Are their many circumcised men who dearly wish they were not?

Are their many circumcised men who dearly wish they were not?I was circumcised aged 3 because my foreskin did not retract and while I realise it was necessary I feel it may have had a negative effect on my life thereafter. In youth I was teased by a nasty older brother who tried to convince me I was some kind of freak to a point where I was somewhat embarrassed in the school showers.When I reached my teens and began to masturbate I did eventually figure out this was best done with the aid of lube (nobody explained that in sex-ed and none of my friends seemed to be cut) I do recall feeling a little cheated after having wasted so much time.

Though relief did come in the form of my first steady girlfriend and many young women in general assuring me that they preferred a cut penis, I'm still not wholly convinced of the benefits. While I appreciate the fact it may be more hygienic, l don't seem to have the kind of sensitivity that I hear others describe. I have never been able to cum from blow-jobs and I wonder if this is why? I tend to dissuade women from going down there as I know they will get a jaw ache and I may well eventually lose my erection. It seems I can only ejaculate when I provide my own friction and even then it can take anything up to half an hour or more.I've never had any complaints from my partners but this is more about me.Of course I have nothing to compare to but wonder if it has made me a sex-obsessed orgasm hunter.

Am I alone?

Well @Alfreda78 I bet I am not who you really wanted answering your post but I have something to say to you.

I am sorry that you are not happy because of your circumcision. Yeah I think maybe your circumcision made your penis less sensitive but I really do not think you should keep women from giving you oral sex because you can still enjoy it and you really do not need to think that you must have an orgasm from it. We enjoy giving oral to a man so I do not think you need to keeping your girlfriends from enjoying that.

My group of friends will not talk about preferring circumcised or uncircumcised any more because it once caused some big arguments among us. Some girls found they prefer circumcised when they have been with one and some really do not. My husband is not circumcised and he is the only man I have ever been with so he is all I know. But I am really happy with him, and I love his foreskin so that is my full disclosure.

What country are you from? You have not put anything on your profile so I just wondered.

I was circumcised at a similar age for similar reasons. Aside from a bit of poking of fun at school (it never got to the point of being a problem because I just asked why were they looking at my dick anyway and they soon shut up) I have never considered it a problem. I have no issues that bother me with sensitivity and only one partner made a comment that I had a "weird willy" lol! It does what it needs to do and it does it pretty well as far as I am concerned.

Thank you for you response Amethyst but perhaps something has been misquoted.While I don't keep women from giving me oral sex (if they want to suck it they can) it's never going to be something I overly encourage when it causes me to lose an erection.I only then have to explain to my bewildered and disappointed partner that it's nothing they have done.On most occasions I have found that after some time my girls jaw begins to close thus scraping my helmet with her teeth.Not nice.

I'm from the UK.

Thanks again

I am circumcised. Growing up in Oregon in the late 40s brought circumcision as a social and health convention to many males, me included. As I recall looking around the locker room in high school I think about half of us were. Personally I've never known anything else and have had a great sex life so am not lamenting what might have been. No complaints here

On most occasions I have found that after some time my girls jaw begins to close thus scraping my helmet with her teeth.Not nice.

You do not need to let them do it for too long. My husband would not want me to do it for so long that my jaw hurt and he felt my teeth on his glans either. I still think you should just try and enjoy it for about 5 or 10 minutes, I think that is long enough really.

I have never been able to cum from blow-jobs and I wonder if this is why?

For what it is worth as a personal observation, I am not circumcised, but I too, just like you, have virtually never orgasmed from oral sex. I surmise that in my case it has little or nothing to do with sensitivity, but more with preferring other kinds of play and also possibly from being 'considerate' and not wishing to ejaculate into a partner's mouth - something not everyone cares for and which I can relate to.

In any case, I suppose I have mentally 'trained' myself to never orgasm from oral sex, so that now I never do and probably couldn't either anymore.

. . . . I have never been able to cum from blow-jobs. . . .

. . . . just like you, have virtually never orgasmed from oral sex. . . .

You poor bastards!!!!!!!!!!! 😁 😁 😁 😁 😁

You need women who know how to make you do it.

You need women who know how to make you do it.

Are you volunteering? 😃

I wasn't going to respond to this topic, simply because I think circumcision has already been beat to death on this site. But I am cut, and since I don't have any memory of it being done as a young child, I assume it was done at birth. Since I've always been cut, I have nothing to compare it to. The sensations that I feel in my penis are the same ones that I've always felt (at least since puberty). Basically, it is what it is. If my sensitivity could have been better or different if I were not cut, well, that horse has already left the barn so to speak. It's just like any other body part that is more or less sensitive that someone else's similar body part. I'm not going to compare my cut penis to some other guy's that is not cut since there's just no point in doing that. It doesn't accomplish anything.

I try to enjoy my body as it is, not as it might have been! Should we all do the same?

You need women who know how to make you do it.

On another thread about handjobs and blowjobs, I've been very distinct about preferring handjobs by a large margin.

Besides, I prefer the long ride, instead of instant and quick gratification. Since I don't care for orgasms from oral sex compared to other forms of play, I'm not missing out on much I figure. So, no need for either pity or derision. Thanks for the consideration though ... ha ha ha

because I think circumcision has already been beat to death on this site.

Why are so many circumcised guys so defensive on the subject?

Since clearly posts and questions and discussions keep appearing on Zity from many different members, the subject must not have been beaten to death at all. It seems to be a timely subject to discuss, of interest, sometimes personally, to many members.

I think the OP posed an interesting and legitimate question. And from my response, just to be clear, I don't think his concern really has much to do with circumcision.

But if people don't ask, how will they ever become better informed or have more information to compare?

"Nasty older brothers" and other kids will ALWAYS tease a "different" kid! That's just part of life, and both teaser and victim will eventually learn from the experience.

I was circumcised at birth, and didn't know any different until 3rd grade or so, when I happened to see an uncircumcised kid pee next to me. I "knew" I wasn't supposed to be watching, so I said nothing; but wondered for a long time why his penis looked so different than any other (brother, father, occasional other) I'd seen. I think it was several years later before I finally figured it out, since sex-related stuff was NOT discussed in our house.

I have occasionally wondered what it would feel like to have a foreskin, but I never dwelled on it. I suppose some guys can agonize over it either way, but that would be more self-induced psychological angst rather than anything physical...

On another thread about handjobs and blowjobs, I've been very distinct about preferring handjobs by a large margin.. . .

You might feel differently or have other preferences, possibly liking both the same if you had a more adept woman!!!!!! 😁 😁 😁

I am glad i was circumcised & got the pain over with at birth. There's a bit of self esteem that goes over with compliments I receive on its appearance. And then since I have to play with it all the time, consider like 35+ years so far, I might as well be happy with the way it looks and feels, right ?

So yeah, I feel very fortunate i have a cut cock. And that little exposed head is quite the thinker too. Jeez. What a handful.

I'm not circumcised and I'm very happy with it, as was every ex I've ever had. It's also been pleasant and easy to keep perfectly clean now for 64+ years (different circ issue, but very commonly asked). Now, I recall exactly one time in my life (and I remember it very clearly and joyously) when a woman, my ex-wife, got me to orgasm from oral sex. It not only took my ex's good technique, but it was the one night ever that she acquiesced to my requests for some kink first. Even better, she sprang this whole evening's sex plan on me with no prior notice (bravo for kink and wifely enthusiasm).

I dressed in a two piece thin (3mm) very flexible (and aromatic, in a good way) neoprene rubber wetsuit including hood and gloves and one of my favorite pairs of sneakers that were erotic to me. She then added a butt plug and my black rubber (not silicone) SCUBA diving mask, and then did a loose hogtie. Then on my left side, she started to do oral sex, which I figured would be very nice foreplay followed by PIV sex. However, it felt so good that I didn't ask to change anything for a few minutes, and suddenly, bang!, my first ever oral sex orgasm! Now even though not cut, I've always had difficulty coming from oral, even without the classic "cut penis loss of sensitivity" (therefore uncut = more sensitive glans) trope.

Now, with nothing bad to say or imply about my ex, I think I've just been less sensitive than most guys, cut or not, or more arousal or oral attention is required to get my CNS to notice and fire on all erotic cylinders when asked. Oddly, my CNS is EXTREMELY sensitive to very small amounts of oral ethanol (I'm a very, very cheap date), so maybe those circuits in common with arousal are coincidentally INsensitive to oral or other forms of stimulation necessary for orgasm. Interesting speculation. I'm divorced and looking now for a new woman to love, play and kink with, so perhaps I'll be lucky to meet an oral expert this time and see if she has any better luck than my exes.

BTW Susie, if it's not too personal, what sort of oral sex to orgasm times are typical for you on your husband?

Thanks,

Eric

You might feel differently or have other preferences, possibly liking both the same if you had a more adept woman!!!!!! 😁 😁 😁

It's not nice to compare my wife or make a judgement about her ... you really know nothing about her at all ...

^^^^ I guess I should have ended the post with "hahaha" like you often do or used a emoticon for sarcasm..

I apologize.

I am curious about what it would feel like to have a foreskin; masturbation without lube would be more convenient, I know that the protected glans is thinner than one that is always out in the open. Nevertheless, I have always had enough sensitivity to reach orgasm by any common means, whether manual, oral, or vaginal. I have never tried anal. If anything, I sometimes need to hold back to extend the pleasure. The sensations of orgasm involve far more than just the head of the penis; they are spread throughout the whole pelvic area!

One thing I have found: if the partner or the situation isn't right, or i feel pressure, either from the partner or my own "internal dialogue", nothing is going to help; I just go limp, no matter what kind of stimulation is being applied. The brain is indeed the primary sexual organ!

Seems maybe I am a minority. I also find during the winter months my helmet can get very cold. In infancy I could often be seen holding it (I was always being told to leave it alone) These days my solution is to squeeze it between my ball-bag and inner thigh for temporary relief.

Though I do wonder if it was 100% necessary as I have been told the foreskin stretches with adolescence and more frequent states of erection,it's not something I'd approach with my parents as I sense their decision was not made on a whim,I call on my more optimistic side to remind me that if they'd done nothing I might still be a virgin.

or used a emoticon for sarcasm..

Oh, I wouldn't have recognized a sarcasm emoticon in the first place anyway. Frankly, those things are, except for the 2 basic ones, a mystery to me. Might as well be using hieroglyphics, which are far less cutesey-cute and look more dignified by far ...

I was circumcised at birth so I have no idea how it would be to be uncut. I have never had any problems and I also must use a lube to masturbate. And I too have not had any complaints from my wife. I am 70 years old and am not where I was at 18, but who would be.

Bill

I was circumcised at birth. I got all the way up to about age 12 before I saw my first uncircumcised cock in a porn magazine and did not know what I was looking at. No matter how hard I tried I could not pull my skin over my glans and make it stay like the guy in the magazine. I finally asked one of my guy friends and he explain it. I had no idea my penis was cut on when I was born.

That said, and now having a full lifetime of using my penis and seeing other men's penises cut and not cut, I am glad I was circumcised. I personally like the look of a cut cock better. For me it is more sexy to see a circumcised cock since you can see the glands and not have it covered with foreskin. I imagine hygiene would be somewhat harder for uncut men, but I would guess the ones that are uncut don't think twice about it.

I know some men don't like the fact that their parents made the decision for them to be circumcised at birth and wished they had not been circumcised or at least would be given the option to have it done later in life if they so chose to be.

But I am glad I had it done at birth and have no regrets that decision was made for me. I like my cut cock just the way it is.

I think this thread would benefit from more comments from circumcised males from the UK and other countries where the majority are NOT circumcised as a social convention. The questions of circumcision being a majority practice in the USA, and some not even being aware that non-circumcision is even an alternative, are already discussed elsewhere.

The OP, who says he is from the UK and not the USA, raises some valid and interesting points related to growing up while being in the circumcised minority when others around him were not circumcised. It is perfectly valid for him to question the psychological effects of this.

He is also more concerned with the possibility that his sexual function has been compromised by circumcision, and these days not so much the appearance. How it looks is NOT his main concern.

Foreskin restoration is not something he has raised, and I've moved one post on that subject onto the relevant thread.

I've been tempted to close this thread, but I'll let it continue provided it actually addresses the OP's points.

As usual, I have only one side available, mine, uncut, so it's about impossible to compare. However, after about 50 years of masturbation and sex with women, I have zero complaints about being uncut. I actually prefer doing it dry after trying with lube, which worked but I found unnecessarily messy and thus annoying. There's no reasonable comparison between dry vs wet masturbation compared to a dry/wet PIV sex. Now the feeling of an erect dick entering and luxuriating in a warm, lubricated vagina is one of life's intensely great pleasures, to be sure. But at least for me, there's a big difference between that and a lubed hand - the vagina is just so much more soft and sensual and feels so exquisite. If I had to rate it, I'd say I have a 100% perfect foreskin, covering everything it's meant to plus being perfectly flexible and long enough to completely cover the glans when asked to. The unlubed masturbation isn't exactly one tissue surface simply rubbed over another, at least the way mine is constructed. As mine is moved up and down, if you closely examine exactly what is happening to it, it behaves more like a wetsuit by the skin rolling down or up rather than just pulling like a glove on and off, which to me accounts for why it needs no lube. Actually on rereading Susie's post, she referred to lubed masturbation being much more LIKE intercourse, which is probably true. I've never to my awareness even tried or done a dry fuck, which does sound pretty bad. My statement above is still true for me, as I really prefer the dry unrolling/rolling skin technique which I've used thousands of times (10's or 100's of 1,000's?) with great results. To each their own.

Eric

I actually prefer doing it dry after trying with lube, which worked but I found unnecessarily messy and thus annoying.

I second you on that. You echo my preferences and experiences.

Well, for the record I got to keep my foreskin for a blessed three weeks….my folks told me I was so ill with so much other stuff that they held off.

But so far as I know all the males in my immediate family are circumcised: the whopper my father has, my bro-in-law (we took gym together) and my great-nephews, ages 5 and 1, are all cut.

Where I was raised, in small-town Colorado, virtually all us white kids were circumcised. The Hispanic kids (the only minority group I grew up with) were uncut. I got my first peek at one when I was nine. I was baffled by this appendage. But the guys would hide their pricks and I didn’t get the real lowdown till that summer, when some farm laborers who worked with us every summer came to stay at the vacant house down the road. Two of the boys, my age bracket, would sneak off with me together in the old outhouse and did the old I’ll-show-you-mine-if-you’ll-show-me-yours routine, and we frequently peed together in the outhouse and out in the field by ourselves. Still mystified, I pulled back the foreskin on one kid and thought, “Yeah, just like the one I’ve got, purple and with a hole in it.” I didn’t know about that white stuff that accumulated on his head…only in my twenties did I read a book all about maleness and learned it was smegma.

When I moved out of state to a major metropolitan city, I got to learn more diversity—white guys who were uncut (and their small children, evidence of our changing times). I took up nudism for a short time in the early 90s, with more evidence in sight.

Being a cartoonist my whole life, I was 27 when I became brave enough to draw nudes, and I've tried to depict my milieu in my work. I very often have wondered how my penis would've looked intact. Sometimes, after its being scrunched up in my briefs for so many hours, I do occasionally get a look at my shaft skin showing the outline of the bottom of my head.

I have never ceased to be fascinated by the many differences, big or small, intact and cut together, brothers all.

But I’m proud of my penis, and wouldn’t have it any other way!

I think I'm somewhat like JONW. I was told by my mom the RN that I was never cut because I had so many other more important medical problems at least as a newborn, including hydrocephalus and facial clefting. My parents lived abroad a lot before we settled down on the New England coast to grow up, so maybe that's why I never got cut. As I posted elsewhere today, I'm very happy the way I am, and it's never caused me any problems. I'm glad we're all happy with what we have - we should be!

Eric

Well I'm relatively relieved to have offloaded some of my issues anyhow.I thank all involved for their input and apologise to those who feel mine is perhaps a record overplayed but I just found this place and it's not something I'd bring up at the company's next AGM.

I was circumcised when I was a baby, most boys were circumcised back then. The doctor did me a favor and I feel like got the best of both worlds. He cut me loose and long so that today the remnants of my foreskin go half way down my glans. What that means is that my penis needs less maintenance than a fully intact one but because I have some foreskin left I can enjoy masturbation without the use of lubrication. So I guess I am lucky. My best friend growing up was a mess. His foreskin would not retract and his hole was on the bottom of his shaft. Both of these problems could have been fixed when he was a baby and I always wondered why they were not.

When I was in my mid-twenties, having moved out of state to work on a doctorate, I was poking around the university library and browsed at a book called “Psychology Of Human Sexuality.” In the section on penises, there were two photos of a penis, both taken on the same level, in flaccid and erect states. It was uncut, couldn’t be more than four inches when hard, and it likely made many of us shorter guys feel better about ourselves. The foreskin in the first photo hung way over the head. In the other picture, I saw what was definitely the head, but I swore that there was absolutely no difference in color or texture….there was nothing smooth or shiny about it, just one long vein going from the top of the shaft and continuing into the head! It was the grossest penis I ever saw. It wasn’t until many years later, when peeking through an issue of “Playguy”—a special issue devoted to uncut well-hung Latinos—that I discovered many men had their glans completely covered even when they’re hard. They’re capable of peeing and cumming just like mine can. And they may provide their owners and their owners’ partners with a world of sensation that mine couldn’t.

Even so, a bare glans in that book would’ve been more instructive, for the benefit of uninitiated females.