Wanting a harder spanking

My wife spanked me while over a hassock, she wants me to have self control and stay in position, ( I can't) She started with the bath brush, a little hard & fast. I soon got out of position, she demanded me to get back over the hassock, I was stating I can't hep it. After perhaps 6 - 10 times of this I could finally stay in position sobbing, still begging on deaf ears! We finally found out that I would eventually be able to stay in position for a proper brushing!

I later told her that all of my spankings should be as through as that one, she took the bait & 2 weeks later kept spanking me until I would stay in position, then spanked harder for about another 5 - 10 minutes, with me staying in position, no time out for me, by getting out of position!

I do 90% of the spanking in our household, and my wife just wasn't very good at it. We went to paint store and got some paint swatches. We picked agreed on a red for "moderate" and "severe" spankings. And, when I need a spankng she spanks me until I am uniformly that color. No argument. No negotiation. Very simple. Has made a WORLD of difference for us.

I did get my wife to paddle me but not hard enough, I kept saying harder but she said afterwards that she didn't want to hurt me, I did have a lady i hooked with a couple of years ago paddle my ass but I didn't have to tell her harder she tore my bare ass up, I got 20 very hard swats, the burn was good. I received the best paddlings from her and my aunt when I was a teen.

To Eman----You wanted your wife to paddle you harder??? WOW I have taken and totally deserved an occasional bare ass paddling from my wife who has had to put up with way too much from me---for a long period---We both know when a paddling has to settle things and there is no argument on my part--I got it coming--I quick shower and just bend over and hold my knees get my bare butt paddled-- it hurts a whole lot! the last thing I would say is to spank harder---I am saying "it hurts so much" and other stuff like that-- Maybe you actually like pain---I hate it--though totally deserving when she finally has to paddle me--- I just want it to be over but it is over when she is ready and my butt is hurting and I am apologizing like crazy

@pmoi What a great idea! I never thought of that.

I have a wooden spoon hairbrush bathbrush belt what would you use on me for a hard spanking

@BillyC Leather is always the best choice like a strap with a handle or a flogger