Falling in Love with Doctor

Not sure a good place to post this, but may fit in the psychology corner

http://www.queerty.com/patient-falls-madly-in-love-with-doctor-says-i-dont-mind-sharing-him-with-his-wife-20160426#comments

Text book case of transference. Doctors are very careful to not be too overtly friendly with patients for this reason. It's sad that people get so lonely that they think sharing a spouse with an imaginary partner is sane. This man is very much on the edge of delusional . This happens more often than we hear about unfortunately. It's a psychological issue this man is not "in love" with his doctor.

Women getting "crushes" on their OB-GYN is fairly common. I've listened to my aunts and cousins talk about how they just love their OB. (Males). One Ob-GYN I called on told me, "You'd better be as nice as you can, cause women will go elsewhere if you are not." I think these 'crushes" happen after they have delivered kids by their Dr. The ladies were totally exposed in labor and delivery and in post L&D checks. Some trust builds with the female patient in her Dr.

As a young child I remember my mother and her friends making comments to the affect that, "A woman always falls in love with her gynecologist". My young mind did not grasp the implications of this remark until a few years later when I came into possession of two very detailed medical texts.

The books had vivid descriptions, with pictures and drawings, of what took place during a female exam and how the procedure was done. I studied them from cover-to-cover and realized why a woman would make such a statement.

When I got married, I tried to get my ex-wife to talk about her visits to the doctor and how she felt being intimately examined by a male doctor. This was many years ago and husbands were not supposed to question what went on between doctor and patient. Husbands were not welcome during exams nor in the delivery room. I cannot say if my ex had any feelings for the doctors she saw, but she always wore a certain necklace whenever she was going for a full exam.

Gradually, things started to change. Husbands could join their spouse in the delivery room and most doctors permitted the partner to be present during exams.

My present wife likes me to go with her for her exams. We are both into med-fet so we often talk about her exams while she relives every detail about what took place. Although she says she is indifferent to a woman or man examining her, she then says she prefers the touch of a male. I have seen her get aroused by a male doctor and she admits that she has gotten aroused on more than one occasion by other doctors. Additionally, her libido is highly increased for several days or weeks after an exam by a male doctor.

So far as falling in love, she says she has never had any romantic inclinations toward any doctor. If a woman were to go to the same gyn for a long period of time, a love relationship might develop, But in the military community where you seldom see the same doctor more than once or twice, the doctors are always pressed for time, and a chaperone is present, falling in love is highly improbable. We cannot speak for others but wife and I have concluded that it is the excitement of a strange man exploring all of her private and erogenous parts that results in a high state lust - not love.

Years ago I accidentally heard that a great-grandaunt of mine (my fater's grandaunt) has fallen in love with her cardiologist when she was in her 30s, and even has had a relationship with him, even though he was married and older than her. According to the one who told me that, she had no heart disease (I can attest to that - she reached almost 90 and was still on the go) but at the time she thought she had one, so she would regularly visit that cardiologist to have her heart examined. In the end, their doctor-patient relationship turned into love affair. After hearing that story I always wonder if she enjoyed being examined, or if that was just excuse to see him (or maybe both). The funny thing is I have a stehoscope/heart-exam fetish since my childhood, so eversince I heard that story I wonder whether my fetish is not a hereditary thing lol.

I doesn't think that every girls loves her obgyn... When we had a girls-party we talk about it and every women talk that not want to have gyno doctor as husband. They're consider that he will be hasn't time to them (and in general) and they will be to envy...

Doctor, no; physician's assistant, yes! Three years ago, I had a mild colitis, for which my doctor prescribed a series of medicated enemas. His PA did them daily for two weeks, and the condition cleared up. At the end of the last treatment, she asked me if she could ask a question, in total confidence. Of course my curiosity forced me to say yes, and she asked, "I seemed to notice that you enjoyed the treatments. Am I right?" I could feel my face redden with embarrassment, but also excitement as I replied, "Yes, you are, why?" She continued, "Because I've been fascinated with enemas since I was a little girl, and enjoyed giving them to you." We got to talking, and found that although I'm 40 years her senior, we had shared similar enema histories. In my case, because I grew up on the tail end of the "Golden Age of Enemas", but in her case, her mother was much older, and so she had a "golden Age" upbringing. She continued, "These treatments cost you more than $100 each, so I'm glad you enjoyed them. If you would want to, I'd love to continue meeting you for enemas, at no cost." We've been playing two or three times a month ever since. It has evolved into shared enemas, and sex. I feel guilty, though, because the age difference means that it will never be more than a kinky play relationship.