Best position for cunnilingus?

For those of us who enjoy going down on our gals, what is the best position?

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Sitting on my face

The 'face sitting', or to describe it more accurately, face kneeling, is okay for fun and play, but is not particularly effective for cunnilingus because it does not allow the man's head enough mobility to access all her important little places. The same thing goes for the '69' position.

The optimal position is with the woman on her back, with legs spread and relaxed. Even better is to have a pillow under her ass so that her pelvis is tilted upwards, raising her genitals to a better angle. This way, an effective tongue bath can be delivered to her entire underside, and the man can focus on her clitoris or other areas as he pleases because his head can move freely. He can also use his hands so that she feels better connected to him than just his tongue. My wife loves it when I place a hand on her belly and lightly stroke it, or stroke her thighs, especially along the insides but also down the outsides. Fingers can gently be inserted into her vagina or anus as she wishes, all while keeping up my tongue action on her clitoris.

As this seems to be turning into DrZ's Sex Tips for Boys, I'll say that most importantly, take your time!

A variation that is a little easier on the man's neck is for the women to lay on her back with her ass on the end of the bed. You then can kneel between her legs and have excellent access to her genitals. Again, the man's hands can come into play and she will feel more connected to him.

Face sitting works best for us as lets her move to get her sensitive parts where my mouth / tongue is and she can control pretty much everything. Her pleasure is mine!

The best position for a man would be with me on an OB-GYN examining table with my legs in the stirrups. The man sits on the stool, adjusts the height of the table to get into position and voila! This position also prevents him from having to tilt his neck and head up as he would have to do lying in bed with my legs spread because with me on the table, his head approaches from the best licking position. YUMM. I'll do what's needed to help a man give me a good licking!

The best position for a man would be with me on an OB-GYN examining table with my legs in the stirrups. The man sits on the stool, adjusts the height of the table to get into position and voila! This position also prevents him from having to tilt his neck and head up as he would have to do lying in bed with my legs spread because with me on the table, his head approaches from the best licking position.

If I had such a table, that's what I'd use!

You obviously understand how the man's head and neck can be under strain when he can't get into an ideal position. That's what I've always found, but cunnilingus is worth that discomfort.

Susie: That's indeed a good suggestion. It is actually not that easy to find a comfortable position to give cunnilingus... For instance, if the woman is lying in bed with the bottom on the side, legs open, then she has no place to rest the legs (stirrups would be needed).

Woman laying in bed on the back with partner on top (kinda 69) -> partner has the head below the body (uncomfortable).

Woman lying in bed on the back, partner between the legs -> uncomfortable position for partner's neck.

I'd however prefer a solution that would not involve the purchase of a piece of highly "compromising" equipment. ;-)

At 46 years of age and our younger daughter off to college next week, I'm beginning not to give a rat's ass if people who come to our house know that we have a sex life they could only dream about.

Susie we had a chance to do that once and for both of us it was incredible! So was the fucking afterwards. Next time GF says she wants to be restrained. Wheee!

Amen to what Susie said.

I have done the oral in a super fun happy gyn specific chair and I gotta tell you, there is NOTHING as exciting, pleasing, or comfortable for both people. Doc's GYN chair has leg supports so when you sit down in it you are sitting up and you spread your legs a bit to the side and they fit in these leg rests. Then Doc pushes the button and the chair lays completely back, or to whatever is comfortable for you or so that he can get in there and do what he has to do. Then the bottom section goes down which leaves your fanny hanging off the table about 2 inches or so. It is so perfect and so hot! Also its perfect for him to get in it too so I can return the favor. The giver never has to worry about their neck because they are sitting on a stool between your legs and both the table and stool height can be adjusted to whatever is comfortable. Also because of the chair having legs supports or rests in stead of stirrups the receiver doesn't get that shaky leg thing going on or they don't get tired. So the receiver can relax, enjoy, and concentrate on what's going on between their legs. Which makes the orgasm way more intense, and I personally climax a lot sooner, and a lot harder.

Now if that sort of thing isn't an option then I think for both of us the best position is me on my back, pillow under my hips and him between my legs. The only problem with this position for me is we have to be careful with how thick the pillow is that's under my hips. I am very flexible and my legs lay flat on the ground when I am in a butterfly type position. So when my tush is too high up off the ground my legs lay open which puts a lot of pressure on my lower back. And that gets uncomfortable after a while.

Now when the situation is reversed he and I both like him on his back but sort of half sitting up with his legs flat but spread. That way he can relax and watch me, and personally speaking, I love it when he watches me do that to him. It's easy on my neck and allows me access to his yummy sexy big balls and also his ass. So, I am able to easily stick a finger or two up his tush and tickle his prostate as I am doing my thing. I love having my finger on his prostate when he comes because it gets all firm and pulsates. I love that. Plus I can apply pressure to his prostate as he comes which helps drain it a bit. Plus on his side he comes a lot harder than normal that way.

Mashie

Mashie, I suspect my wife would want to spend most of her time in the gyn chair.

You've also identified the main problem with having a pillow under the woman's bottom. It can be uncomfortable for her lower back after a while.

Thanks for the great response boys and girls. Our own favourite position, which is not tiring for either partner, is for my wife to lie on her left side with her knees drawn up and with her right hand holding her cheeks slightly apart. I lie top to tail (literally) on my right side and my tongue can easily access anywhere between her clitoris and her anus. My left hand is free to caress her breasts and belly. Wonderful.

Miceman, If I understand you correctly (and this is not negative criticism), in that position her labia are not naturally spread because her legs are close together, so (if you see what I mean) you will have access to all areas front to back, but the clitoris might be 'in hiding' and your tongue can't easily get between the labia to her most sensitive spots- to some degree depending on the woman of course.

The position you describe sounds similar to one I use just to be playful, but I don't think of it as the most effective generally, and certainly isn't with my wife. For her, being on her back with legs spread is how she likes it best.

Our favorite position is with my wife on her back. Instead of being between her legs, I am next to her licking and sucking her clitoris from above (sort of a modified 69 position). This leaves her vagina available for fingers, which she enjoys very much while being licked. Works for her every time!

My favorite position is to have her on her back with her thighs abducted. I'm prone at ninety degrees. It allows both digital and lingual access. Although I'm nominally right handed I always use my left hand for this. Why? I don't have the faintest. Right brain stuff?

For me there are several drawbacks to having the lady lying on her back with legs apart. If I lie face down between her legs it plays havoc with the bedclothes and hurts my neck after a while. If I lie across her as described by Liquidsky I can't get much further back than her clitoris. Furthermore, both of these alternative positions make it difficult to breathe. All in all it's amazing that this form of sex ever got off the ground. It just proves "where there's a will there's a way".

Miceman, If that position is what works for both you and your lady then it's fair enough. It's just that in my own experience, the girl on her back position is what I've found the most effective, not only for my wife but also the majority of ladies I slept with before her – but each to his and her own.

As regards which hand to use for digital access, my right hand is assigned to her vagina while my left is reserved for anal insertion if she wants it. I believe this habit was established when I was 16, when I had a girlfriend who enjoyed two fingers (right hand) on her clitoris and two fingers (left hand) up her anus.

We had a Ritter exam table in our bedroom for years as a "dresser". Worked great as a dresser, but it was the best for oral sex for both of us. We had to move 1,200 miles and had no way to move it with us. Looking for another, but I need to find some help to move it now. Those things are heavy! We did keep the stool, and it comes in handy now and then. Now we just make a soft bed on a table and use the back of chairs for supports. Good times!

A Gyn/Ob chair/table is the best but if you are looking for something that can easily be disguised try a sex swing or sling with a full back, It gives the one in the swing the support to make it comfortable as well as having the height adjusting ability. It can be suspended from the ceiling from a hook that can be disguised or is inconspicuous when the swing is taken down and stored. It gives you added mobility so that you can achieve positions not previously attainable and it can be adjusted and utilized when an exam table is not available You can find one at www.screamersexswings.com.

I have no affiliation with the above site.

^^^^ There are several sites that sell sex swing/slings. So does extreme restraints and leatherman nyc, which is where we got ours about 15 years ago. I'm sure mr leather in Philadelphia and others also sell them. Some even sell stands that disassemble for storage under your bed. We hang ours from the ceiling. Of course we DON'T leave it up when we aren't using it.

EDIT: I just did a google search for sex sling and got PAGES of sellers.

There wouldn't so many sellers if people weren't buying them!

The best position for cunnilingus is to get her to sit on your face

I like it when you are on your back with your legs pulled up towards your shoulders. But i also like it when you squat or sit on my face and you control the action. Really if I’m eating your pussy there is no bad position.

A couple of positions, one having her sit on my face, but that can strain the neck sometimes, but still effective. I like best, a pillow under the ass and legs spread apart wide on the edge of the bed, with me kneeling on the floor. Oh, my, yes!!

I always thought having my face up close and personal with her pussy was the best way to give her oral sex. Did it matter if I was on my back with her sitting on my face, on my back while we were doing a 69, on top of her while we were doing a 69, on my stomach half off the bed with her on her back and my face held tight between her clenched legs, or in some other contorted position. Nope. So long as I was working my tongue, lips, and mouth while licking and sucking her pussy, clit, and pussy lips, it was all fine. She had riveting orgasms, came in buckets, I licked and swallowed all I could of her juices, and we never had bad oral sex.

Straddling my face is great but her laying on back with legs spread is better as it allows her to relax as the orgasm builds. Personally I do enjoy the 69 position so that I can look at her bottom from close up, but I prefer her not to take my penis in her mouth during cunnilingus, because it's too distracting.

While I thoroughly enjoy giving cunnilingus, I look at it this way, this is doing something that gives HER the pleasure that leads up to her orgasm, so position doesn't matter to me.

I'll let her dictate which position ( or positions ) gives her the highest quality orgasm possible.

For me position matters. Herniated disc several years ago makes it uncomfortable to be in a position where I have to hold my head up (straight missionary). Pillows or something to raise her ass or over my shoulders reduces the amount of neck bending I have to do. Also gIves me access to her butt? We didn’t like 69. Rather focus on each other without trying to pleasure someone at the same time. .

How long does a woman like to receive cunnilingus a few minues, 5 min, 15 min or more.

I've never had one stop me.