Sex and rectal temp

I am 24 and still a virgin - and plan to stay a virgin, even if and when married. However, I do experience the need for sexual stimulation, and have found that a rectal thermometer up my butt while rubbing my pubic area satisfies that need.

Does anyone else use a rectal thermometer to fulfill sexual desires?

Though I am not a virgin, one of my favorite ways to be pleasured is using a thermometer

I am 24 and still a virgin - and plan to stay a virgin, even if and when married.

WHY? WHY? WHY?

I sort of understand the ridiculous desire to stay a virgin until marriage, but why would your stay a virgin even after you are married?

Get with the program. FUCK SOMEBODY and experience real sex.

That's what the body was made to do.

@Switchablesusie : The reason that I don't want to have sexual intercourse even after marriage is because I do not want to risk having biological kids. I have a boyfriend as of recently, and he and I are both disabled. I have a genetic condition called Mitochondrial Disease, and he has Cerebral Palsy, so there would be no telling what kind of complications kids would have - not to mention what kind of complications I would go through with having said kids. Therefore, I figure it is best if I don't do it at all...and he respects that!!!!

Why not use birth control?

You can use the pill or nexplanon implants.

The pill will require taking the daily pill, but the nexplanon implants won't require any maintenance for three years.

Tubal ligation or tubal implants are also excellent options if you never want children.

If you are in a relationship, you owe it to YOURSELF to enjoy your body and your boyfriend's body to the fullest extent possible.

Please consider these options.

I agree with Susie, here. . .Don't, ever, deny yourself all the most ultimate pleasures, between your legs!! Masturbating is wonderful, but sharing love and sex, with a desired partner, is not only ultimate, but God made sex enjoyable for one reason, to enjoy it!! 😉 Nothing, more pleasurable, than to be a primary contributor, of seeing your partner, participate, go-into, and have a wonderful orgasm!! 😉 Then, enjoy the same, within your own body!! 😃 I do-not care what any, old-school, and/or religious people say, but we are supposed to enjoy sex, and it is pleasurable, for a reason!! 😄

To answer the question, yes RTs do sexually stimulate me, but they are no substitute for sex in my experience.

This is just my feelings, if you want to stay a virgin, then do, they're your bits! But there are many options to prevent pregnancy without abstinence, like the pill, implant, or having your tubes tied? And of course, there's anal, and lesbian sex, if you're into that. Keep an open mind, but of course the decision is yours.

@MuddQT I do not want to ever be pregnant either. The whole having a kid thing I do not want. I do not want to be anybody's mum. I think you are very unlucky to have the mitochondrial disease and I get why you and your boyfriend do not want to ever have kids. So both of us do not want kids but it is for different reasons.

I went on the pill when I was 16 because I met my ideal man then and now I am married to him. Not wanting kids does not stop us having a lot of sex and we really enjoy it.

I just think you should go on the pill like me and enjoy yourself. You should enjoy your boyfriend too.

I don't want to have children because of my Bi-Polar disorder but I still like sex and take precautions to prevent it from happening but you enjoy your body. 😃

Hate to feel like we're all ganging up on you here, but there's a world of difference between actual sex and sexual simulation from play. I love foreplay no matter what form it takes, don't get me wrong, and rectal temp taking is up there when that's what I want.

But, and not to sound corny, there's a level of connection and intimacy to sex that can't be matched by anything else. That's accounting for all the psychology behind sharing fetishes and what have you. So I understand your reluctance, given very real issues you face. I also don't want children. But you honestly owe it to yourself to enjoy lovemaking.

That and virginity is an outdated concept that we really should get over.

I think it's a shame that you think your bipolar disorder should stop you from having children, i personally would not my aspergs syndrome and it's heredity stop me from having children. I have a brother who among other things has bipolar disorder, he doesn't let prevent him from having children.

The world needs all kinds of people Bipolar disorder is just as aspergs syndrome associated with creativty.

I understand that your wish is probably to spare a future child suffering, however this no garauntee, that a "normal" child will have a happy life, especially in this day and age were one of the goal people strive for being successfull and were're fed this message through the media.

The bell curve also tells us by mathematical probably everyone can't be superstar.

(You might probably think I sound like a leftwing hippie by american standards, by european standards i'm a left wing social democrat. Still though I thin these words on strive for success should be relevant for people of all political beliefs. For example all republicans probably wont own fortune500 companies, but many might be successfull small bussiness owners)

Regards

I have daughters who are very sexually active, want no (more) children and are not going to ever have any (more)...now.

He may be saying now, that he agrees with it, and maybe he really does, now. Unless he's over 70 years old, he has a long way to go.

To achieve what you want, you could get sterilized, and get your (in) fertility checked however often your physician suggests for assurance if sterility. Sex is important in pair-bonding, due to the release of oxytocin. Open options, don't close them, unless you have some way to see all of your future in detail without error, and you both like what you see there.

Corrinne said that virginity is outdated.

Not all of us believe that virginity is outdated. I, my wife, and many of our friends are happy to have saved ourselves for our monogamous marriages. We wouldn't like for our member to have their fetishes or preferences ridiculed or implied to be illegitimate. there is no conflict between some fetishes, and some religions.

How about we try to not denigrate each other, even unintentionally by making blanket (im)moral judgements? I used the term above, because, I would personally find it to be immoral for folks to condemn my homosexual friends, one of whom is like a brother to me. we would do anything for each other. We have folks that many others would condemn in the curches that I do and have attend(ed).

Let's try to bre thoughtful of others. Anyone on this site would be considered wierd by somebody out there, but hee we are, in an enviroonment that we expecte to be accepting of what we are or do, as long as it is not dangerous or illegal.

In the spirit of acceptance of diverse opinions, please don't castigate me for expressing views that may be diverse from other on this idea of acceptance, instead of blanket statements on outdated, unacceptable, immoral or any other sentiment that has no place here. And arguing against diversity is not itself an exercise in diversity.

thank you.

Virginity IS outdated.

What's the big deal? You get naked, you stick a penis inside a vagina, pump it in and out, ejaculate and you both have orgasms. There is nothing sacred about it.

The only caveat for sex being that the two parties should have reasonable expectations and maturity for the activity.

Virginity or abstinence serves no purpose other then preventing the spread of STD's which you can also do by practicing safer sex.

Its worth mentioning CP isnt genetic.. so thats one concern you dont need to worry about 😃

Let me get this straight! You plan on remaining a virgin AFTER you get married, yet you love rectal temperatures? Sounds like you want more than a thermometer up your behind!

I would not say a rectal thermometer is a "sex substitute", but it can be a fun prelude to sex. in a medical play scene with my girlfriend, the anal stimulation can and does get her turned on- after which we have some great sex and talk about the experience and what we can add to the game , like rectal exams or enemas.

I use rectal thermometers just to get my ladies warmed up. Then some Hot sex.

I have to say I'm somewhat disappointed in all the judgmental responses. Aren't we all here because we can share our kinks, our desires, and our stories with others without being judged? Some are into enemas; some aren't. Some like rectal temperatures; some don't. Some chose to get their jollies while remaining virgins; some will screw anyone in sight; most fall somewhere in between. So what? You do your thing and I'll do mine. And we can all come here and talk about it with one another without judging.

I have to say I'm somewhat disappointed in all the judgmental responses.

From the responses so far, I really haven't read any that express an open and shut judgement.

But I have read many that express surprise and astonishment. And these posts say that we are luckily long past the stage in scientific development where sex invariably equals conception. There are more than enough reliable options to rule out conception if you so choose and still have traditional PiV sex. That is what surprises people. But other than that, no one is being judgemental. They are just offering advice, that by the way, should be taught in all schools, but of course isn't.

I can't condemn someone for their beliefs and desires, i.e., wishing to remain a virgin indefinitely....or until the right circumstances take place.......but I'm ambiguous as to the concept of using a rectal thermometer as a "sex substitute." A rectal thermometer can stimulate sensual nerve endings, which is a physical reaction, having psychological implications as well. Assuming that the end result is masturbation, I guess that could be considered to be a substitute for sex ? Kind of like artificial apple flavor, as opposed to actually biting into a real apple. P.S., I don't think that many marriages will last without sex. That is in fact, grounds for divorce.....just a thought.

Maybe a very big rectal thermometer.

There are other ways to ensure one does not get pregnant, other than abstinence after marriage.

@MuddQT didn't use the term "asexual" when she started this thread, but some of what she is describing might be an asexual orientation. There are plenty of people out there who have a desire for romantic coupling but either are averse to intercourse, or don't particularly enjoy intercourse. Asexual people suffer against a perception that they are somehow "broken" or "incomplete" or "missing out."

There's a good online forum at www.asexuality.org if you're interested in more information.

I have used a candy thermometer up my butt. besides looking nice sticking out, it feels really nice and I have cum very hard.

But it does not stay in very well, I have to keep pushing it back up my butt (oh darn!) when it slips out. Whatever you enjoy, go for it!

I love seeing thermometers sticking out of girls butt, what can I say, I'm a butt man!

@MuddQT didn't use the term "asexual" when she started this thread, but some of what she is describing might be an asexual orientation. There are plenty of people out there who have a desire for romantic coupling but either are averse to intercourse, or don't particularly enjoy intercourse.

I always assumed that if someone was asexual, they didn't have a desire for masturbation either.

When you have sex, Do you take your lover's rectal temp, allways, some time, Never ?

I've done is as a prelude to better sex. Provided that you're not having sex with someone from the Duggar family....your partner might actually welcome it. I'm sure that some people do that... Just one more "tool" to have in the bag.

We certainly use rt as a prelude. Plenty of reasons to take a temp oral or forehead. Nope, rt gets the sexual stimulation in high gear.

I always assumed that if someone was asexual, they didn't have a desire for masturbation either.

Asexuals have the same masturbation rate as sexual. Self release is still sometimes needed/desired.