Losing someone

I lost someone who didn't want to care for me how do I move on ?

I was / am in a similar boat, & i can tell you how i have chosen to cope so far.

I found websites like this, where i could find myself in the comfort of both relative anonymity & the company of like minded people, who are non judgmental for the most part. In time, it allowed me to open up & share who i was, with secret fetishes i kept hidden from the world for fear of being mislabeled in a judgmental society.

Through opening up, sharing, & finding like minded people, I could embrace my fetishes & turn to them for happiness. Enjoy website browsing of subjects you like, making connections with folks of common ground, read & share interesting stories. I personally found satisfaction turning people on, even if it would only be guys & i'm straight. I'm flattered & thrilled that a septuagenarian masturbates to my photos multiple times a day.

I've been able to explore my sexuality & grow. And now i'm excited to try new experiences.

This after spending a lot of the past few years so depressed i would start crying at any time of the day, anywhere. I had often contemplated about jumping from bridges or doing something dramatic to make a statement. And i can say that through these websites, communicating with people & embracing fetishes that make me happy, i've begun to BE happy. The crying has diminished. I don't think about jumping off bridges anymore, but rather, i spend a lot of time thinking about my next sexually oriented short story, or reading some really hot stuff posted by others.

That said, i still don't feel i've actually moved on. But i have made progress.

So your key, i think, i to dig deep to find what makes you happy. Maybe it's a secret you only keep to yourself because you think no one else can relate. But keep your mind & eyes open. You'd be surprised to see that as crazy and unique as you think you are about something, there are people just like you, and i think you'll find it comforting once you discover them. And what you do with what you embrace will guide your destiny toward a life fulfilled.

It's tough. I know. I've been there. In fact, maybe i still AM there.

Hope this advice helps.

Could you be a little more specific about the reasons for the breakup?

What did you do last time when you and your girlfriend broke up?

How old are you and what are you looking for?

I encourage all new people to do this. The more you fill out your profile: likes, kinks, fetishes, the easier it will be to connect with like minded people. I look at your profile & see nothing, well i can't connect with you because i simply don;t see anything. If you put something, people can see it & go "Hey, i also like..." & before you know it you make a whole bunch of friends & share some wild stories. I encourage all new people to do this.

*posts edited since member asking the question has left zity. It is a good question so I left the more pertinent information.

Oh, My :-( Your strength is in yourself. The fact that you are able to raise the question is testiment to that strength.

Not caring enough is somethng we all find, unfortunately It has nothing to do with the "cared for". None of Uus are perfect, but none of us are perfect givers.

Human relationships are about meeting the needs of the people in the relationship. When those needs aren't being met, the relationship disolves. This is not the fault of just one person in the relationship. A relationship is about communication. When the communication stops, the relationship is over.