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When I was a kid, a cousin of mine was diagnosed with phimosis. His doctor advised his mom to try forced retraction; it was very painful and did not work. In the end, she had him circumcised.

In the meantime my own mother got scared about the issue because I had a slightly tight foreskin. I had to show my penis to my aunt (who remarked that it was certainly not a problem as severe as with my cousin)... and my aunt had my cousin show the surgery result to my mother, who remarked later "ooh, it seems so much cleaner and neat!", heightening fears that she could have me done as well (I'm glad she balanced her cleanliness obsession with a disgust for surgery).

Has any of you had to show the results of circumcision to somebody, or been shown the results?

(My mother and auntie seemed to subscribe to the idea that pre-pubescent children were not entitled to privacy in front of parents and close female relatives.)

Hello Pecan N.J., Although I had to show my foreskin to only my mother, doctors and medical personnel, I did have the opportunity to see the results of several circumcisions. As such, I have developed quite an interest in foreskin and circumcision. Please see my post 19 and 20 at this link: http://www.zity.biz/index.php?mx=forum;ox=display;topic=92390

When I was a young teenager I discovered I couldn't fully retract my foreskin when I had an erection and subsequently had to do stretching exercises. As my mum was worried that I would do them only insufficiently, she asked my to show her the progress and check for herself a couple of times. Like with you, Pecan, my phimosis became a bit of an issue in the family, as my cousins were in a similar age to mine. One day, when I went in my room to do the stretching, my mum came in with my aunt and said she would like to see my progression, as one of my cousins was suspected to have a tight foreskin as well. I had to show my erect penis to them and move my foreskin backwards. My aunt asked if she could try to move it back as to compare it to my cousins and my mum agreed; so my aunt pulled the foreskin back a couple of times. It was deeply embarrassing, but my mum and aunt seemed to think it was necessary and for the best.

I believe that in case of a medial issue, such as a phimosis or circumcision, a mother has a well-grounded reason to inspect the results herself and to take extra precaution by continuing to check any necessary progress in treatment. If it does serve a legitimate interest, such as another family member being troubled with similar issues, the responsible person should be given the opportonity to have a look at the results as well, as this is a rare chance to get acquainted with the problem.

My cousin was cut and I saw the result. Poor guy. Sucked to have it done as a teenager.

I don't recall anything like that, except that I had to show my penis to the GP who had argued for the surgery for post-op care!

I would think all close relatives who would likely take care of me (grandmother, aunt) were aware of that surgery, and probably some saw me when undressed. I don't recall any allusion to it!

I remember that after a phimosis surgery (not circumcised but foreskin cut just a little) around the age of 6, a few weeks later my mother showed the result to a woman neighbor of us.

My boyhood circumcision result was shown to friends of my mother, I understood having to be examined for entry to school, or by curious older boys, but i thought it odd random ladies would be interested.

My boyhood circumcision result was shown to friends of my mother ... but i thought it odd random ladies would be interested.

As if ladies don't have prurient interests and naughty thoughts and inclinations ... ha ha

As if ladies don't have prurient interests and naughty thoughts and inclinations ... ha ha

I was quite disappointed to learn my wife did not😢

In addition to doctors and family, I had to show the result of my circumcision to a friend of my mother. Her son also suffered from phimosis and the doctor had recommended that he be circumcised. Before deciding she wanted to see the result of a circumcision up close

I hated showing off new clothes to my mothers friends.

I cannot think of the utter humiliation of being made to show the results of a circumcision to your mother's friend. Like it was a fashion show or something. Egad ...

Slightly off-topic. We had been living in a fairly small suburban community when I first came to the US - neighbors waving at each other when driving by and visiting quite frequently. So when word got around that I had come from Europe to join my mother and stepfather, neighbors took turns welcoming me, congratulating my parents, and giving them advice on whether they should get me a bicycle or a used car, how to make me like peanut butter and jelly sandwiches, or what color carpet should be installed in my room. The advice was often about nothing and everything at the same time, or so it seemed.

On one of those days, when I returned home, there were two women sitting in the living room chatting with my mother over iced tea. I was in my room upstairs when I heard one of the women say, “There is something we wanted to ask you... We hope we do not intrude... Your boy... he is so sweet... he was born overseas, is that right?”

My mother said, “Yes...”

The woman continued, “Is that so? Well... if you're looking for a doctor to have him circumcised, there is this doctor in the medical building downtown who will be able to help...” She continued, “You are going to do it, am I right?”

Then I heard my mother say, “Well... actually... our son have already been circumcised... About a month ago...”

Then the third woman exclaimed, “Oh, isn't it wonderful?!” and the second woman said, “Yes.”

When my mother called me to come downstairs, I thought I would die.

I first learned about the difference when I was a kid, and saw the "other" kind after a swimming class. But no, it wasn't a direct display or show off, just incidental innocent nudity typical of the time. I don't remember anything more specific than that.

@madebare It always blows my mind the details that parents, particularly moms, are willing to share with other moms about their kids that shouldn’t be public business.

@madebare It always blows my mind the details that parents, particularly moms, are willing to share with other moms about their kids that shouldn’t be public business.

I remember when my mother told me about circumcision she knew the status of several of my friends.

@madebare It always blows my mind the details that parents, particularly moms, are willing to share with other moms about their kids that shouldn’t be public business.

I totally agree. Moms often do not have any boundaries. I remember that when I was already in college, I returned home for the holidays, Thanksgiving or Christmas, I do not remember which. My mom told me that either her friend’s or a distant relative’s son had recently moved to the US with his family and that his wife was going to visit us.

When she came, she brought her two sons. One was a toddler, while the other was probably two years older. The woman told my mom that she wanted to know how to find a good pediatrician because she was not comfortable with the referral she had received. My mom asked why she felt uncomfortable taking the boys to that doctor, and the woman mentioned that when she took her children to him last time, he told her that they both needed minor procedures that she thought were unnecessary.

My mother immediately knew what the woman was referring to and said, “I would imagine you could give it a bit more thought before refusing it outright. Our doctor also recommended circumcising our son, and we are glad that we followed his advice...”

I should ask my mom whether the woman followed her advice.

@madebare Were you present? How did you react? How did the other woman react?

@madebare Were you present? How did you react? How did the other woman react?

I was in the kitchen making myself a sandwich, so I could hear the whole conversation happening in the living room. When I passed by to take the plate upstairs to my room, both women looked at me - mom was smiling. I grinned in response while trying to hurry the hell up.

@madebare Did she explain why she was glad?