When can I expect my anal muscle to be tight again?

It usually takes me a couple of days maybe three to become tight again after a session of anal play/sex. Recently, I started playing with an 8'' circumference dildo and I noticed my sphincter is still not tight enough even though 10 days passed. I don't think I have caused any damage (I have been practicing for quite a few years with smaller toys and know how to use toys), I have no pain (always careful, never had when I used it), never had any blood or anything. I don't take it very deep, 7'' is all I take.

This dildo is a step up from my last one, so I would like some ideas on the following:

1) Should I expect my ring to lose its resilience with age? I am 55.

2) Last time I used the 8 incher, I kept it in for quite some time, only pulling it out to lubricate and back in, maybe total 3 hours. Was this bad practice? Should I stop the lengthy stretching?

3) Any exercises that may help restore the sphincter's tone? Kegels maybe?

Recently, I started playing with an 8'' circumference dildo and I noticed my sphincter is still not tight enough even though 10 days passed. I don't think I have caused any damage . . . .

I think you have answered your own question.

DAMAGE ALERT!

Go to a much smaller size after you give yourself a couple of weeks to recuperate.

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My husband is 47. I can fist him to my elbows. I don't have weight lifter sized arms, but they aren't skin and bones either, I work out.

Now, one minute after I perform devilish acts on his body, he is able to hold a 3 quart enema without any leakage, but he has done this for 25 years, slowly working up to what we can do now. My point is that if you damage the sphincter you can be in for big trouble, including possible anal reconstruction, which will forever end your big anal play. If you feel pain STOP. DO NOT use anesthetic ointments to enable yourself to take bigger objects because you will damage your anal ring and possibly tear the rectum.

Thank you for your feedback. It's not that my ring muscle is not tight, it's that it didn't bounce back to its tightness fast enough as it used to do. I check daily and it feels ok but I expected this to happen within the next couple of days since the "action". I will follow your advice and go down one size next time. In the mean time, I started daily sets of Kegels as my sedentary lifestyle is not the best for this kind of activities.

. . . . I will follow your advice and go down one size next time. . . .

In view of the problem you had, I would go down at least TWO sizes.