Clenching my bottom when spanked/caned OTK

In the beginning I don't seem to clench much... but as the spanking goes on and intensifies I tend to clench more often.. my partner has asked or told me to relax during a long session but hasn't added more intensity or introduced another implement..her reaction to my clenching isn't one of disappointment

I have heard and believe it to be true that hitting a clenched butt is more likely to leave a bruise. it does lessen the pain slightly... I hope to find a Dad to teach me not to clinch especially if I find a Dad not wanting to penetrate me after to apply something to help train me not to would be great... The spankings I want are less playful and more painful. No clenching should make for more effective spanking...

At the beginning of a spanking I am unlikely to clench, as I don't know what is coming, which implement, how hard, etc. Usually during a warm up period, there is minimal if any clenching. Once the spanking really starts to hurt, I may clench during the actual impact. When the spanking really really hurts, I'll clench before the impact in anticipation. Usually that is with a cane, spoon or nasty paddle. I would imagine that my Dom either finds it amusing, or at least he sees my tense ass as a level of measure to our play. What he does with that information is up to him, of course. Generally, but not always, he will get me to push through that phase into wanting the next stroke, raising my ass up to meet him, maybe clenching maybe not, but never in anticipation. Spanking is then very sexy, a hot stress release, a bonding moment when I know and feel my submission to him.

I agree with enemasubgirl. At the beginning, I don't try to clench very much. But when it hurts and i start to scream or even cry, I try to clench immediately. Then I feel my buttocks being patted and told to relax, because the cane will cut into my skin when I make my buttocks too hard.

Personally I find I probably don't to begin with as I'm to busy arguing about what's going on, but after the first or second slap, then yes I probably clench like mad, try to cover my bum with my hands etc, all automatic reactions I think.

Donna

I was always bad at clenching. I usually clench before I make any sounds. When I was spanked as an older teen/young adult I would always clench and the woman spanking me would stop for maybe 30 seconds or so until I relaxed back out then start spanking me. I never really knew if that is why she stopped but assumed it was.

When I was getting spanked I would sometimes clench my cheeks together. I wouldn’t say it was automatic but after a few swats I would sometimes do it. It would make my stepdad so mad and he’d tell me to stop doing it or he’d have to keep spanking me.

Having watched my sister get spanked I’d say the reason that my stepdad would get mad is because when we’d clench our cheeks it took away from his seeing our butts wiggling around but I don’t really know.

The simple cure for all you naughty clenchers, is a peeled piece of fresh ginger. You will be told once not to clench. Then if it happens again, the ginger root will be pushed into your anus until the spanking/paddling and any corner time is completed.

It would make my stepdad so mad and he’d tell me to stop doing it or he’d have to keep spanking me.…I’d say the reason that my stepdad would get mad is because when we’d clench our cheeks it took away from his seeing our butts wiggling around but I don’t really know.

Three things are very real possibilities beyond your thought, it hurts a bit more if you are not clenching, a spanking is also a little less damaging to a non clenched bum in my experience. Finally and most importantly by clinching, as natural a reaction as it is, shows you are resisting your correction. when my "Daddy" sees me clenching he smacks me extra hard and tells me to stop it and I am very glad he does.

I have spanked several women, three with a cane, one with a ruler. I remember all of them visually. I'm amazed how relaxed their bottoms were and believe me I was definitely looking closely.

One woman asked for it and always wanted more, her bottom was always quite relaxed. She was older than me and I was very inexperienced. I didn't know what I was doing and regret that I did not indulge her more often. Her ass was amazing, light brown and so tight and round. I did enjoy when she let me "examine" her spanked bottom in the days following, a good excuse to get her to drop her pants and pull down her panties.

The second woman usually got spankings with my hand but toward the end of our relationship I began using a cane, which obviously hurt more. She didn't cry but she would whisper "But I'm a good girl" as I caned her. She never clenched her ample bottom and I know the spankings got her aroused, because I would spread her and see how wet her vagina would get during. Her spankings always ended in anal intercourse, which we both preferred to vaginal.

The woman I spanked with a wooden ruler was a brief affair, a co-worker. She was very loud and alpha at work and very quiet and obedient once her clothes came off. The one time I used the ruler on her bare bottom, she lay totally still and counted all the strokes and I ordered her to do. I told her to "relax" and her round white cheeks never clenched but they were very pink when it was over.

The last women was a long time girlfriend who I caned many times with a wooden dowel and a thin hard plastic tube. She hated and loved the pain. So sometimes she would clench her cheeks, not sure she could help it sometimes, depending on what was going through her head. Either way it hurt and she shouted out or into her pillow. Those strokes almost always left pink welts on her very pale white bottom for several days.

In Old School (parental) thinking when a child clenches their buttocks during a otk/bare bottom (hand or paddle) spanking..in the 1950's--60's this along with trying to cover your butt with your hand(s) was perceived as being "defiant" especially with strong willed 6--9 year old boys and led to longer or firmer spankings with sincere crying and a more reddened bottom for the offender who tried to pull the tactic(s).

CLENCHING THE BOTTOM WHILE BEING SPANKED? Never heard of it! Whenever a dominant female put me across her knee, that act immediately presents my bottom to her. She will start spanking and, rather than clench, I know I have to present my posterior to her. I know i'm in for a spanking whether i like it or not, but i think most female spankers get more fun out of it, when the sub male presents (NOT CLENCH) the cheeks.

george xx

For me getting a spanking is a sensual/erotic event. I am restrained on a spanking horse and pretty effectively immobilized so there is no escape. I do want to be warmed up with gentle swats and even a bit of massage. So this isn't punishment stuff and while I'm a bottom, I'm not especially submissive. That said I will be paddled with a leather paddle at first and then graduate to a wood paddle and finally a heavy oak frat paddle. With a warmup, blood flows to my ass and the somewhat engorged capillaries act like mini-shock absorbers and prevent a lot of skin damage. So I may take 300-400 fairly hard swats. Once well into it, I like to be told to clench my buttocks for a series of hits, then told to relax and take more. The comparison is interesting, though at that point I am in endorphin heaven.