What is this?

In my sex life, I am always the submissive and I am most satisfied with an absolutely dominant male partner. It is a very Dominant/submissive sexual life I lead, but without any gear, any lingo or any safe words at all. It is always unspoken. I don't have scenes, I just get sexually dominated and privately physically humiliated. It is what I want and I didn't have to ask for it. I do not personally like the outfits and scenes but does that make this any different than if I did have outfits and safe words, etc? Does anyone else here do things this way?

Are you saying you do S&M, bondage and/or corporal punishment in your domination and submissive sex life or you just do what your partner tells you to do?

I'll have more to say when you explain yourself.

I usually do. 😁

It is all about trust.

A person who knows you very well won't need you to scream a safeword, he won't push you to that level. It's like married couple usually have private kinky lives but they don't need contracts like in usual BDSM relations and trust me, if you have a guy with kinks contrasting with yours, that's perfect, love life and kinky side don't always mix.

I'd like to find something like you have too.

I don't get tied up or anything. I do what he tells me. He slaps me and he fucks me very hard things like that then he spit in my mouth and made me lick his asshole. But I'm saying he didn't ask and maybe he knows I like it. The fact that someone mentioned trust was something that made sense. I was with one guy in a very similar submissive sexual relationship. We were very close in daily life but in the bedroom it was really D/s he wanted to piss on me but I didn't trust him like that and I was glad bc we broke up a short time later. I was just wondering if this was something that other people do. If there are other people who 'do the things', without bringing it up as a topic or using any gear. Except one large dildo so he can dp me.

You had a D/s relationship, not one of S&M. You just did whatever he said to do. Some people have relationships like that. My husband and I do S&M and we switch roles from time to time. We're pretty evenly matched.

We use extensive amounts of gear for bondage and punishment as well as having a lot of leather and latex outfits. I don't like vinyl.

I'm glad to hear someone say they love rubber and don't like vinyl. Same with me. Very superficially, they can look similar because you can polish both to almost patent leather shininess. But that's the only thing similar, and being very shiny, though pleasant, is not necessary as an attractive part of rubber to me. For me, I love rubber's look, how it hangs and rustles, the aroma, the tightness which by itself is mildly restrictive and occasionally even the taste. I'm a rubber lover now and forever.

Eric