Men and Sex

What are your thoughts on men's pleasure vs women's? It seems like even though women enjoy sex, there are moments when it's uncomfortable (too dry, he's too big, it's a bad angle, etc.) while men get the better deal. From the very first moment, men enjoy it more (erection, blowjob, sex) no matter what the position or angle. I think it's actually quite fascinating.

I'm actually one who enjoys pleasing their partner in bed, so a bit of discomfort is okay with me. Sometimes when I look at porn, I can tell the girl might not be enjoying it to the fullest, but the guy is loving it. I usually get turned on by that, haha.

Interesting question Jasmin..; I try to live by the Golden Rule, ergo, I like to give as good as I get. Since women generally take longer to achieve orgasm than the average male, I've always put forth the effort to make my gal have an orgasm(s) before considering any vaginal entry toward the same goal.

In today's society where the emphasis seem to always be on "ME", that's probably not a very welcome sentiment.....

I know when I give my partner a great sexual experience, I've always enjoyed the returns.

I remember only an insignificant amount of the pleasure I may have given a woman, or she to me. But since developing a sexual life with the same sex, I can readily attest that it’s true, the old stereotype that women have had regarding us guys: it’s all we ever think about, and that our brains might as well be located down there.

I can say that, from the occasions I was a bottom, men who did me had a good bit more pleasure than I did, with their caving in to the temptation to pump ever faster and out of control when they’re good and aroused; and I never got used to being called a guy’s “bitch,” a term I never saw fit to use when I was the top. There were only a couple of men who had the technique to take it slow…my only long-term relationships.

Now, when a man masturbates by himself, or with another guy, the goal is very clear-cut and simple. When one or more guys celebrate their manhood, it’s to reach that peak and shoot that jizz ASAP. I guess we can’t help it, no matter what the situation.

I've never been a woman, so I have not experienced life, or sex life, from a woman's perspective. Therefore, I cannot make a comparison.

But it is worthy to consider the primary purpose of the sex. Is the primary purpose to satisfy oneself? Or is satisfying one's partner the primary purpose. Mutual satisfaction may be the ideal, but it doesn't always happen that way.

And just because the man doesn't complain doesn't mean he doesn't thing things could be better..

Well my husband is very giving during sex. Complaints I have heard about some selfish men my friends have been seeing just makes me think I have been lucky. I think women and men too should just try to please their partners, it is not just all take is it. I do as much to please him as he does for me so I think we do well together.

I'm single for now after a divorce, but as much as I love sex with a partner, I'm essentially incapable of enjoying myself if I can't see that she is getting whatever she wants, usually before me. If my partner expressly says something like let's give you an orgasm, or something to the effect that she doesn't need reciprocation that day, I certainly would enjoy that. But that's pretty unusual and I'll watch her body language, words and other vocalizations to be sure she's a happy camper when we're done. Possibly the best part of sex for me is seeing her really enjoying herself to the point of having at least one orgasm and succumbing to the sensations, feelings and movements it's giving her while she's exploding (imploding?) in bliss.

Eric

@ericmacson , Well stated. There is no soul satisfaction in masturbating in a vagina.

@ericmacson - I agree 100% with your comments. Well said, sir. Your description of your feelings regarding putting your partner's needs before your own applies equally well to me. Sex is (or should be) a two-way street, with mutual give and take. I've always had the same attitude since I started out getting physical with the girlfriends I had when I was 16. I'm still the same, as Amethyst has already confirmed in her own post. Putting your partner's needs first brings its own rewards, and I can see that you fully appreciate that.