Extended personal anal play

I've been married for nearly 20 years, four kids still at home and both the wife and I work way more than we should. We find time for each other and have our fun but over the past couple of years I've begun to enjoy my personal anal erotic time. I look forward to the times everyone is gone, especially if it's more than 24 hours.

My time is usually an hour plus of shower enema cleansing, a couple of hours with an inflatable, vibrating plug, some lube injection time then onto either the 18" smooth double ended or the suction cup mounted 16" super soft dildo. I browse forums to read articles about what other people are doing that are into kink like me all or read erotic stories all while trying to milk my prostate and keep my cock slowly leaking. I finish off by edging myself over an hour or so then letting it erupt.

I've always wanted to find another person (female or male) that does the same just to chat about experiences and different methods. Anyone out there the doing the same or am I just f**'d up?

No, my wife actually doesn't like masterbating, she likes being toyed with by me but not alone by herself.

Sounds like you are doing your anal sessions solo. Is your wife aware of your anal erotic enjoyment and all your toys? Does she approve? Does she ever want to use your toys on you?

As far as being f**ked up as you say, no you are hardly alone. I love doing anal play solo or with others. Once men discover their prostates and don't have any psychological hang-ups enjoying anal play they pretty much are hooked for life. Physiologically men can experience lots of sexual pleasure stimulating their anuses and prostates.

Welcome to the club.

Ditto to that ProV1-- Just take a look at us lot of reprobates...nice ones though !!...Pleasures of the rear end is not a practice in isolation, nor should it be....we have a right to choose....individual circumstances aside...perhaps a minority from a statistical standpoint....though that appears to be changing...& for the better...as there is nothing wrong in the enjoyment of ones body or it's capabilities...provided we use common sense & adhere to safe practice principles.

But to feel "f*cked up" because we "think" something is supposedly strange /weird/wrong is not reason in itself without considering that from early childhood (for the greater populace the world over) usually set in motion a pattern in development of believing anything that apart from "normal" sexual behaviour...namely intercourse....was depraved !!...requiring corrective measures or you became an outcast to be avoided.

This ridiculous outdated stance promulgated through being constantly subjected to controlling influences ( keepers of the faith) plus by way of concerted social conditioning & stigmatizing public attitudes...as that's what has been typically argued by moral guardians...Some of which can hardly call themselves exemplary figures due to double standards...unfortunately creating inflexible & intolerant social precepts..But,by it's very nature begs questioning ,as for many it's an invalid argument for there's an abundance of proof to the contrary.

Allowing those conditions to fester can only lead to potential future problems if you let it dictate / influence the direction of one's life...If you are not harming either yourself or another by what brings pleasure then there's really nothing to be ashamed about...otherwise one ends up forever guilt laden, which is a burden...Everyone has the power of reason...& are all well capable of managing such affairs by not inviting unnecessary pressure...at every level of our very existence

Simply because we may enjoy something that could be considered outside mainstream in acceptance...doesn't mean to say it's morally corrupt...by inferring that such an activity is reprehensible...deserving of communal banishment & eternal damnation....Of course one can live in denial by hiding from themselves & pretending,but what's the point of that ?

I also happen to enjoy e-play and p-stim. And, same as the op, i enjoy time alone, as and when it happens. My so is totally unplussed by toys, so even mild ones - e.g kegel balls are frowned upon and left to gather dust.

The bright side is - you're not alone. I may not count for much, but if you search for diane+hourly+enema you will see accounts by a fair member of the fair sex on day-long enema sessions. I guess we all have to evade reality sometimes, forget about chores and focus on ourselves. Some people paint, others sky dive, others take enemas. Who's to judge? You ask me, that's way better than a drinking binge or other "passtimes" which aren't so much frowned upon. Be safe and sane, be healthy and enjoy.

In the same boat here!

I love to spend hours alone playing with my ever growing collection of vibrators, dildoes, and plugs.

Find it be be very relaxing and extremely pleasureable!

Enjoy every aspect of my personal playtime, from eating cleaner a few days before hand to hours of enemas to be 100% cleaned out. Then shaving everything smooth, and onto dozens of toys!

I always have a few drinks to relax further, most of the time Crown & Coke, sometimes red wine.

I always take lots of photos, I get really turned on trying to recreate hot photos I find online, then posting or sharing them.

I'm on an endless quest for new toys or ideas to try with my butt. Found some interesting ideas here on zity, that were a lot of fun!

Starting to get curious about fisting myself, here so many things about it being an amazing sensation.

Wish I could cum from just anal stimulation, but no such luck yet.

Wish I could cum from just anal stimulation, but no such luck yet.

Yes that is hard to do for me too. But on the other hand, receiving anal stimulation for as long as you want without cuming can be an advantage too.

I love to take my time and explore all the sensations with my toys and truly work my anus and prostate without fear of erupting into orgasm. Yes an anal orgasm may sound hot and sexy but having full control and providing hugely pleasurable sensations to yourself for as long as you want is fun too. In this case, you are in control and can choose when to take yourself over the edge by adding just a little masturbation to your anal play.

Enjoy my personal anal time alone as well. P stim is usually my activity which also results in anal orgasms. When I do nipple stim along with p stim things really go crazy.

I love playing with my aneros. take a long hot shower to relax and then insert it. have some of the best orgasms while using it.

I've been living with my girlfriend, and her daughters and mom for a little over a year, and this is one of the things I miss the most about living along. She and I have a great sex life, but I rarely get my alone time these days. I do like my time where I can play with my personal toys and as another poster stated, my P time, really is my time. I mean she enjoys using toys on me, pegging and other, but it's not the same when you go through that spiritual process on your own. So any small windows of time I get, I try and jump on them.

~Proximo

I love my own alone anal time I don’t have to worry about impressing my gf. And I can do it at my own pace and it helps me get ready for playing with her.

My wife and I have been married over 34 years and had a great sex life up until about 12 years ago. She simply began showing little to no interest and it has been virtually non-existent for the past 7 years. While I would love to enjoy sex with her again, I have become so accustomed to my alone time, I honestly believe if we started enjoying sexual escapades with each other on a regular basis (several times/week) again I would still seek out private time for my enemas and anal play time by myself. If you are f***ed up, then you're in good company here at Zity.

There are a number on Bluetooth Prostate Massager's on the market. "Oh My Bod" is one that I have. You can use it on your own using the various settings on the device. You can connect it to a MP3 player and have it vibrate to the beat of the music control it from an app on your android or IOS device. The app allows you to control your partners device even if the are the other side of the globe from you, the wonders of wifi. Its a great toy but fairly pricey to buy

They've done studies. When people are honest many do masturbate even when they're in a relationship.

My wife and I have been married 46 years but her sexual fire went out more than 20 years ago. I have long appreciated having time alone when I can still indulge my sexuality. I masturbate wherever and whenever I can. The internet provides endless opportunities for stimulation. Likely as not when I'm at the computer I'll be stripped to my shorts or naked.

When we were first married, anal play was a big component of our foreplay. We'd play doctor and I would have to submit to prostate exams from her. Even before I got married I enjoyed being played with "back there", by men and women. Now I have one those dildoes that I can stick to the shower wall and back up onto as I stroke. Incredible. One of these days I'll probably have a heart attack in the shower and they'll find me impaled on the thing with a big grin on my face and still hard.

What a way to go that would be!

I can second these comments, except I am divorced, kids long gone, so enemas are any time for me now.

Enjoy my alone time as well. Am married and sexually active but really discovered the pleasure of anal play through enemas and prostate massagers. Just gets better and better!

Alone for me now. Away for work. Enjoying the time slone

I am married (legally separated, but we are best friends) and have 4 children. My wife lost her interest in sex a long time ago. Currently 2 of my children live with me and therefore I am a little limited in what I do. There was a time I was daily active with anal masturbation. I still am very anal. My play sessions are less often, usually in my weekend since I don't have to worry about having to go to work, and I wait till the kids are sleeping. (they are 25)

When I play one session, usually it last for 4 hours, at least. I am the lucky owner of many toys, most of them XXXL dildos and plugs, and a few vibrators, the massager is my best. Reading some things about bluetooth operated anal toys sounds interesting, so I am probably gong to look for one of those soon.

I am not so much into vaginal (insertion) play, just working my clit for orgasm, but this always after the anal play has seized. I have so far picked up 3 UTI's and I have to really think about a way not to touch mu vulva while playing with my butt.

The use of erotic toys is amazing, so many nerves in the butt. 😃

BTW just realize this post is for man, I used to be one.

Hugs and happy toying.

I too have been with my wife over twenty years. I also have three kids. I have been using dildos and toys for over 25 years. I love when they go away somewhere and leave me at home. My wife knows about all my toys and how I love anal pleasure. She gets really wet when she fucks me or fists me. I do like personal anal play time though. I too start with a medium size butt plugs and inflatables for about an hour or two. All the while watching porn. Then I move on to many different large toys and dildos for another hour. I usually finish off with the largest toys I have. My favorite is homemade. It's a huge super soaker water gun tube mounted on a plunger. This thing is 4 inches wide and 12 inches tall. It makes me cum so hard that I shoot my load across the room and orgasm lasts at least 20 seconds.

Getting things, large things, in takes time. a lot of time and working up from smaller to bigger, for me so anal play is best done with lots of time and patience I find. And the rewards are great, given what an amazing erogenous zone it is.

Love my alone time for my anal play !!! I've been playing with my ass since I was in my early teens 14-15 years old . Got really into anal play in my 20s when I started using plugs and dildo's . I have more ass toys now then I ever thought I would have. Now that the kids are olderand never home I have more alone time for my anal play . My wife doesn't mind at all as long as I tell her everything I do and film some of it for her . She loves to watch my home made movies I do for her !!!

Curiosity caught me in my mid teens. Dont really know why I developed a need to feel my butt plugged. It was kind of unheard of back then. I decided to try a candle. It became a common playmate of mine during masturbation. Through the years I tried other things too. I now have a few anal toys and use them often. Wife is ok with it too.