get off it just felt fantastic!

I guess I just had to ask!

I say, good for you Diaperlover! Have fun and enjoy.

I think it is a tough thing for others to accept that we love to be in diapers it is so sad because we need the love also we are not bad people at all it is just about diaper wearing and adults taking care of us so we dont hurt anyone by doing this but I guess we will never be accepted

I agree with sissy toddler. It is very hard to have others except someone who likes to wear diapers. For me I do have a friend that does except me in diapers. We get together and have some fun. We do not hurt anyone when we do this, and also she does not mind it at all.

My wife is not into any kind of sex let alone the fetish scene.

But she does allow me to play (by myself) but I have to change myself as she won't have anything to do with it.

But she has compromised by letting me play and not tried to "wean me off them"....

Honestly it takes time. What I found that has worked in my marriage is that you love and cherish your wife and make her the center of attention. The more I did this the more she was willing to act as my mommy. Diaper changes went from very infrequently to multiple times a day. In addition she also frequently teases me about wearing diapers and at times can be a very playful Mommy. Never give up hope that your significant other will one day accept that you wear diapers. Love sometimes has a way of figuring it all out.

My wife does allow me to sit in the living room with my Foley installed and a Diaper she will not change me ,she does give a look like well ok but i don't have to do anything maybe she will come around someday i hope so .Life is so short we have lost a lot of friends in the past years, we need to enjoy and do what we love before our time comes...long live the Foley Catheter with Diapers..

It did take me a little bit to find someone who would not mind changing my diapers. When we talked I did come out and tell her I wore diapers. She works as a CNA and deals with diapers all the time. The first time we meet I did have on a diaper on under my cloths, and I did tell her I was wearing one. When she started coming over I always had my diaper concealed and would change myself When I needed to.

About 2 months later when she was over she said she didn't mind if I wanted to go around in just a diaper. When she said that it was a load off my mind and then I knew she was excepting me as a person who liked to wear diapers. I'm not going to lie I was nervous at first. As we sat and talked my nerves somewhat calmed down. After talking a little bit I told her that I was going to go change and she told me she would do it for me. When she change me it was the best thing ever. From this day forward she still does all my diaper changes for me.

My wife is not into any kind of sex let alone the fetish scene.

My wife lets me wear my diapers and will put me in them and change me (well, she'll do wet ones--I've never asked her to do it when they're loaded and don't think she'd want to go THAT far, but otherwise she doesn't care if I do it and keep my distance).

But she absolutely does not understand the fetish thing. She understands that I love the way my diapers feel against me when they're warm, wet and loaded. She understands that I'm aroused by how they smell. And she understands the excitement I get from wearing them out in public, risking being seen, and being humiliated over it.

But she doesn't understand how just seeing them / touching them / being near them is exciting to me, how I get excited just taking everything (diapers, plastic pants, sissy clothes, etc) out and being surrounded by them--or how I "love" them. It's weird, but when I put them on and start to use them, it's almost like they "come alive" for me and become the object of my desires. (One day maybe I will expound upon that in another post).

To her, it's only possible to love another person--not an "inanimate object". Which is fine. I think that mostly men have fetishes--I've read of men having fetishes for diapers, panties, women's clothes, women's shoes--all sorts of things. I don't recall ever hearing of any women with similar desires (other than that scene in the movie "Porky's" where the girl gets horny when she goes into the boys' locker room).

I started buying Plastic pants behind my wifes back ,then tucking them under our bed when she was around ,one-day I forgot to move them ,She found them ,and through them in the bin , I plucked up courage to ask where did she put them ? She said "binned " I was mortified ! , After a careful few mins of deep thought ,I said to her ,that I dribble a bit ,and its not nice leaving stains on the bed . I dont !! but I needed my Plastic Pants badly ! . She said "why not visit the dr "?? So I had to carry out the plan she said . Oh yes !! I pushed & prodded by the Doctor ,and she suggested further investigation !! . I was Stuffed ! ,I mumbled "yes ok " , I visited the clinic ,thankfully nothing wrong I-that knew anyway !! . I came home and told the Wife ,"They Suggested " i should use incon pants ,I quicklly said "those Pants " i used would be Ok .She agreed ,BUT use the washing machine after each use . We have not had a proper sex in over four years now She suffers with soreness ,So my Babies Plastic pants comes in handy . I love wearing them ,especially after the internet discussions & well-padded & AB Kingdom .The strange thing is ,the day my wife gave me the OK to wear my PPs was the day I first pinched my first pair from behind some-ones fence it was raining that day too Ive only ever washed & put them in the airing cupboard ,but Always feels very embarraced wearing them if we are in bed together ,& yes ! one morning I loved my wife whilst wearing them ,with the waist band pulled down below my cock whilst making love to her as my soft babies Plastic pants Rubbed her .But Yes I only wear my Plastic Pants in the dark . But it seems not many women like plastic Pants ,only sadly the girls of AB Kingdom ,& my Beautiful "Kate " who starred in "Well-Padded " Who I miss so much !