Has anyone here transitioned and regretted it?

Hello, I don't know if anyone will reply to this however, when I read about gurls who have transitioned (MTF though this is open to anyone) it always super positive in nature. My question is, has anyone transitioned and regretted for any reason? I don't think that I would but, nonetheless I like to make informed decisions. Lastly, if so why?

While I have not transitioned myself, I know about 6 girls who have and all are 100% sure that they made the right decision. Some are sad that some family members or friends have refused to accept their transition.

Transitioning will not solve all your problems. However, my observations would suggest that most of the ladies seemed to address their issues better after transition.

The vast majority of people who transition are happy with their decision. As a previous responder says, sometimes people are sad that they have lost people as a result of transitioning, but actual regret is rare. Detransitioning (returning to the pre-transition gender) is extremely rare.

I myself do support others who do make this decision in life. I feel if this makes this person happy to change to the opposite sex then so be it. Yes you might make your family and friends upset, but if your happy then that's all that counts. I myself have never meet anyone who has made the transition, but hope one day I can.

I have very profound respect for someone who seeks to transition. It is not a process that takes place quickly and, personally, it deserves professional guidance both medically and psychologically. The use of hormone and hormone blockers has become more accepted even for transgender children and youth. The occurrence of surgery remains less utilized until adulthood. Total reassignment is also deferred due to cost and other reasons and is a very profound decision. My wish is that one seek guidance, support, and counseling so that you can address what is best for you free from judgment.

If someone wants to make the transition then they should do it if it makes them happy. No one should stand in the way of your dreams. I myself have never meet anyone who has made the transition, but have seen pictures and some are very hot looking.

I think the most important thing is for you to be happy with things. Proper counselling is important but you have to decide what is best for you. There are so many variations you can do. You need to choose the decisions that are right for you, I have heard of both extremes in MTF. Ones that want to be a girl but love their penis so much they want to keep it. This is probably a small group in the MTF world but need to be respected. And of course the others who are very troubled by having the wrong plumbing so to speak and need a full transition. This is likely the majority goal. But like I said I know of those living without treatment who are happy and feel they are good with simply living in "drag" and others who have had complete surgery on both sides. The ones I have known personally have had no regrets. I have known others who are very happy with only top surgery alone. You have lots to consider and qualified Dr.s and psychological help should help you come to the process best for you. I wish you all the best.

I'm a trans man (FTM) and I know a lot of people who've transitioned. I only know 2 who have fully detransitioned, I know a few more who started out binary and later moved into a non-binary/genderqueer state - the latter may well be because more people now know that's a possibility. I'd never heard of non-binary people when I started transitioning 11 years ago, I wasn't even aware trans men existed until I was about 15 or I'd probably have figured out I was one a lot sooner.

Many people are scared to talk about detransitioning because the idea that it's a phase or that they might regret the decision is used against us all the time as an excuse for denying support and healthcare, particularly to younger people. Medical transition is often presented by the media as something that happens overnight and it really doesn't, you have a lot of time to think about each stage and if you want to delay it past the minimum time for any reason that's okay too. In the UK you'd be looking at 3-4 years from referral to a specialist clinic to actually having genital surgery, even if you've got money coming out of your ears and can pay for everything privately it probably wouldn't be less than 2 years. The stringent guidelines for diagnosis and referral for hormones and surgery plus waiting times mean you've got to be pretty determined to get to where you want to be, anyone who has significant doubts will likely drop out long before they get to the truly irreversible stages. Detransitioning does happen but the social and medical difficulty of transitioning means that it's very rare.

I have never yet met anyone who has ever regretted it.

I always intended to have the complete reassignment surgery myself. It was only when I fell out with my psychiatrist at the. gender clinic at Charring Cross hospital that I never had the surgery.

I was young and impatient, I had been on the waiting list for ages, just waiting for my date. When I went ahead and paid for my own breast enlargement surgery without their permission so to speak, we had an almighty row.

They demanded to know how I had paid for the surgery, when and where I had it done etc.

I was quite open and blunt with them, and said it was really none of their business, but when I informed them that it was with the money I had been saving from doing escort work, he went mental. We had a massive fall out and he discharged me.

I was then determined to get enough money to pay for the reassignment surgery myself, so I upped my escort work and was doing agency, independent, and street work to get enough money.

However I quickly realised, especially with the agency work, that clients wanted girls with functional penises if they were booking trans women.

Otherwise they would just book a real genetic girl.

So it was a catch 22 situation. I never went through with it.

Now I have given the escort work up, and I could probably afford to pay for it myself, I find myself maybe too old to have to go through all of the risky surgery, as I am now in my late 50s.

I realise that I have lived 40+ years of my life as a female without any problems, and without having the complete surgery, so now at my age, do I really need it.?

Some days I think yes, I really do, and decide to get something done about it, then a couple of weeks later, I wonder if it would be such a good idea at my time of life.?

However, I will definitely say, that if I was younger, then yes, 100% I would get it done asap.

Hi all 😃

I'm out since 2014 and started transitioning since January 2015. I'm now pretty much complete to my own feelings. I am happy in my skin and I did have GRS a little over one year ago.

I am not looking for top surgery as well as facial surgery, however my bottom surgery was very important to me, but everyone is different of course.

I haven't had a single moment of regret. I did have difficult times in the beginning of my transition when I was still very masculine features, but thanks to the hormones that has become much less.

I do know of a few local trans woman that have their doubts a short time into transitioning, but the problem is usually the time it takes to see progress. The ones I know have now gotten over that and are happy with their progress.

Money, health and social acceptance are a big issue for some of us. But so is living in hapiness with yourself and feeling happy in your skin.

I know I will never be a biological woman, I remember where I came from, but I am happy to be a trans woman who is accepted by her family and friends, and accepted at work.

I don't think I will ever look back and regret.

Love and hugs, Erin.

See this documentary:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-pxxBQm114k

This Washington Post story addresses some of the "statistics" found in the YouTube video.

https://www.washingtonpost.com/opinions/five-myths-about-transgender-issues/2016/05/13/eca17dbc-177e-11e6-9e16-2e5a123aac62_story.html?noredirect=on&utm_term=.ad3a6280490f

I've had 2 trans women that had bottom surgery warn me about complications with bottom surgery. I never expressed a desire to have the surgery, but both were just being kind to someone they chatted with/saw pictures of and wanted to help. Fortunately, I have a beautiful fully functional penis and enjoy being a non-op trans woman very much. I don't need to "transition" to enjoy being me.

No regrets. My goal was to develop some female characteristics to coincide with my feminine feelings. Once I achieved that I stopped hormones. My breasts are now a good A cup and still growing a bit. I present as a man when dressed, as a girl when not. I am very happy with my life and body, and my psychological feelings. Only on Zity do I come out as "Trans". My feelings are complicated (whose aren't) so I didn't want to go too far. I considered removing my useless balls, but decided not to when I looked into the research. There is none! So no go.

The hormones intensified some feminine outlook which is welcome. I have loved having sex with women and men, but romantic only with women. I just like Masculine Equipment! And to be a girl with men.

No regrets. My goal was to develop some female characteristics to coincide with my feminine feelings. Once I achieved that I stopped hormones. My breasts are now a good A cup and still growing a bit. I present as a man when dressed, as a girl when not. I am very happy with my life and body, and my psychological feelings.

That is good to hear and I am happy for you.

In some (too many) social groups, there is often too much opposition, not to say outright hatred towards people who have transitioned and it manifests itself in many ways, often by telling what are likely fake 'horror' stories about regrets doing so.

Glad it worked out for you.

People who belong to a minority, such as homosexual, transgender, non-binary or disabled people, naturally have a higher risk of developing a mental illness and a higher risk of suicide. The conclusion that some draw from this is seemingly obvious, but nevertheless rarely accurate. It is not the decision to live out one's own homosexuality or to live outwardly as who one really is that is wrong, but the hostility, exclusion and judgment of the minority that makes life difficult for the people concerned.

Anyone who identifies themselves as a member of any kind of minority is at the mercy of "normal" people. But fortunately there are also many tolerant people who do not judge others and accept people as they are.

@agracier

Thank you for your impartiality and understanding. I appreciate it very much!

Incidentally, outing someone against their will is also a problem, which increases the pressure on transgender people. This also affects homosexual people. Many finally live with the body that suits them and start to enjoy life, only to be outted by doctors, authorities or people from their past. There is no way to defend oneself against this. Especially not legally. Many a life that someone who already has a hard time because he or she belongs to a minority has been ruined as a result.

Did I say anything about the girl I was introduced to? She was from another country. Her features were small as in small feet, no Adam's apple, and a penis along with boobies. I thought it was a girl even her voice was perfect. I have said it a thousand times that we stay nude here unless someone we don't know comes over. Well, we all had clothes on. I was told that Lisa used to be a man. I said, "No way." We were drinking and they told her to show me. We had made plans to go out so they wanted to prepare me to see a penis when we were getting ready. So Lisa took her clothes off and so did the rest of us. But when I saw her penis I said,"Oh how cute." I didn't know what to say but that is what came out. It was small as in very small and cute. Even hard it was very small about the length of my pointer finger and thin. After we returned from the club and they left I told my friend that I could fit that in my mouth and even my add. She said I know but it probably won;t do much for your vagina. It would be like tribbin. Then we started thinking she could put one of those extension things on it. We were just talking. I was actually worried when we were out what would happen if she picked up someone. What if they stuck their hand down there and found it? It was taped back between her legs. I said that has to be bad to have to hide it and all. Then her friend showed me an album of a whole bunch of girls and I was told they all used to be men. Then she said they go to clubs together in California where it is expected. Then she showed me a couple who are married. So it is normal in this day and age. We are close friends now. She and I share clothes. She never mentioned surgery. I know a girl who went to Belgium for the surgery and it was only ten thousand US dollars. I'm no expert at all but I think its cool.

I know a girl who went to Belgium for the surgery and it was only ten thousand US dollars. I'm no expert at all but I think its cool.

Was that many years ago? When mentioning surgery I automatically thought it might have been the ORR Clinic which specialized in performing surgery and procedures most other doctors would not do. It used to be located in the city where I live.

There have been quite some posts here on Zity about the ORR clinic. It was a place where no one was judged for what they asked. Nor was the doc and nurses out to make piles of money either.

@agracier unfortunately that surgeon, he has past away.😢

Wow, its 9 1/2 years ago that i came out the closet, and 9 years that i started hormones (first year self medication, since then officially) and its almost 7 years that i had my bottom surgery.

No regrets what so ever. ❤️🥑

Agracier I have no clue what the name of the place was.

I have taken Estradiol to develop breasts. I don't see myself as a girl and don't plan to seek that. But I do enjoy my little boobs! I have always been a breast man and wondered what girls felt when they were developing and when their breasts were played with. Now I know. Awsome!

So I don't see what I have done as transitioning. I control the Estrogen to keep my boobs hidable, but still there I love the little girls! I present as an alpha male, until I am naked! Then- all girl!

I didn't start until my cock and balls no longer functioned. I have actually enjoyed them shrinking so they are not in the way! I still feel to be a man, and enjoy men to use me as I have since grade school. But I have a girl friend I make love to frequently - she loves my hand, finger, mouth and tongue, and plays with my breasts and little cock and balls.

I have no regrets- I considered the effects and how to control them before starting the hormones. Would I recommend anyone else do this? Not my decision.

I am in the closet, and I am very happy.

I only just started my MtF transgender transitioning journey around 8 months ago. Started with HRT of estrogen and T- blockers for the first 5 months. Had an orchictomy using just estrogen.

I'm simply amazed how much has already changed and developed. I'm extremely happy with my transition journey with little trans dysphoria.

Very much looking forward to possible top surgery, but definitely bottom surgery without any regrets what so ever. TG-LIZ

As an OBGYN i have only treated FTM patients who have transitioned, and i would say about 5% or so of them have voiced pretty significant regret. I've probably cared for 70-100 pts or so, therefore i think its probably a more or less representative sample. Many more patients seem to view it as a give-take; they miss having sensitive nipples for example, but are glad they no longer have breasts and feel MUCH more comfortable in their skin and psyche having had top surgery.

None of the MtF girls I personally know have ever regretted physically transitioning via GRS/SRS/GCS, or in their personal social transition. In fact, at least 2 or 3 of them have told me, and publicly told others, that by transitioning it actually saved their lives, as the dysphoria with their maleness had grown to the point at some point in their lives that it was causing them to not want to live and they were seeking a permanent way out of that. So transitioning was no doubt what they needed and thank goodness there were resources available to help them. The majority of girls who have transitioned that I know, have no regrets at all about doing so.

This is so comforting to hear 2 weeks before my SRS bottom surgery. I'm incredibly excited and a bit nervous. I have absolutely no regrets whatsoever.