Groping as Foreplay

I don't pretend to understand every fetish but if it works for someone then it's worth considering.

When in college I would rent a hotel room to have sex with my gf. She explained her fantasy/ fetish to me so I went along with it even though it took a couple of hours .

She wanted to be fully clothed and pretended to be in Bondage. First standing ...then in bed.

She wanted me to grope her body stroking , massaging and poking at her privates , her ass and breasts through her clothing.

After about half an hour of this I would lower her jeans and prod , squeeze and poke ( with fingers , tongue and penis ) at her asshole and vagina though her panties. Same with her t shirt which I would take off and fondle her breasts though her bra.

After the longest time I would show her the jar of Vaseline . Then finally I would take her bra off and inch her panties off and ..well you know the rest of the story.

So all this groping with clothes on was quite a turn on for her and she wanted it to last at least an hour . I didn't quite understand it at the time. It was her favorite foreplay.

Does anyone else like this type of foreplay ?

I have said it before, I'm not big on foreplay before intercourse.

If we are going to fuck, we just fuck. I don't need to get ready.

I love giving and getting oral, hugging, kissing, bondage, intercourse, orgasms and pain, but I do NOT consider any of it foreplay. Those are just some of the many other things we may do with or to each other's bodies. We can do any or all of them to selfishly satisfy ourselves and feel good or we can make love where we think about our partner.

We may do what people consider foreplay as part of our activities, but it's just that--other activities we do in no special order.

Just poking or being poked doesn't do it for me unless I want to be annoying and I have my partner tightly tied up and I am edging them and denying their orgasm by either giving insufficient stimulation for them to orgasm or by simply bringing them close to the edge and leaving the room just before their orgasm would begin.

I know, I'm mean!

I'm just the opposite. If my partner were to start out immediately with intercourse, I wouldn't be ready. In fact, I would feel as though he were using me to get off without consideration for my needs. Anyone who is willing to indulge their partner in the kind of foreplay they enjoy -- especially for an extended time -- would be my dream come true.

I'm not interested in nothing or everything all of the time. A nice mix up, depending how much time is available, is good for me. With the kids still in the house, and the bathroom right off of our bedroom, too much extended foreplay would leave little or no time for sex.

But what you describe Rock2009 would be an interesting idea to try one day.

. . . . With the kids still in the house, and the bathroom right off of our bedroom, too much extended foreplay would leave little or no time for sex.. . .

SEND THE KIDS OUT.

Have them spend the night at their grandparents', friend's, ANYWHERE!

When our daughters were younger that's what we did and the girls liked the sleepovers at their friends and grandparents. As they got a little older, they knew we were having sex and we didn't try to hide it any longer.

One of each side of their grandparent's is dead, leaving only one on each side. Of this one is in the nursing home with Alzheimer and the other is not speaking to their parents. So no grandparent sitting for my kids.

We've lived a life with only a few close friends and most of them don't have children our kid's age(most are older with kid's of their own). It's just the way of our life, our choice. Weird, but it worked for us.

The kid's are very forgiving for "squeaking" bed springs for afternoon delight or late morning romps (they sometimes turn up the volume on the TV so as not to hear too much).

It works for us to eek out the time we get. I do remember one afternoon sending the kids outside with snacks and drink. They were to stay in such and such place in the yard (we live in the country - it wouldn't have worked out doing this in town) with each other. I would be out to get them shortly. It worked for a short but enjoyable sex experience. I didn't do this but the one time. Just in case someone did notice the kids outside and stop to question it.

Out of complete respect to my female partner, however much foreplay she needs, then wahooo!! Let's do-it!! To me, foreplay is a two-way excitement, and helps to make the climaxes, more climatic!! 😉 On the other-hand, if both parties are cranked-up enough to "quickyize" the act, then so-be-it!! 😉 One thing that is so cool about good sex is, there are SOOOOO MANY avenues to take, to make a nice climax for both 😉 Mike.

My husband and I have a lot of quickies--no foreplay required. Just fuck me and make me scream.

I would be lying if I didn't say there are some occasions where one of us says something like, "really???, now??? are you serious???" but nine times out of ten, we do it. Sometimes one of us does succumb and submit to the whims of the other, but we both do our best to make the other smile! That has kept us happy and excited to be with each other.

Here's an article:

http://blog.liberator.com/life/wham-bam-thank-you-maam-an-ode-to-the-quickie/

I think foreplay is like a lovely appetizer to savor. Why go and bolt your main course? To use another metaphor, don't over rev the engine until the oil is warm.

We don't do it all the time. We calmly make love, holding and cuddling each other, too, but the quickie probably accounts for up to half our sessions during the week.

Susie, many thanks for that quickie link. It was extremely well written and, IMHO, true in every respect. There are times when a longie is appropriate and times when a quickie is more the thing. Variety is the spice of life!

She wanted me to grope her body stroking , massaging and poking at her privates , her ass and breasts through her clothing.... I would lower her jeans and prod , squeeze and poke... Same with her t shirt which I would take off and fondle her breasts though her bra.

Rock, that is so hot ! For me ! And if she were into it too, WINNER ! That sounds awesome ! It would be great to have on video.

Just fuck me and make me scream.

Susie, that is the prototype for THE woman's attitude that every man wants.

Healthy44,

I don't know what was going on in my gf's mind...but it was intense for her.

It was transformational for me because I learned that pleasuring another person is a source of great solace and its very erotic and exciting.

I remember squeezing her labia and releasing several times and how this seemed so intense even though i was doing it though her panties.

She became warm and glowing all over even before nudity.

On one occasion after a particularly long session of groping and stroking she orgasmed as I finally penetrated her vaginally.

Indulging and gratifying a person by taking the time and care to fulfill her fetish in this way is very bonding I think. Many memorable moments.

Is groping the same as feeling up each other in the car? Today, kids catch hell, and rightfully so, texting and driving. I have to confess I used to "grope", and be "groped", while driving home. It was considered a warmup, or prelude to what would happen when we got into the bedroom. Today, I would probably be ticketed.

Is groping the same as feeling up each other in the car? . . . .

NO

Groping is more like poking or blindly jousting each other. That's not feeling each other up which to me is more sensitive.

Poking or jousting? OMG no wonder you don't do it. I thought it was feeling up breasts and butt and sneaking hands down pants. I've done that. Even recently.

So all this groping with clothes on was quite a turn on for her and she wanted it to last at least an hour . I didn't quite understand it at the time. It was her favorite foreplay.

Sounds like what you're describing is what older folks would have called heavy petting in the decades gone by.

I've always thought it a very cute and sweet term to use. Groping sounds as if it is done against the person's will, while petting implies affection and gentleness.

If I remember reading correctly, back in the 1920s, parents would be very concerned about (college) kids going to 'petting parties' - sort of like parents in the late 1960s worried about drug-fueled hippy orgies ... maybe the 20s were simpler times ... ha ha

I think petting was also used in 1920s songs not that infrequently. Helen Kane (the Betty Boop voice) used it often. It was a useful word to rhyme to as well - pet, let, get, set - and it really sounded innocently naughty. After all, you didn't take your clothes off ... 😃

It was beyond the sweet petting of adolescents.

In addition my gf pretended to be in Bondage for all this. This was her fantasy: that it be done and she could do nothing to stop it.

I respected her fantasy and indulged it as much as i could. It was much heavier than petting: at one point i would squeeze her labia really hard. Mind you I have nothing against petting . That's what I would normally have done.

Another girl I dated finally allowed me to give her an enema thus fulfilling my fantasy. And this even though it did not particularly appeal to her at first.

I guess the point i am trying to make is if you give another person a chance to live their fantasy and or fetish it can be a source of bonding and gratification.

I think you have to start with an open mind and the desire to please your partner in what might be unfamiliar ways.

With time you may or may not be able to get your head around what turns the other person on and why.

To me, foreplay is nearly as important as intercourse itself, in many ways, the most important. I want my partner prepared and tease to the point of begging to be entered. The resulting sex almost always results in hard, sometimes screaming orgasms. I know I always get where I want to go; I try to make sure she does, too!

I totally understand what you mean, Susie. I've been with partners where the whole act of sex included anything leading up to penetration. The passion was so intense, I wouldn't call any of it foreplay. It was all the main act!

But I do adore the thrill of clothed "feeling up," reminiscent of teenage years when anything sexual had to be sneaky and hidden. I love the tease of being fondled, having my neck kissed and suckled, and feeling the impending need of wanting to be fucked "right now" but being unable to.

I sure do miss those days...