Have you thought about your transition from a boy into a man?

Guys, have you ever thought about your transition from a boy to a man? When would you say that happened? When did you notice the changes in your genitals as you got older? What were your thoughts during this period of time?

It's a gradual process during the years of adolescence, not something that happens suddenly or over a short space of time. Having said that, there are significant events such as the first proper girlfriend in a romantic sense, first ejaculation and first sexual intercourse. I think in my case I was on the cusp of manhood between the ages of 15 to 17 approximately, and when I say that, I'm talking about emotional maturity and attitudes, particularly towards the opposite sex.

As for physical changes, I believe I was just about 13 when I first noticed pubic hair growth and my penis beginning to grow longer and thicker. I don't remember thinking about my physical development too much at the time. As we were often nude around the house, my mother probably monitored my development to some degree more more than I did. I'd say my own thoughts were mostly on the girls I liked back then.

In my case, we are talking about 60 years ago, and I do not remember much beyond that a couple of months after I turned 12, my voice changed, I started growing pubic hair, and my genitals got big or at least bigger. I had a girl-friend starting in the 8th grade, but it was all innocent behavior because the Church (LDS) required it of us. I had my first sexual intercourse when I was perhaps 21, but I am not sure of that. I did not marry until I was 29. So, physical and psycho-social developments did not coincide in my case.

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My thoughts were almost always about sex, how i want to have it, but can't seem to get it.

13 was definitely the magic age, 8th grade, about to leave Catholic middle school for an all boys high school. Just beginning to really take notice how nice my nun principal's breasts were under her tight black habit, noticing on occasion her erect nipples. And then the white habits the nuns at my school wore look more like nurse's uniforms than traditional habits. They were worn tight enough that i could easy decipher their middle aged shapely bodies.

Also when i was in 8th grade, i began having a hard time keeping my scrotum from popping out through the leg holes of my 70's short shorts. One time a few kids from the other side of the classroom told me to lift my leg & started laughing hysterically. I looked down, & there out of my leg hole were my exposed balls. My tighty whitey briefs were losing the ability to contain my genitalia. Didn't know what a jockstrap was at the time, until my mom bought me one about a year later, I have a blog here dedicated to the development of my jockstrap fetish.

It was about the same age, i started to fantasize about having the nuns tied up to grope, and being tied up by them for the same purpose. Never shared these thoughts with anyone. I also started having wet dreams, & those nocturnal emissions became more frequent over the next few years, until i discovered masturbation around the late age of 16. Which was a relief from having to get up in the middle of the night to wash my undies & find a secret place for them to dry overnight. There were a few nights where i had multiple wet dreams, & my undies drawer would start to run low !

I guess it hit me in sixth grade. We had to change and shower in PE for the first time and I was embarrassed because many of the boys had an obvious thatch of pubic hair and I had none. By the end of the year though I had a respectable bush and felt more confident when I showered with the other boys. It was also a confusing and frankly terrifying time as I came to understand my homosexuality. I had some sexual encounters with other boys. I began to masturbate frequently. My body became more muscular which I enjoyed when playing sports. I told my mom that I didn't want to wear little boy briefs and wanted boxer shorts and she bought me some for back to school. Generally left behind my little kid clothes and started dressing like an adolescent. Kissed my first girl and kissed my first boy.

I guess it was about in 7th grade when all the guys were talking about sex. Buy then, most of us had started to sprout pubic hair, which was evident from gym class ... the girls in the class were staring to "enlarge their chests." Something that confused me was the fact that several of my classmates had a "funny looking dick" (uncircumcised) in the gym showers. I asked my Dad about that, and it gave him the opportunity to have "the talk" with me, which was awkward at the time, but looking back, it set me on the road to a fulfilling appreciation of male sexuality.

By the time I was 16 or so, my hormones were in full tilt. My older brother caught me masturbating and told my Dad (my brother is an a-hole to this day), who told me it was OK, since everyone did in (including I suppose my brother).

To answer the question however, I guess during that period of time when growing up, there was some confusion as my body changed. At first, I was alarmed that hair was starting to sprout around my penis, but having seen my older brother naked, I figured it might be OK. And of course there was an occasional wet dream when I was about 15 ... what a mess! To top it off, the ever present morning erection. One morning I woke up with an erection and headed to the bathroom, only to encounter my Dad as he was coming out ... he looked down at my bulge and said, "... your mother and I am glad you're normal." Whatever.

For me it was something gradual, over time. And my mental growth into adulthood had to play catchup to my physical growth. Physically speaking, I started puberty in middle school, but I'd say I was 16 at least before I started to really mature mentally.

My thoughts were almost always about sex, how i want to have it, but can't seem to get it.

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It was about the same age, i started to fantasize about having the nuns tied up to grope, and being tied up by them for the same purpose. Never shared these thoughts with anyone. I also started having wet dreams, & those nocturnal emissions became more frequent over the next few years, until i discovered masturbation around the late age of 16. Which was a relief from having to get up in the middle of the night to wash my undies & find a secret place for them to dry overnight. There were a few nights where i had multiple wet dreams, & my undies drawer would start to run low !

Well I remember that awkward stage very well, full blown puberty before really knowing what was going on. And the wet dreams yikes what a mess lol. Doubt it was just me that those ejaculations were huge... but they did feel good, as inconvenient as they were.

I was a late developer - at two boys-only boarding schools. I wasn't yet 14 by the time I went to high school. It was a school divided into 'houses' that competed against each other in every conceivable way - even the house dramatic presentations were rated. But of course, most of the contests were physical and ranged from team sports (we played cricket, hockey (known as armed football) and rugby) and all had standard performance levels that were age-related.

For a late bloomer, this meant three excruciating years of being the guy no one wanted on their team. Only when I was nearly 17 was I able to earn ANY standard points for my house, except for cross country running, which requires courage even before development and stamina. This is all, all sex-related, too. At my first school, some of my contemporaries began puberty very early, and were the wonder of the school for their full bushes, adult cocks and balls - and their masturbatory prowess. It was a sought-after privilege to be invited to wank with one of these great ones and to gaze on the cum geysers they shot into the air- Wow! But woe betide anyone, pre- or post-puberty, who had an erection in the communal showers!. You couldn't avoid the other guys because hot water was strictly rationed, so we all had to shower together. Except, of course, that the juniors were pushed out of the stream whenever possible by their seniors.

At high school, not much changed except the perception of the undeveloped (especially if he were artistic, an academic, or (worst of all) musical. All of these were considered as indicators of likely homosexuality (the word gay still meant light-hearted fun). And there was nasty stigma attached to that. I was bullied, being both academic and musical. In my maturity, I understand that probably most of us were anxious about our sexuality, and projected this on to others. After all, we never saw a girl for the whole term! Would we really find them attractive? But actually being caught masturbating was the worst disaster imaginable despite the fact that, of course, we were all doing it. You would be greeted with, 'Hey wanker (specific gesture), sies, man!' It's hard to translate that Afrikaans word, but you don't want to hear it about yourself.

Well, the circle jerks went on among friends who hadn't yet, or were still developing body hair, bigger penises and balls and deeper voices (I went from treble to bass over one holiday) t mean? Nothing, apparently, though I could never tell a soul! Cows aren't really my thing!. I am still married to the wife I chose and we now, after 51 years, have five grandchildren.

Some us probably were gay - one was expelled for indiscreet anal sex. My persecution persisted even after my genitals developed - because now I was bigger than anyone else, and the 'main men' pretended to be disgusted by my large and uncut cock. Of course, they were really envious, but I didn't know that; it didn't help my ego at all.

Over all, I agree with Maurice Chevalier in 'Gigi.' I'm glad I'm not young any more.

Johnny

I began masturbating at an early age because I had an older brother about 5 years ahead me who was reaching puberty when I was about 8 years old. So just hanging around with his friends who were beginning to talk about sex and masturbating taught me a lot. I would masturbate and have dry orgasms but I would say around age 12 or so I saw some pubic hair and started to ejaculate. Again the older boys in the neighborhood provided much of the sexual information even before I was into puberty. So when puberty hit I was masturbating all the time and constantly dreaming of what it would be like to actually have sex with a woman. I guess I was like most boys at that age who thought about sex constantly.

History doesn't go back that far. I think dirt was still clean back then. I really don't remember, that's how big of an impression it left.

It was a sought-after privilege to be invited to wank with one of these great ones and to gaze on the cum geysers they shot into the air- Wow! But woe betide anyone, pre- or post-puberty, who had an erection in the communal showers!.

But actually being caught masturbating was the worst disaster imaginable despite the fact that, of course, we were all doing it. You would be greeted with, 'Hey wanker (specific gesture), sies, man!'

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The inconsistencies boggle the mind. I bet all of you failed Logic, or if you didn't, then you most certainly should have ... ha ha ha

I was 11 years old when everything began to change. My voice broke and i was suddenly able to ejaculate, i could produce semen before i had hair under my arms, i was a little embarrassed about having smooth underarms and very little pubic hair when changing for P.E. etc, however i was very pleased with the fact that i now had spunk!

I reached puberty in the mid 1960s. I remember masturbating from about 8. I didn't think about girls or boys, I just liked the sensation. My pubic hair started growing when I was about 12, I found this embarrassing at school in the PE showers. I also remember having to start shaving early.

When I was about 14 I saw an old movie on television, that featured a woman distracting a man by teasing him with her legs. I remember thinking "yes, I like that" that was the first time I was interested in a woman's body, I've had bit of a leg fetish ever since! Later I had a picture of the Bond girl in Thunderball wearing a bikini, totally smitten, had my first ejaculation with that picture. It took me nearly a year to appreciate bare breasts, I only liked the cleavage aspect, when they were in a brassiere or bikini top. Anyway the rest is history as they say.

Fascinating subject JazminJ, message me if you want to know anymore.

Early sexuality for me started one summer day when I was about nine or ten. My buddy and I were in his garage and all of a sudden he pulled down his pants and briefs and dared me to do the same. I did and from that time we would periodically get together and experiment with each other. After a couple of years say when we were twelve or so we started interacting more. The hormones were racing and we did some rubbing, mutual masturbation and finally we tried tasting each others penis. We never came in each others mouths but I remember how nice his tongue felt as he swirled it around by glans. Then we discovered girls and these sessions while they continued for many years they happened at longer intervals. It was all innocent playing and I remember it fondly.

Being 71 years old, this is really testing my memory. As best I recall I was in junior high school when these changes starting taking place in my life. I know I was still hairless in the 6th grade and had a decent bush by 10th grade. However, I didn't have to shave daily throughout high school. To this day, if I miss a day shaving very few people would notice. I knew what was going on as I have a brother 2 1/2 years my senior. It was during my junior high school years that I found my dads stash of (I think) Modern Photography magazines. Invariably there were pics of nude women. These were the first pictures I masturbated to. BTW, dad was an amateur photographer who developed pictures in his basement darkroom so I'm certain he didn't look at these mags for the same reason I did. But, I was glad he had them and that I found them.

If the question is about sexuality and the genitals, that's one thing, and I addressed that somewhat about six months ago. I began getting erections and had my first ejaculation in 7th grade.

But if the question is about the larger transitioning from boy to man, that is different. Becoming a man is much more than sexual function or ability. Maturity and responsibility are key elements of becoming and being a man. Without those, one is just an old boy, or ol' boy in some parts.

It depends on what you mean exactly, because the transition is so gradual. I remember when pubic hair started coming in at around 11.5 or 12 years old, I remember my first ejaculation at 13. Yet, during all of this I still felt like a kid and manhood was this far off concept. However, when I was about 14, I went to use the restroom at a park birthday party for my cousin's 10th birthday. A couple of his friends saw me and started whispering to each other. I heard them laugh and say that I was "big and hairy". It was a moment that made me realize that I was definitely changing yet at 14 I still felt like a kid and manhood was far away. I had never thought about any of this as a transition although it definitely was.