Comparison with your partner's previous partners

I am curious to what extent you have asked a current partner about a previous partner's sexual attributes. I suspect this might be a male thing, being the fragile, insecure individuals we are. I think there is a natural curiosity about tastes, practices, physical attributes, etc.

Is it just poor form to bring these subjects up? Given the constant concern with penis size, for example, most men probably need the reassurance that they are better endowed, even if she is lying through her teeth.

I never asked. However, my wife, during our first sexual encounters, remarked that I seemed to have a thicker penis than her previous boyfriends - but that she had limited experience. First penetrations were a tad uncomfortable, but I think the issue was more her being nervous than penis size.

My wife had no previous partners, so in her case this question doesn't apply.

As for her asking me, I've answered all her questions on this, and as I consider her a perfect 10/10 physically and sexually, I was able to say she had nothing to worry about.

With previous girlfriends, I never asked. If they volunteered information then fine, but it really made no difference to me. Some of those with insecurities asked me about previous partners, even though they really shouldn't have been so concerned. I can say that all my previous partners were physically attractive and as individuals had other qualities in their sexual performances.

I have to admit curiosity often gets the best of me . While I had several boyfriends before I got married I've only had sex with a total of 5 men . So compared to many of friends I dont that have much experience in comparing them . Of those five they have been all pretty much on the same playing field as far as size ( only one was noticeably smaller) and skill . Whenever ive been asked by them ive always been as truthful as can be while still stroking their ego . Ive asked several of them and male friends too about other women , some because I felt insecure about myself ( more so now then ever) some out of curiosity or just wanting to compare technique maybe learn something . Just always remember , even though you may think you want to know you may not like what you hear .

I have trouble imagining how this could ever be a good idea. It may be a male thing, but I don't think it gets you anywhere. Merely asking tells your partner that you are insecure. That's not a good thing. Then you have no way of knowing how accurate/truthful any answer is. Even if you hear that you compare favorably, you don't know if that's true, or just a lie to make you feel good for a short while. If you hear that you do not compare favorably, where does that leave you, more than just your ego is deflated. If you are told "none of your damn business" now you're pissed off and that's not romantic.

Don't ask. Don't tell.

Hard not to do a comparison even if subconsciously as one is in such close contact.

I had known my now husband about 3 weeks and the relationship looked like it was going somewhere, so 1 night we agreed, don't ask me about my past, you will not be asked about yours.

He does know my ex as they are both lawyers, we both live on the same side of town and will run into him and his now wife at a restaurant ever so often where we will make small talk then move on. He had custody of his daughter when we got married and his ex-wife hated me for living, but as she saw what I helped mold her daughter into,her views softened and we actually became halfway friends.

As far as his past I could care less and he seems to feel the same about me.

I revealed most but not all of my sexual history to my now wife of 30+ years. She did the same as well but of course I don't know if she withheld some info. I don't mind if she did not tell me everything, but what's important is our relationship since we got married.

I will say I think I should have been more forthcoming regarding my fetishes from the beginning which probably would have made things more awkward at first, but would have been better for the long-term.

I have had many previous partners.

The only time I remember their physical attributes is if they were on the edges of the bell curve.

Mainly I remember if they were good in bed and how I felt with them, not how well endowed they were.

This is probably not a good topic for conversation with most current partners unless they are very secure in their sexuality.

I am curious to what extent you have asked a current partner about a previous partner's sexual attributes.

Average length and slightly above girth here. The current GF unit assures me I'm plenty big enough (for her). Would not quantitatively compare me to her ex's though. A previous GF told me her ex was waaaay too long (and painful) at 10 inches, a major cervix destroyer, and I as a contrast was just fine. My batting average for PIV stimulated orgasms is about three hundred across 15 women, give or take. My oral average is about 900. So, I've stopped asking.