Ever reluctant for a girl to see you erect?

In a discussion with one of the ladies here on Zity, I remembered something weird, I had not thought about in many years.

I had a girl cousin, a couple of years younger than me, who I had grown up with. We were often bathed together and, when a little older, and we got curious, we played doctor as a pretext to explore each other. We were comfortable exposing our naughty bits to each other. There were virtually no barriers between us.

Here is what I now consider a little weird. When I began experiencing arousal and having erections, I would love to have had further sex play with her but, for some reason, totally inexplicable to me, I thought I should not allow her to see my erect penis. Somehow, it seemed to me that would be crossing some line of propriety, even corrupting to her in some way. I think I felt that way about other young girls as well.

Did anybody else ever have any reservations or concerns about a girl seeing your erect penis? Especially concern for the girl.

For me this is really natural, for it is preferable that a girl cousin will not have to see obligatory your erected penis. I suppose that there will exist other girls being really interested in which manner a girl should handle this subject.

The first time I ever got really sexual with this girl that I really liked, I was a little reluctant.

I was 16, and I'd been on a couple of dates with this girl. She wanted to go parking, so we found a spot on an isolated dirt road, and we began making out. I fondled her breasts over her clothes, then unbuttoned her blouse and unhooked her bra. She seemed to want that, so I played with her nipples while we continued to make out.

By this time, the outline of my erect cock was clearly visible through my khakis, and she noticed. "That looks like it hurts," she said, reaching down to stroke it through my pants. I was suddenly nervous. What it she didn't like it? What if she laughed? Am I big enough?

She unzipped my pants, then reached through the fly of my briefs and pulled out my cock. "Oh, wow," she said, biting her lip. I guess my apprehension was misplaced. She started stroking it. I stopped her. "Hang on a second," I said, thinking of the mess that would result. I undid my belt and pants and slid them down, then pushed my cock through my fly and slipped the briefs down, pulling up my shirt. She resumed, and it wasn't long before I came. She later told me it was the first time she'd seen an ejaculation. I cleaned up with some tissues, then returned the favor, making her come twice before we had to get her home for curfew. Most of our dates ended up like that over the next few months.

@WillyNilly You played it right with your cousin. You manned up and did the right thing. Now when you see your cousin, you have nothing to be ashamed of.

@golfer18 She sounds like a keeper. Wish I'd found someone like that when I was 16 or 17 or 18.

Now when you see your cousin, you have nothing to be ashamed of.

Maybe not ashamed, but perchance regretful?

I say that because when I was in my early 20s, an American cousin came to visit for a week. She was my age, really attractive and friendly and it fell to me to show her about the city, take her on a day trip to Amsterdam and such things. Even my naive self felt she would have been up for some intimacy and we had the occasions to, but typically I chickened out - not from manning up, but out of fear it might have been taken wrongly by her.

Well it wouldn't have been I now think. When seeing her off at the airports, she said goodbye to my mother and siblings (Dad was off sailing supplies to the troops in Vietnam then) and then flung herself around my neck (literally) hugging me tight for a longish while and kissing much much more than perfunctorily. That is when I definitely knew I blew an opportunity. I still regret it, cousin or not.

And perversely, from my cousin's apparent show of affection or regret at leaving me or whatever, I got some really dirty looks from my mother and sister. They interpreted the leave taking on my cousin's part as an open show of sorrow for leaving someone who was more than just a (kissing) cousin. I could see they thought we had both been up to some serious hanky-panky.

Another 'what if' opportunity had slipped through my fingers - as usual. Afterwards I was never in an Edith Piaf mood about this, just the opposite.

Quincy, thank you for your vote of approval. You are, of course, correct about the right thing to have done.

I have to confess, however, agracier has me dead to rights. I would have loved to have enjoyed doing "improper" things with that cousin. I believe we would have both handled it fine. It would not have been romantic, by any means, but it would have been Iike a continuation of our earlier experimentation.

One of the hot ladies here on Zity read this thread and PM'd me to ask if I was reluctant for my cousin to see my erect penis because of our familial relationship. I told her the truth, that however perverted it might have been, I found this girl extremely sexually attractive and responded to her in that way. I would not have married her, but sure would have looked and touched and, probably, a lot more.

Yes this is truly a hangup or insecurity if you will of mine, stemming from being scolded for becoming aroused at times I was specifically told I must not become aroused and once I did inevitably grow into erection my perversion was confirmed in their eyes. This happened on multiple occasioms with different older females during my childhood.I know now in retrospect that the erection was actually induced by them every.time ie they would be actually trying to get me hard.. Silver lining is it instilled some skills of orgasmic control in me I believe.

I used to bathe with my cousin when we were little and we had run through the sprinkler naked many times together. One morning she notice my morning wood making a tent in my pajamas. She told me she wanted to see my stiffy but I felt really embarrassed and didn't want her to see it. She pleaded, and I eventually pulled down my pj bottoms and gave her a peek. She asked on other occasions but I always told her it still looked the same and didn't show her.

Does having boners at the swimming pool during PE classes (mixed gender) count?

Or dating a sexually shy girl and having an embarrassingly visible boner?

I would never show mine due to being a micro.

I've always been self-conscious about my penis but I've only ever been reluctant since I went 24/7.

I think it's partly because I spend so much time on my knees now that my dick doesn't get much use, there's really no reason for it.