Assertive and dominant females

I had a relationship with a dominant female. I'd never really thought of her as such initially, just very sure of herself.

The relationship developed to where she would cane me for misbehaviour, etc. I found that I would go out of my way to please her. It also produced the best behaviour I've ever been able to display in my whole wayward existence.

We men are fairly simple creatures for you ladies to control. We need love, we need to be fed, and we need female discipline. But we do have this penchant for behaving like naughty little boys. We will usually push things as far as the we can get away with.

Therefore, a lady who wants a well behaved, attentive, respectful man, should keep a cane her wardrobe and not hesitate to use it when necessary, I promise you the difference you will see is startling!

You will also find that your sex life will move up to another higher dimension. He will become far more attentive to your pleasure and needs.

I wish I could find another lady like her!....

My wife really hid her dominate side for yrs and she is a lot younger than me.When incontinence showed up due to being a diabetic she came out it seems that I always lose the match up she even has a bedtime around 9:00 for me but there is no spanking she uses her mouth to control.I have become adjusted to it.

. . . . We men are fairly simple creatures for you ladies to control. We need love, we need to be fed, and we need female discipline. . . . .

You left out one important thing.

You want PUSSY and you slithering little ground crawlers will do whatever it takes to get it which is why you are so easy for us to control. 😁 😁 😁

I don't think anyone here will deny the "power of the pussy"! Why would men even live with women, if there were no pussies? 😉

I don't think anyone here will deny the "power of the pussy"! Why would men even live with women, if there were no pussies? 😉

My husband likes to say,

"Women, you can't live with'em and you can't shoot'em"

I always state " Their is no bloodshed yet, but the day is not over"! However I do happily anticipate spankings from my wifey, for the last 45 years!

Men are really like little boys. The only difference concerns prices of cars and other toys 😃)

Men are really like little boys. The only difference concerns prices of cars and other toys 😃)

I think our pussies are their favourite toys. 😃

@Amethyst says :

I think our pussies are their favourite toys. 😃

Gee there could be something IN that 😁

Gee there could be something IN that 😁

Let me think @That_Australian, what could you mean? Hahaha

Men are really like little boys. The only difference concerns prices of cars and other toys 😃)

I think our pussies are their favourite toys. 😃

Sometimes I wonder.

There are some nights my audiophile husband stays up until 3 or 4 in the morning listening to music, critiquing every little detail on the recording and he describes them to me the next day at breakfast or dinner.

People behave that way when have some non-comfortable thoughts, or overstressed. They are afraid of leave face to face with their mind and fulfill their time with such like this.

Talk to him, charm out what disturbs him.

Therefore, a lady who wants a well behaved, attentive, respectful man, should keep a cane her wardrobe and not hesitate to use it when necessary, I promise you the difference you will see is startling! .

If any woman I was in a relationship ever did that to me - and I think you meant this in a serious manner, not in the way of (erotic) role-playing - then indeed there would be startling differences. I would never ever deign to speak or see her again. If people are serious about a relationship or living together, then whacking with a cane does not, emphatically not enter into the equation.

Playing around and pretending is an entirely different manner. But if this is meant to be serious, then thank you, but no thank you. I am quite capable of cooking, cleaning and (if necessary) pleasing myself. In fact, with the cooking and cleaning and all errands, I've been doing it for decades. Men are not simple, helpless fools without a lady around.

Natalie73 said

People behave that way when have some non-comfortable thoughts, or overstressed. They are afraid of leave face to face with their mind and fulfill their time with such like this.

Talk to him, charm out what disturbs him.

Nothing disturbs him.

It sounds like you really don't know me and my husband at all, which is understandable since you have only been a member for four days.

My husband and I have known each other since we were 11 years old, have a marriage made in heaven, are extremely kinky, debauched, experienced sex maniacs. He isn't avoiding me some nights, he is simply enjoying his music and his investment in his own private music hall.

We have an incredible sex life. We have sex 3-4 days a week with a repertoire people would envy. If you read my posts and profile you'll see.

Men are not simple, helpless fools without a lady around.

Indeed, having ladies around is what tends to make men simple, helpless fools.

I know the best for me would have been to have found an assertive woman, elegant and cultured, 10 to 12 years older with a firm hand when I was in my early 20s

My favourite assertive dominant females are nurses who give me buttock injections. Although I thoroughly enjoy the thrill of a beautiful nurse giving me painful shots in my vulnerable bare bottom, I often feign protest when told to pull down my pants and bend over to get them for the enhanced excitement of making her strict with me.

I am clearly attracted to assertive women. I find more fulfillment in a relationship where the woman is assertive sexually. I am not saying control necessarily... Maybe just someone who has clear expectations and confident willingness to express her kinky desires with an attitude that she deserves to be treated anyway she desires. If she wants to shower me or use a strapon on me and says so that gets my fires going. I find I want to comply with a woman like that.

I'm single at the moment, but I've had lots of girlfriends in the past. I lived with a Spanish girl when I was thirty. She was eighteen, but she regularly initiated sex and she got on top of me in bed, much more than I got on top of her. She definitely dominated me and slapped my bottom if I argued with her.

Otherwise, I like to think I have 50/50 relationships, but the girl usually ends up controlling me, if i'm to be honest.

The power of the pussy.

I started out with my wife on equal terms over 30 yrs ago.When my incontinence started her personality changed and since she had me go back into diapers to keep things dry.The assertive side out can,t figure out if the diapers changed everything no funny business of course I,am the only one wetting the bed which she dose get on me.

My wife has always been a strong and assertive woman! She found her Dominance of me when I gave her a paddle to spank me! she took to spanking me like a duck to water! And it gets her WET, and hard, at least until turned 50! She has also stated that i am getting a spanking only because she CAN and WANTS TO spank me! Still being spanked for fore play AND punishments! Oh my daughter is the same as my wife and probably spanks her husband as well!!

I prefer assertive and dominate females. I love them over the ones that say 'I don't. Know what you want me to do' I have no problem being dominated or told what to so. I feel women are superior.

I have always preferred the more Dominant type of female... they just turn me on and always have tone of voice how direct they can be it’s a beautiful thing.

I love doing absolutely everything I can to please my gf/Domme. Makes for a great relationship.

Where do couples like us belong----clearly not here----I ask if we are alone.??? My wife is great--she is not dominating--we make decisions together and she is so very supportive of me in life-------I do get my naked butt paddled once in a while for something really serious-----We have never had a disagreement as to a paddling- we both seem to know at the same time when a bare paddling has to settle something---It is a real punishment paddling and my naked butt ( I take it right out of the shower) hurts like crazy-----It is not something I could discuss with my guy friends----as they would think I was weird----

So I ask any reader if a guy takes a punishment paddling with in a very good marriage wherein neither is dominant-----is there a group like us Are there any others like us? i have always wondered if i was the only guy any comments appreciated

Where do couples like us belong----clearly not here----I ask if we are alone.??? My wife is great--she is not dominating--we make decisions together and she is so very supportive of me in life-------I do get my naked butt paddled once in a while for something really serious-----We have never had a disagreement as to a paddling- we both seem to know at the same time when a bare paddling has to settle something---It is a real punishment paddling and my naked butt ( I take it right out of the shower) hurts like crazy-----It is not something I could discuss with my guy friends----as they would think I was weird----

So I ask any reader if a guy takes a punishment paddling with in a very good marriage wherein neither is dominant-----is there a group like us Are there any others like us? i have always wondered if i was the only guy any comments appreciated

I am very assertive and my husband loves this very feisty chick. There is also a difference between sexually dominating and being assertive in real life situations. We do not always agree on things, but the things we disagree with are generally not important. We agree about the two most common things couples fight about--(1) our children and (2) we have a live and let live attitude about how we each spend money. One or both of us might both be dead if we didn't on the latter. All the other things don't really matter. We would never spank or paddle each other because of a disagreement we had in real life. It can be very dangerous to batter your spouse because of a real life disagreement. Real injury can occur. All our corporal punishment is due to imaginary transgressions.

What sort of thing do you get paddled for, squandering your paycheck, staying out late with your friends on poker night, getting speeding tickets and waiting so long to pay them that the court sends out a warrant for your arrest, you book a vacation to a place your wife doesn't want to go???? What could be so serious?

I'm not really submissive, but it is clear that my play partners are in charge. This is probably because they have more experience than I do, and they seduced me into the lifestyle (not that I mind a bit, LOL.) But I can see that in future relationships, I may be more dominant, especially if I get more experience -- and more toys. It almost seems that whoever has the most toys is in command. I wonder if I am the only one who sees it this way. 😃

The boundary between physical abuse for real life issues and physical discipline for play is not hard and fast, but exists, I believe. Police don't see it. Nor do courts, often. But it's there (in my view of course). I've known dommes who act like dommes before and after a scene and it's a turn off since there is no space for negotiation or aftercare between partners/equals. But in a scene, a domme or dom can do as they wish, based on the limits that are negotiated. Agreeing to be abused outside scenes, as an integral part of a relationship in general, seems a wee bit more problematic even though I'm sure it feels like it works for some. Power is a key element of erotic play but it's also a risky even dangerous one...

Married a long time ago and our marriage was different but equal. Now she rules the roost and sex is no longer part of our marriage.