Assertive and dominant females

Married a long time ago and our marriage was different but equal. Now she rules the roost and sex is no longer part of our marriage.

Why no longer any sex? Did she lose interest? Performance issue? What happened for her to take over "the roost"?

If the other person is into the cucking thing, they should say that with their post, so we know it's mutually agreeable.

Painful. I have a relationship with a dominant women, it started with a playful spanking years ago. It just gets better everyday.

There are men who need female domination. It's good if they find a woman who can give it to them. Once I was talking to a man I knew. He said that since his wife used domination and corporal punishment on him, their marriage was better. Earlier, when he did something wrong, his wife was angry with him, she was offended for a long time. Now she punishes him and then forgives him.

Not in any type of a dom/sub relationship - BUT, depending on the mood and/or situation, either of us could “take control” In the bedroom…or kitchen…or wherever. In a sexual situation, we really never denied the other - but if I or my wife was the one that really wanted it and the other was a bit so-so - then the one who wanted it took control and made sure they got what they wanted. Actually, it was a win-win situation.

Not in any type of a dom/sub relationship - BUT, depending on the mood and/or situation, either of us could “take control” In the bedroom…or kitchen…or wherever. In a sexual situation, we really never denied the other - but if I or my wife was the one that really wanted it and the other was a bit so-so - then the one who wanted it took control and made sure they got what they wanted. Actually, it was a win-win situation.

@Rigel,

Just clarify - please pardon my occasional (or more…….) cognitive difficulties with some simple things obvious to others. In this note @Rigel did

“…….but if I or my wife was the one that really wanted it and the other was a bit so-so………”

mean wanted to be dominant that session? Thanks,

Eric

@ericmacson I was referring to who was the aggressor. Not so much dominant but “taking charge”. Example: I or my wife wanted to be anally invaded - we would show the other a toy and tell her (or me) to use it. The one getting invaded was definitely in charge. Other times it was the other way around. “I want your ass - and I’m going to have it!” “I want you NOW!” was never ignored. 😈

Dont know if that’s a good answer, but it’s how we interacted.

Theyre called Scottish women…been around for years.

@ericmacson I was referring to who was the aggressor. Not so much dominant but “taking charge”. Example: I or my wife wanted to be anally invaded - we would show the other a toy and tell her (or me) to use it. The one getting invaded was definitely in charge. Other times it was the other way around. “I want your ass - and I’m going to have it!”

Don't know if that’s a good answer, but it’s how we interacted.

@Rigel,

Thanks. It’s an excellent answer, actually somewhat more nuanced than my brain was understanding. That’s why I asked - because I wanted to be sure since you’re a friend, but also because this issue of dominance is very interesting to me with both myself and several recent exes being switches. We both loved her as the Domme giving me enemas mixed with our other kinks. I loved being a very submissive and helpless enema receptacle! However, my 2nd ex-wife told me after the wedding a few months that her most closely-guarded sexual secret was that she was dying to be sexually submissive some of the time with her husband dominantly giving her enemas. We both loved it either way.

I have another related topic or issue concerning Assertive or Dominant Females which I’ll try to organize into another post here soon if I can write it understandably enough.

Eric

I was always the more assertive person in my relationships.

My mother was as were nurses on child's ward so was my wife so yes