Anal dilation

I have played around with anal dilation for many years and find it gives me the most intense orgasms supported by masturbation. I have worked my way up to 7" circumference insertable and feel mightily stretched at this point. What sort of dilation would be required to accommodate a hand? I appreciate hand sizes and shape differ massively but what are we talking in terms of an average females hand? I'm eager to build unto this point but not sure how far is necessary.

I am also trying to stretch myself to accomodate my girlfriends hand. I measured her hand and it is approximatly 3" in diameter. I just bought a 2" plug that i can barely fit in. The mix of pain and pleasure when being stretched to the max is sensational! Guess i have to train a little more before her hand will fit.

I have managed to 'take' 3 different ladies hands. I use plastic shampoo bottles filled with warm water for my pleasure. The bottles filled with water stop them from collapsing, warm water in them adds to the pleasure and dilation. I walk the shelves with these various size and shaped bottles and my 'measure' for the purchase is a business envelope that for all intents and purposes is my shopping list. A business envelope measures 9" x 4and 3/4". If the length of the envelope wraps around the desired bottle, IT WILL FIT IN. 😃 Hey Hugh, start with a smaller woman. 😃 regards, irrigator333.

To compare my opening to some bottle or toy I am gripping it between my thumb and my middle finger, if larger the distance betweenthe thumb and middle finger is measured with the thickness of 1-2-3 fingers from other hand.

I have a butt plug with a circumference of 7.5 inches and now I can fist myself. I do have small hands for a male and a lot of my female friends have larger hands than myself.

One phenomenon that I have discovered is if I relax whilst on my knees, legs spread, and lay my torso on the ground, my butt hole will open into a gape. I find this ability to gape at will incredibly arousing but I wonder if anyone else has made or heard of such discoveries..?

No can do, irrigator! She is the girl of my dreams and i don't have any intentions to leave her. It's not that her hand should fit immidiatly, we are just taking our time and having fun!

Have you tried "figging" to open yourself up any further?

My experience with anal dilation has been for medical reasons. After being diagnosed with obstructed defecation, the colo-rectal specialist sent me for physical therapy with a specialist in pelvic floor disorders. Part of my therapy was to use dilators to relax my anal and rectal muscles. Instead of anal dilators, the physical therapist had me order vaginal dilators because they were readily available from online medical suppliers, whereas anal dilators would be more expensive because they would come from online sex toy shops. My set of 4 dilators ranges from 3/4 inch diameter to 1 7/8 inch diameter and 4 inches in length to 7 inches in length respectively.

IMHO, the best anal diliation/stretching toy currently available today is the Doc Johnson Titanmen Intimidator...

https://www.docjohnson.com/titanmen-intimidator.html

It's basically just a big ribbed cone that starts out with a 1.5" knob that step-by-step over 11 inches gradually increases width up to 3.5". It pops in easy enough for most anyone and after that is simply a matter of far you want to work it over time.

Personally, I can take it to just 1 short of the last rib when my pubic bones simply won't allow any more. It's a great warmup for the B-10 Tango plug which is another story.

That looks a very nice and enjoyable toy to use. Would love to try that one out lol

I would be afraid to use it because I can only get the side view of the product, but I do not see any sort of handle. As a result, I worry that if I push it in too far, the whole thing will be in my rectum and I will have no way of getting it out. I am not sure that even an enema would push it out. Can anyone tell me what happens when you push it past the end?

hankb

When any foreign body is pushed far enough into the rectum it turns to follow the sigmoid. When that happens the closest end becomes jammed against the sacrum. It then is stuck. To remove it requires finding the tip in the left lower quadrant while simultaneously gripping the other end with three fingers and prying it off the sacrum. It's hard and it took me awhile to learn it. It also requires sedation with intravenous pain meds. Enemas are totally useless in trying to remove it.

That is a drawback to that product, there is no base flange. The base is a round suction base about 3.5".

It's not a problem for me since it's already bigger than my pubic bones will allow, but for some it could be.

I actually just got a new toy in the post today related to this. It's a new inflatable plug. I haven't had the chance to try it out yet, but I think it will be quite interesting. I have inflated it just to see how big it can get and it can grow relatively easily to the size of my fist. Looking forward to testing it out later when I have the time.

I think I will stay away from the Titanmen Inhibitor. It could be a real source of trouble, expense, embarrassment, and so on. If I get one, I will figure out some sort of handle for it so that I can be sure of its coming out.

hankb

Any tips on getting the intimidator to go deeper .. seem to be hitting the depth of the rectum and not getting the tip to go past the second ring ... any tips.

Any tips on getting the intimidator to go deeper .. seem to be hitting the depth of the rectum and not getting the tip to go past the second ring ... any tips.

Change the angle of your insertion.

It probably ISN'T the second ring that's stopping you.

You might be angling your toy too far posteriorly and you are banging into the sacrum/coccyx.

Insert the toy as you have been and when you "hit the wall," pull back one to three inches and redirect the toy more towards the abdomen instead of towards the back. The colon lies towards the abdomen NOT THE BACK. When you have the direction set right, the toy will quickly slip in a few to several inches deeper.

That should help get farther in.

First of all any potential hand should have cut, smooth fingernails and hopefully smooth skin.

As far as how wide you need to be open? There is no measurement. A properly inserted hand is a gradual opening of the anus. Fingers in a cone shape and the thumb tucked in. Gradual insertion to expand the anal wall muscle and some slow rotation to find 'the path'. Push outward with your anus to 'open up'. Pushing out to open up is like an 'acceptance' to receive.

Laying on your back always have the giver use the left hand. On your knees and bent over, the right hand.

When the largest part of the hand expands and passes your anal wall muscle and feels the shaft of the arm it's an amazing feeling!

At that point squeeze your anal muscle as tight and long as you can hold it then push it wide open. REPEAT! Next thing you know it's nearly to the elbow! A coned had is much better than a clenched fist!

If you like anal dilation,start with this : https://shotstoys.com/products/ass-servant-3-75 ; for start,put some crisco,or the lube of your choice,and sit on it,do not force the entry !,and do some up and down on it every day for a week. after a week you will see the progres ; don't forget,a lot of lube and do not force !!! after a wile,it will enter all in your ass,it will take some months,;when it will goes in without forcing,with ease,then you will be ready to take a fist with pleasure.....do it and keep us updated!!!

I have a set of anal dilators…have used them before having anal sex with my husband at the time because he was rather wide so I wanted to be good & stretched before he inserted his cock into my ass….have also used them on a play partner just before I inserted my fist into his a$$🍑🍆🤛

This looks like it might do the trick

https://www.amazon.com/Expander-Adjustable-Dilator-Vaginal-Stretcher/dp/B0C3767PLH/ref=sr_1_24?crid=3RHM6W7OG1XSL&keywords=pussy+spreader&qid=1695488458&sprefix=pussy+spreader%2Caps%2C81&sr=8-24

I feel like a real amateur reading many of the posts on this thread. Years ago I had a massage trade partner who insisted on “mandatory anal dilation” as part of the sensual massage I’d receive. She’d begin with the smallest in her set of 5 dilators - I never worked up to the largest, but it was very enjoyable to try!

No need to feel that way, we all started small and just enjoy the journey. You can also choose to stay with smaller sizes if you feel so (also your wallet will be very grateful), just do what pleases you.

@chelle300

I have a set of anal dilators…have used them before...

Yes... shouldn't all anal play be mutually inclusive?

I've been trying to use the Huse.com plastic and silicone dilators. But I think I bit off more than I can chew with the silicone ones as I got a set of six all the way up to the three and three quarter inch largest size they produce.

What I really need to do is to have a schedule of stretching exercises regularly to see if I can work my way up to it otherwise I should just sell them on here before I get to discouraged by having them around and not being able to use them

I tried the set of 5 dilators, but felt I needed a more gradual approach or more in between sizes. I made myself a cone shaped toy which required constant holding and pressure to keep in place, but allowed me to more gradually stretch myself. I could apply some pressure, back off and relax, then apply more pressure. You can buy them premade from Tantus…

https://www.tantusinc.com/collections/plugs/products/cone-large

Their cone comes in a large and small size depending on max width of the base. It does require constant holding or pushing against something, but might be more successful than the fixed sizes in a traditional kit, or a good addition to your routine, helping you move from one size to another.

I saw this on X the other day and knew right away who else would be interested in 19th Century Rectal Dilators' claims for improved health.

Check out Snopes: https://www.snopes.com/fact-check/were-19th-century-rectal-dilators-sold-as-headache-cures/

The image at the top is an artist's rendition--and those aren't dilators, IMO, but nozzles. There are two links in the Snopes article to images of the real thing, one apparently made of something plastic-like (Bakelite, maybe?), the other metal.

I do have one of those large diameter anal toys meant for stretching your inner sphincter from Tantus

And I plan to add some from Etsy if I ever find the time to look through their listings.