Asian women and submission

I'm surprised there has not (as far as I can tell) been any discussion here about Asian submissive women. It's a stereotype, but in my experience it is much easier to find submissive and kinky partners among Asians. I have had Chinese, Japanese, and Thai submissive girlfriends. Most of them I found on on-line dating sites and I mentioned in my ad that I wanted to meet someone who is submissive. I have been very pleased to find several amazing play partners and girl friends this way. I should add that I have lived in Asia and perhaps I also understand the psychology of Asian women. I'm not sure, but mostly my observation is that they (I don't want to generalize so let's just say the ones I have actually been with) want to be treated as equals (in some cases as princesses) in daily life, and if they are happy there is basically no limits on the bedroom activities. They don't find it unusual or strange to be tied, to have fetish examinations, using toys... and they reach orgasms easily and frequently. At some point I realized there is also some kind of selection bias here, because those Asian women who specifically seek relationships with Western men are also often very sexual in the first place - Western men have a reputation for being very energetic and dominant lovers. I was in a long (several years) relationship with a Japanese woman and she was the perfect partner for a medical fetish enthusiast. We had an examination chair in the bedroom and I did very thorough examinations and treatments of her once or twice a week. My first Chinese girlfriend was a divorced young lady who was sexually starved (in her past marriage and after), masturbated daily in front of a mirror and had fantasies of being bound and examined.

For the past several years I have vacationed in Thailand and have been able to find a fantastic partner every time for travel and sub play. Just some examples.... Curious to know others' experiences.

Two of my widowed friends each went to Thailand to find wives to bring back home. Both found very pretty, somewhat younger, submissive women that actually fit the label of slave in that they cook, clean, and do manual labor without much coaching and are absolute sex machines for their husbands. They take spankings and domination as well as any women I have seen. I do believe that culture grooms their women to be submissive and the smart ones use this as a tool to attract western husbands.

Well being Japanese how ever born and raise in America, which makes me American and not Japanese in a sense, I understand the women been held in a lower caste below men. But being here and living here in America even in a Japanese lifestyle home, I'm no man's slave. I might submit to the right person but no, not happening.

Vietnamese and Thai women....not any others....

I haven't had any experience myself, but my brother was a sucker for Asian women and knowing him I have no doubt he was being nicely serviced by his Thai girlfriend. But, conversely she had a gift for milking him in more ways than one. It was mainly about money for her and for access to that, she was sexually available for just about anything he could come up with. He figured it out long after the family took one look at his new girlfriend and it ended up costing him - and my parents - a pretty penny. As my father said afterwards - the most expensive piece of pussy my brother ever had. It would have been cheaper going to the red light district every day.

I've seen this happen with an acquaintance too, but he ended up marrying the Thai lady. She got a residency card and someone with a good job, so a good provider. He is however always on the hustle to work after hours and on the side, to keep up with his Asian wife's monetary demands and needs.

The men that I knew went into this with both eyes open and a clear understanding of what could happen. Perhaps because they were older and knew their way around helped. They weren't love-struck. They both traveled to the respective countries and spent vacations there meeting prospective women. When they both came home, they had women that were both pretty and had conversational personalities. They quickly deferred to whatever their men wanted of them. To be fair, both of these men were accomplished businessmen and while they were dominants, they were gentlemen. They wanted life partners that were submissive, yet equal in their ability to be good companions. Both of these respective women understood their agreements and appeared to be thrilled to have the opportunity to live in America with men they considered honorable yet dominant.

As far as I knew, they were never abused and both are still together. I also know that while these women are not abused, they readily accept their submissive roles and openly offer to play in the bdsm lifestyle. bdsm here is far less oppressive than what their "normal" lives could have been at home. Also, they were raised as young girls for this mindset so they seem content.

Interesting fact I hope I can remember .

WOW. No.

If a woman is into the BDSM lifestyle because she could have it worse elsewhere shes not being submissive, she's being coerced.

Submission can only come if you can do it from a place of equality, and living under a real or perceived threat is not equal footing.

To say an entire race leans toward submissiveness is... yikes.

I think my realest fantasy is being dominated by an Asian female. I am a natural submissive, I had a very dominating mother. Never anything sexual but I always got arouse about being punished. She was very old school and straight laced. My first se was with a Korean woman that was very petite and very good looking. She was very business like and controlling. I got spanked more than once by her if I did not please her.

WOW. No.

If a woman is into the BDSM lifestyle because she could have it worse elsewhere shes not being submissive, she's being coerced.

Submission can only come if you can do it from a place of equality, and living under a real or perceived threat is not equal footing.

To say an entire race leans toward submissiveness is... yikes.

I'm not sure yikes is in order. I have a friend who runs a food company in the US and the corporate owner is in Japan. He has to go over once a year. All the women over there are submissive to their husbands and it is hard to find a corporate guy over there that doesn't have a geisha or girlfriend. It is totally culture related and very very common. I'm not saying there are no Japanese women that have broken that bond but it would be unusual.

I have only limited experience with Asian men and women in the bedroom and do believe the women are generally submissive. I will say if you want a great submissive, Catholic men and women I have known make great submissives.

I will say if you want a great submissive, Catholic men and women I have known make great submissives.

Guilt by Catholicism!!!

Dated a Chinese-American woman for several months and she was a BOSS. Dominant and not naturally submissive but she loved sex so she let me do a lot of naughty things to her. Not sure if the dom side was more Chinese or American influence but her Chinese mother was a very tough take charge lady.

I am attracted to Asian women and Ladyboys. I see some Asian appearing girls at the gym who I would love to see me in lingerie and laugh at my small dick.

I am Asian woman and I am submissive to my husband

In our Asia culture we are brought up to respect our elders and husband. We are to be seen and not heard.

There is a Chinese idiom "嫁鸡随鸡, 嫁狗随狗" (jià jī suí jī, jià gǒu suí gǒu), often translated as "marry a chicken, follow the chicken; marry a dog, follow the dog," means that a wife will generally adopt her husband's lifestyle, interests, and beliefs. It's a way of saying that after marrying someone, you'll naturally be influenced by their way of life.

It also means that woman should follow whatever her husband orders but that was back in my days.

Now things have changed women are treated as equals. So it does not apply anymore.

My girlfriend is half Korean, half Hispanic (to me she looks 100% Asian) but she was raised in Houston and both sides of her family have been in the US for generations. She’s definitely the natural leader in our relationship, is the “dom” in our DD dynamic and just has that quality in her personality in general. She is the oldest of 5 siblings and her parents frequently (and to an irresponsible degree) left her in charge of the younger ones, so I think she developed some of those dominate traits out of necessity. I’m also very much a submissive type, and although I’ve always found the “submissive Asian girl” stereotype adorable and attractive, I’ve never really sought out that type of woman.

Culture probably has more influence than just race/ethnicity, but the two are intrinsically linked at some point, so… But that being said I know there is quite the market for Asian dominatrixes!

To say an entire race leans toward submissiveness is... yikes.

I know I’m arguing with a deleted account but this is a really goofy take. Some cultures place more emphasis on things like tradition and gender roles and there’s nothing wrong with that. I was just barely born in the US, my family is from Georgia. I can objectively say Georgian/Caucasian women are more submissive/traditional than the average American woman whose family has been here for generations. Yes, it’s a generalization but there’s nothing wrong with recognizing a pattern. In my experience it’s only westerners who get weird about this kind of stuff or require some sort of explicit acknowledgement of “this generalization doesn’t mean every single individual” like… duh?

I live in the phillipines and that used to be true but is changing. The west influence has changed alot here over the years but old style thinking still prevails. I was married to a filipina for 9 yrs.

Upbringing and societal norms may influence behaviour, I think most stereotypes, while holding some general truths, are just stereotypes and in most individual cases are just wrong.

As well, what does it mean Asian women? Chinese or Indian? Or maybe Thai or Indonesian? Or Korean? Or Malay? And so on... there are so many different cultures in Asia, and putting them all in one basket just shows ignorance and close mind.

I am a bit fixated on Asian women ☺️, have never been intimate with one, hopefully one day. As a proper submissive myself it will be interesting to see how it works out.