I made a note to myself to come back to this thread today so here I am.
First things first, Amy, I hope your man is okay with you calling his penis "cute". To most men that isn't a compliment. Just tossing that out there as a tidbit of advice. Take it or leave it. Just trying to be helpful, lol.
OKay, I am going to throw it all out there. The reason I am is because both of us have come so far in the last almost 8 years concerning this topic. Here is an accounting of our evolution.
Okay, I will start by saying that I absolutely LOVE to give head, love it!!!. Not trying to be blunt or crass, that's just how it is. I however have a very strong gag reflex which can be a problem sometimes. When I was younger I had to be in charge of everything, and all the time, especially anything sex related. So because I had to be in control, and because I have such a strong gag reflex I had a few rules, one of which was number 5 out of my 5 rules, and it simply stated, "Don't put your hand on my head because I don't need any help". No explanation needed.
So go ahead 15 years and I meet Doc. The first time I sucked on him he seemed very uncomfortable. I didn't quite know how to react to that. I wasn't sure if I was hurting him or what, so I asked. He then told me that he thought it was rude to ever ask a woman to do that, and the women that had done that to him in the past didn't really want to or like to but did so because they thought it was what was expected of them. So because of that, Doc would never ever in a million years expect me to, or ask for me to do such a thing.
I told him a thousand times that I honestly LOVED to suck dick, and I wanted to really bad. It took him a long time to actually be able to fully relax when I was doing that because he kept feeling guilty. I'm glad he got over that. Now, he absolutely loves it. He was made well aware of my 5 rules probably before we even met, but for sure after we met. The first 3 deal with my real name, and you know the 5th one already, but number 4 is, "Don't call me baby unless you are inside of me". Calling a woman baby just seemed so trashy to me, and I didn't like it.
I have discussed his favorite position for me to suck on him and he really enjoys laying on his back, half propped up so he can watch me enjoying him. I am on my belly between his legs. That way too my hands are free to play with his balls or stick a finger or two inside his tush, another of my favorite things to do. I love to feel a prostate when a man cums. It's such an awesome feeling. And when he cums and I have my finger rubbing over it and putting pressure on it I would assume would make your orgasm just all that much more better. I had over the years gotten down on my knees and did it that way. He loves it any which way, but when he stands he says he can't relax as well as he can when he is laying down.
So about 6 years into our relationship he did a very bold thing and very easily and gently put his hand on my head. Just one hand. To my surprise I loved it. I felt loved and appreciated when he did that for some weird reason. This was something I have fought against at the top of my lungs my entire adult life, and there I was liking it. Strange. I soon found myself dreaming about it, but I wasn't dreaming about him being gentle, but ummm, being rough, being man-like, in charge, Dom like. And it turned me on more and more. I let him know what my dreams contained and what I suddenly found that turned me on. I was asking him to put both his hands on my head while I was sucking on him and giving him permission to be a bit more aggressive about it as well. Also in my dreams I was hearing Doc demanding me to do it, not giving me a choice, and he was using naughty language to do so. Which if you have read any of my posts you know that for some odd reason it's a huge turn on for me to hear Doc use words like pussy, cock, and tits. When others use those words they are okay, but it doesn't turn me on like it does when he uses them Mmmmm! I guess because medical professionals shouldn't talk like that, lol.
So pretty much rule number 5 was out the window. But going back about 5 years we started branching out a bit and delving into Dom and sub ideas that reached out beyond medical things. That's when we both discovered and to much surprise, that Doc loves to be spanked, hehehe. I already knew I did, but he had never been. He had told me when we first met that being spanked was a very hard limit for him. Well I conveniently "forgot". I put a mask on him, I put on all black leathers with knee high high heeled leather boots and I started spanking his hot ass. About 3 whacks in he was so rock hard I could have stacked an entire set of encyclopedias on his dick and he could have held them up, lol. I came up with a sub name for him at that point, I called him simply, "doctorboy". I called him that, I took off his mask and let him get a good look at me in my all black leathers and that was all she wrote. He from that point on was begging me to spank him....like I knew he would. And our non-medical Dom sub adventures began. His sub name for me, naturally, "baby". A clear violation of rule number 4. However, I was somehow more than fine with that coming from him.
Now fast forward again to a year or so ago. I was at the local sex shop which I don't usually go to because their things are way to vanilla for us, just to look around. After all they do have some good stuff that we do love like our Feeldoe and our 4 point under the bed restraint system. I came across a neat contraption I thought would fit "doctorboy" quite nicely. It was this harness type thing. It has hooks and latches all over it so you can be hooked up, hung up, tied up, or restrained in any which way one can think of.
I showed it to him and told him he was going to find himself in it. We returned from dinner one evening and he got this serious look on his face and he threw the harness at me and told me to put it on and no back talk "baby". Well I don't know what got into my man that night but I saw a side of him I had never seen before. I suddenly found myself on my knees, in front of him. I had my arms and hands tied behind me, I was totally at his mercy. I was told to put my head down a bit and not look him in the face. I did. He stepped up to me and promptly took his hard self out of his pants and put his hand on the side of my face and demanded I open my mouth. I obeyed, he shoved his very hard cock in my mouth and then put both his hands on the back of my head, grabbed my hair and in a deep commanding, demanding voice told me to suck his cock.
I never in all my life ever thought I would get him to the point that 1) he was comfortable asking for that, 2) demanding that, 3) making me do that and not giving me a choice, 4) being slightly rough about doing it, and 5) finally being comfortable enough and confident enough to do all of the above knowing that by doing so he was making me truly happy and giving me exactly what I wanted and needed.
I can't even begin to tell you how over the top hot that was for me and absolutely with out words that was. It is one of my all time top 5 things we have ever sexually done together. So I am not sure for him what his favorite way to have me take care of him is, or mine. I think as long as I get to I am happy. I don't think either of us would have ever guessed that 8 years ago coming into this relationship, with the rules and hard limits we both had that 8 years later, what we fought so hard against ended up being what both of us not only wanted, but absolutely needed. Humm, go figure. LOL.
Mashie