Pet Hates/Tips for Online Exams

Hi everybody! There is a thread about what online exams are, which is how I learned about what they were (I'm quite new here!), and contain plenty of ideas on how to do them, but I was wondering if anyone would like to share anything that would ruin (or has ruined) online exams for them, or give tips that they find may help people taking part in online exams?

For example, I prefer realistic exams, so should a doctor remove their clothing I would instantly be 'turned off'. A more particular pet hate is when the incorrect medical term is used.

Just think it may be helpful to anyone looking to try and online exam!

(Disclaimer: I am aware that my own and others 'pet hates' or 'tips' may have contrasting effects for other users, it is just to consider others' views and preferences and to help everyone's experiences improve!)

I prefer realistic but not 100%.

100% realistic is no different from an actual Doctor which is not what I want. I want certain parts of the exam to last longer than necessary WINK WINK.

I like a mix of clinical and fantasy. I prefer a build up to the more erotic parts of the exam and not just straight to intercourse. I am also very upfront that I do not like abuse or BDSM, so when that line is crossed its a turn off. My advice, get a sense of likes/dislikes before starting. Most of the Drs that I play with have been very respectful and listen. I think thats what can really make an a online exam amazing!

My biggest pet peeve is using incorrect terminology during medical play/surgical play.

I do not like realistic play at all, my scenarios are are all fantasy and sensual mixed with knowledge from med school. Fortunately I am in a relationship with a medical professional, we know anatomy well 😉

And she likes it that way - the fantasy and sensual play that is.

~Cookie

For me it has never been a particular (medical) detail which ruined an online exam. Usually I discuss the likes and dislikes beforehand, and if the the patient's and my ideas aren't compatible don't start an online play in the first place.

Since an online exam depends on written language, the ability (and willingness) to string sentences together and express your thoughts and feelings is quite important for it to work. Don't get me wrong, it doesn't have to be deep, high level literature. But if all the responses you get are either "yes" or "no", or sentences of no more than 3 words, then you'll never create a good atmosphere and a convincing scenario in your imagination. And such an online play feels rather pointless.

It's important to go over expectations and likes before starting. Some people like particular procedures and kinks.

More generally, it's best when people write a decent amount at a quick pace. It's really no fun when you're doing the majority of the typing. I also really appreciate feedback so that I can make all of my online exams more fun!

I would definitely agree that getting a feel for the compatibility of your likes/dislikes is the best place to start. Terminology can be a pet peeve for me too, but it depends a little bit on the overall quality of the experience - if everything else is amazing, it's something I can overlook.

People who arrange a time for a chat, then don't leave enough time to finish what we're doing is definitely something I've encountered before, and absolutely loathe.

Listen to your patient. He/she will send signals as to what they want.

Lots of good advice here.

I remember one time on (other site) I started a thread on "How can we do better at giving each other satisfaction on this board?" . . . thinking it would lead to interesting and fruitful discussions, and thinking that the people who were prepared to go the extra mile would identify themselves. But no, no one responded.

(That's a BIG COMPLIMENT for ZB, btw!)

1970sboy

Prefer realistic. open to online exam.

Detail is vitally important. There's nothing worse than typing an incredibly detailed part, only to have it followed up by a simple: "ok". Similarly, it takes me out of it when I'm fully immersed in a scene, only to have my play partner rush through the steps, omitting any detail. When you're dealing in text, all of your senses are out of the picture, so it's important to describe everything you see, hear, and feel... even the office disinfectant smell and the taste of the tongue depressor!

Everyone will have their own preferences on the level of realism. Some like a completely realistic professional scene while others want the opposite and most are somewhere in between. Communication is important to ensure that the play patient and play doctor are on the same page.

I guess it depends on peoples preferences, but I think realistic should be the aim. Anything out of the ordinary that wouldn't fly in the dr's office in reality shouldn't be in the play exam. But than again it all boils down to preference I guess.

This is both an interesting and timely topic for me. I recently had an online experience where I was the patient. For those of you who know me, you know whether I am in the patient or provider role I make the experience as real and realistic as possible, and I do, like most have some flexibility as far as setting, content, scenario, etc. But, I also like most have my hard limits. I always clarify these limits upfront and I do not expect, nor will I allow them to be crossed. It's a closed border, with a very secure wall!

The person I was playing with online violated one of my hard limits not once but twice, and the same one! I accepted his apologies the first time and days later we tried again and he did the same thing! Whether it's online or "Live", if you are a good role player, in your head it's real and in your body it can be, too.

The moral to the story is not everyone can be a great role play partner, BUT everyone needs to respect peoples' limits especially when they are clearly stated. If you have questions or modifications you would like to have made, ask! Don't just go ahead and test the waters and think the other person who may be enjoying things will just tolerate it.

So, bottom line, for me the most important and critical element to role play exams live or online is open and honest communication combine with mutual respect.

Play safe!

Hi everybody! There is a thread about what online exams are, which is how I learned about what they were (I'm quite new here!), )

@JR3 I wish I had looked more closely at first before I took the time to respond. Is it only me who finds it a bit strange that you state you're "quite new here" but your already a Chat Supervisor according to your profile. While I don't know what constitutes the prerequsites for same, having been a member of zity for probably 2/3 of its existence, I don't think zity bestoys such responisbility or recognition on "newbies". So, just how "quite new here" are you?

Not accusing you of anything. I just find the contrast, odd.

@beccarnmommy, the original post is from April 2016, so she isn't "quite new" anymore, lol!!! 😃

Is it only me who finds it a bit strange that you state you're "quite new here" but your already a Chat Supervisor according to your profile.

...So, just how "quite new here" are you?

Hi @beccarnmommy , you're right in saying I'm not that new- not anymore at least. If you check my profile I've been here 2 years (actually just a bit more) and this thread was started over 2 years ago.

Never had an online exam before but if I did decide to try it out. My only rule is not to break any rules or boundaries and I'll be ok

Personally, I don't care for online exams or other role play. I'm strictly an in-person person - lol! This is why I don't visit the chat rooms. The same for Skype and other live videos. I like someone I can touch, feel, etc., and be touched, felt, etc.

For me, online role plays and other online scenarios are not much different from phone sex (except for cost) and I don't engage in them. But, for others who enjoy that sort of thing, go for it - to each his/her own!! Just don't dial my number unless you really want to plan a get-together AFTER we get to know one another via email (assuming the right chemistry). Of course, I'm also always open to friendship and conversations via email as long as it doesn't develop into something where you want me to say descriptive things to help you get off on.

Sorry, but that's just my "thing".

Alex

If i tell you "hey, I'm not really into that" then stop freakin pushing it! And don't try to sneak it into the role-play either. You'd think that would be easy to understand but I have to end online role-plays all. the. time. Because the guy has to be a jerk and push his own kinks on me when I'm not interested.