How to get him/her involved | How can I tell my girlfriend …

Hello Diaperedboy, I was there many years ago as probably everyone else here has been. If I had to go thru it again I would probably handle it the same way I did before. First, Can you give your diapers up? Take a good HARD look at you diaper habits (fetish). How strong are they? A good test is go cold turkey for a while. How does it affect you? Think about them a lot and see if you can deal with it without indulging. Go long enough that you can really see how you can handle it. Life stresses play a large part in many DL's need to wear so try going thru a stressful time to see if it's a problem. If you are like a lot of us, you won't be able to give them up. That's when you need to do some soul searching. I came to realize that my DL needs were part of me. They weren't going away any more than my need to breath. Like Popeye the Sailorman said, "I am what I am" I came to the conclusion that my then GF had to know. We had already planned our wedding so I HAD to tell her. It just isn't morally OK to put a loved one thru the whole DL experience without her knowing.

So, how to do it? Just make up your mind that it will de done. Find a place where you are both comfortable. Make sure both her and you are in good spirits. She more than you. You'll probably be a wreck. Doing something special for her wouldn't hurt either. At any rate you'll have to man up and steel yourself and go for it. I lost days of sleep worrying about it. When the time came we were at my place. I started out by saying there was something she needed to know. It was around there that I broke down and started to cry. I was just so overwhelmed with shame and worry about the outcome. I blubbered and mumbled for quite a while condemning myself and some how I just spewed it all out. I expected the worst and was really ready to hear it. I honestly was ready to say goodbye and accept the consequences and potential disasters it could create. It's seems to me from years of reading the forums that there is about a 50/50 chance that she'll take it well. Yeah, she might blow you off and tell you to get lost. If this happens BELIEVE ME! She wasn't the one for you. You'll eventually deal with it and you'll find a way to move on with life. If that happens you'll never know the pain it would have created when your DL feelings came out later in your relationship. For me,I had finally realized that and there was no other way and I had to tell her.

Well, after hearing it all she looked at me with huge relief and said "Is that all?" "God! I thought you were going to die or you were horribly sick or something". It didn't bother her in the least. I can't tell you the relief I felt by telling her. Also, it was easily the hardest thing I ever had to do. This was back in the 70's when NOBODY knew about the whole diaper thing. At least now your GF has no doubt been exposed a little to the whole thing. It's tiny bit more acceptable than it was. For what it's worth, we've been married for nearly 40 years. A woman that can put up with the whole ABDL thing is a GOOD woman. She has the ability to accept the reality that no person is superhuman. You really need to ask yourself if you want to hang around with a sexy shallow self centered drama queen princess forever if that's what she is. Take your sex goggles off and take a hard look at her and yourself as far as this goes. Men as a group adhere to the belief that macho is the male basis. We can't show ANY weakness. This is unrealistic and damaging to a long term relationship. Like the tennis shoe commercial- Just DoIt! Tell her. Oh yeah, Always remember that the ABDL is a lot for a non lover to swallow. It will forever be a lot to swallow. Always make your GF feel special. Make SURE her emotional/sexual needs are fulfilled. Otherwise your DL past times will drive a wedge between you. I hope this helps....