Being controlled and a little pain

I know this is weird but I always liked the feeling that the guy was in control and I always liked it to hurt just a little. I was first surprised with anal sex in college and at first I protested but the guy used the right amount of self control and the right amount of control over me and there was also just the right amount of pain. Anal sex has always been my dirty little secret that I have visited occasionally over the years with certain people that I would bring there. Sometimes I need to be controlled and to be hurt a little.

This is interesting... Would you be so kind as to tell us more about that first experience?

It's true with patience and control anal sex can be a great enjoyment, to make it nearly painless right lubricant is also equally important. Lidocaine or any such local anesthetic jelly would give the best result, just try it and feel the difference.

@pallabmitra states :

It's true with patience and control anal sex can be a great enjoyment, to make it nearly painless right lubricant is also equally important. Lidocaine or any such local anesthetic jelly would give the best result, just try it and feel the difference.

DO NOT use any compound (cream or jell) that utilizes a de sensitizing / pain reducing agent for anal sex. . NOT EVER !!!!!

To do so has the potential for serious trouble

It sounds like you enjoy "being taken." It is difficult to imagine a more surrendering experience than submitting to anal penetration and sex, so being held down and defiled in this way is a turn-on for you. The little bit of pain underscores the involuntary nature of the act for you, and the immobility is kind of a power transfer, which submissives get off on in general.

Try having him hold your wrists together behind your back with one hand while gently (but firmly) pinning your neck/head to the bed with the other. That usually goes over well with both parties.

Oh and what That Australian said 10x. Too much pain = warning you something's very, very wrong or your body isn't ready. One finger, two fingers, three fingers...you know.

Here a link from the french side about anal, sorry it is in french, but good to know for ones who have some anal pleasures too.

http://www.medisite.fr/sante-sexuelle-7-choses-que-vous-ne-savez-pas-sur-lanus.947305.86.html

Paragraph 6 is not true a little rince or little enema is better to be really ready to share anal fun.

What my wife and I like we'd not call "pain" but "discomfort". A slight soreness afterwards reminds me that I had a dildo up there not long ago.

The intense pressure as your rectum is penetrated is all part of it. I love to be taken by an aggressive man. Being sore afterwards just reminds me of the pleasure.