Spanking : Impromptu or Anticipated ?

Do you prefer a surprise on the spot getting bared and spanked event or a foreseen and anticipated happening ?

I have never been spanked, but if I had I think that I would like for it to be spontaneous, just out of the blue and something that I could not plan for. And I feel the same way about giving, I would not warm the spanked it would just happens.

Both types of spankings have their great points--the thrill of anticipation, waiting as your appointment over the knee gets closer, that must count for something.

On the other hand, having your pants pulled down, and getting dragged OTK without more than a "now you're going to get it...". has to be very exciting.

Both are common for those who were spanked as children (I was not), and for those of us who have only had a few adult spankings (mine have been mainly at Fetish events, in a diaper) these type of scenarios really depend on being in a spanking relationship.

I prefer planned so I can experience the delicious anticipation. It's even better when she gives me constant reminders that make me squirm.

My wife has been spanking me for 45 years, both for our pleasure and for my punishment, some times for both at the same time! Well, here goes, my wife informed me that I would be getting a spanking that I would not forget... I have heard that before. She then told me to get into bed on my stomach and hand her "my" brush, a bath brush. I have all ways wanted to be restrained for a spanking so that I could not move out of position, at least for about 10 seconds, before making my self get back in position for the spanking to resume. I have been positioned so that I could not get out of position only twice before, once in the diaper position, & once as above, on my stomach, with my wife sitting on my legs, that time she must have paused a few times before I could stop begging and pleading for my spanking to stop! This time, again with her sitting on my legs, it was different, MUCH different!! The tempo was VERY fast and HARD! I can not ever remember being in so much pain immediately! And it did not stop! I usually have time, in between begging and pleading to suck on my thumb, or pacifier to help me keep quiet, and accept my spanking. NOT this time! She must have spanked me 50-100 times, non stop! I got what I wanted, a spanking that I had no control over, & could not move out of position, so that it would lessen the pain! Later we both had orgasms that were not forgettable! I hope this will happen once a month! I still can not believe how much it hurt!

Years ago my late Wife gave me the most painful yet bittersweet spanking in my life! As agreed to she was going to give my bare ass a spanking to remember(and I always Will)! she put me in restraints face down on the bed with doubled pillows under me to elevate my ass for what was to come! She used our "PRISON STRAP" which we both had used on each other many times before but this ass strapping was going to be severe and she would stop only when she was satisfied that I had enough!

Well she began the strapping standing at the side of the bed and gave my ass 5 sound smacks with the strap! Then she would go around to the other side of the bed and give my deserving ass 5 more hot smacks! This went on what seemed to be never ending as my squirming flinching red ass was on fire !! Just when I thought I couldn't take anymore she laid that strap to my hurting ass even harder! I was near tears as She said: You have been over due for this real ass beating for a long time and now I'm giving you what you want/need and deserve, at that moment I was totally surprised what came over me!

My ass was almost numb with pain when all of a sudden my cock grew hard and I had an orgasm as I screamed out of control in bittersweet ecstasy!! She stopped the strapping soon after! She then released my restraints rolled me over on my back and positioned herself on top of me so she could suck my cock dry while I gave her oral service front & rear until she had a water fall orgasm all over my face!! Needless to say that was a once in a lifetime experience that gave us both an erotic sexual satisfaction we had never experienced before!!

I would very much like to Explore/Share similar scenarios with a like minded Bi-Male who is DOM? SUB? or SWITCH? I could also be interested in a Bi-CD who would like to share/explore give? and or receive? sensuous/kinky/erotic scenarios?? Over the past few years I have had a couple Bi-Encounters and one Bi-CD endeavor in which some spanking/enema play and sex were enjoyed by all, If there is anyone here that is interested in chatting/meeting and playing??? I would love to hear from you? (~;

I finally went to the florist to get a $ 50. flower arrangement, as present to my wife, for my spanking posted previously! I included a Thank You note, with some of what made it a spanking to remember! I also asked for this type of a spanking more often, much more often! When she exclaimed all this just for a spanking? I replied that it was not just a spanking!

Over the years i've spanked/been spanked both impromptu and anticipated. I actually like both but it depends on the other person which way is most arousing for each of us ? I think role play with spanking enhances both the Dom/Sub equally!! For me that seems to be the case and I've had some pretty good hot times, Both Ways !

Has to be a foreseen and anticipated spanking.

Just knowing it is coming and it will hurt........the butterflies and the mind games too.

I love the mind games I play on my spankees!!

I think they can each be equally yummy. You have the anticipation , nervousness, even dread that adds to the excitement of knowing your fate and then the unexpected shock of being hauled over the knee and bottom bared . Both YUM !

I think they can each be equally yummy. You have the anticipation , nervousness, even dread that adds to the excitement of knowing your fate and then the unexpected shock of being hauled over the knee and bottom bared . Both YUM !

I think @bridgette hit the target (pun intended). There is something delicious about watching her wonder when that spanking is coming and how much it will hurt. Her whining, pleading and nerves on edge all add to the fun. On the other hand, I remember one incident many years ago where something she said just ticked me off and I hauled her over the study chair, bared her backside and turned it bright red before sending her off to her office for the day....

Delicious indeed !

Anticipation really makes it. It increases the embarrassment and anxiety of the upcoming spanking.

Anticipation because there is a whole thought process that goes along with it... when,where... with what , more than one implement.... position, even afterwards what happens ... sometimes it's just the waiting period you go thru... all that stuff running through your mind.

Regarding my post ( # 5), we just got back from a 2 week drive 2,600 miles with me driving, we went to a relatives birthday party & another relatives wedding. During the 2 weeks I had 6 big baby full blown temper tantrums, I thought I only had 2! While driving home I was reminded of this, ^ tantrums = 6 spankings of at least 100 spanks each! Later while driving home, I was told too many times " NO Talking back"! and I cant wait to get home so that I can spank you! The result was bringing me to tears, lightly sobbing, breathing raggedly, dreading the spankings I had earned in the past 2 weeks! When she noticed, and asked me what was the matter, what is wrong? I meekly stated that I was thinking about my spankings when we get home! She replied "GOOD YOU SHOULD BE"! I am still not ready to be spanked like I was as stated in post # 5, but it will not be my choice!