New Relationship--Problem with Hemorrhoids

A new relationship with a lady who is very open from a sexual perspective. After several months I told her of my experience described in the Library called "The Visitor." She was understanding but a little disgusted and miffed. I told her I still have interest in enemas. She admitted to giving herself enemas in her teenage years on the advice of her mom for period cramps. She also admitted they were a slight turn-on.

Her current issue is she has Hemorrhoids and has not given herself one for years. She was surprised that they were a turn-on to me and willingly has given me several colon tube enemas. The last couple also involved a little sexual play. During sex I have tried to just massage her anal area and she has politely denied me access. She loves my deep vaginal massage and prefers I focus on that.

My question is especially for women who have this condition but still enjoy enemas??? I have tried searching for answers and I understand some people have success with KY injections using an old fleet bottle and then inserting a colon tube. She has researched coffee enemas and indicated she wished she could try them. Is there an opportunity here????

I used to have a book titled something like "A Minnesota Doctor's Guide to Health". He recommended enemas for various digestive issues including hemorrhoids. In the book, it seems he suggested using a small rectal or colon tube to avoid aggravating sensitive tissues.

A small warm enema of water or oil can assist in having a BM without further aggravating the anal tissues. Unlike a larger volume enema, a small enema can often be expelled with less force and with more control. While many of us relish those larger volumes, a small volume can be effective in managing some of those nuisance ailments we suffer from.

Perhaps, she might be amenable to trying small volumes, with a small diameter tube attached to a bulb syringe, or a pint or less of fluid in a bag. I have found these types of enemas very effective and comfortable, although they don't have the same level of sensual/sexual stimulation in most cases.

Sometimes, we just need to take care of business and forego those other pleasures, until circumstances are a bit more conducive for our pleasure.

Whenever my hemorrhoids flare up I will apply Vicks vapor rub in and around my anus. This is an effective treatment for me and my wife has used it effectively as well. Small regular enemas over time should eliminate the need to strain when having a bowel movement. Both treatments should help her hemorrhoids heal enough to enjoy a larger more erotic enema.

Rick1616, First of all, talk with her about her wants and interests. If she wants to try a colon tube enema, start shall with plenty lube. Start with plain water, and if all goes well, increase the volume a bit. But make sure she is comfortable with what you both are doing. This is about her, not you, and we guys have trouble with that sometimes.

I love anal and take an R T almost daily and I use Vibrators and Dildos whenever I get the chance. My wife will assist me sometimes even though she is afraid she may aggravate my Hemorrhoids. I have to assure her that she won't and eventually she will help me and even have fun.

Inserting an enema nozzle or colon tube can potentially cause hemorrhoids to bleed which isn't fun. Using Vicks to treat them is ridiculous. It does nothing other than to irritate them. The best treatment for external hemorrhoids is sitz bathes, never straining and Preparation H. Really though only time makes them better. Everyone gets one sooner or later. I have seen a patient with cirrhosis and poor clotting times exsanguinate and die from a bleeding hemorrhoid. There's always one to prove an exception to the rule.

For hemorrhoids, use Preparation H.

Even gymnasts know to use it--on their hands when the skin is swollen or ripped from doing spins on the uneven parallel bars. It works very well on anuses too to reduce swelling and speed healing. Both my daughters used it--on their hands.

It contains shark liver oil which everyone knows is just da kine!

You may be able to get a physician to Rx Proctofoam-HC, or Proctocreme-HC to apply to hemorrhoids. They contain hydrocortisone to reduce inflammation.

You may be able to get a physician to Rx Proctofoam-HC, or Proctocreme-HC to apply to hemorrhoids. They contain hydrocortisone to reduce inflammation.

So does the Preparation H.

Check this out for a novel way to treat hemorrhoids. I had a patient who used it but couldn't tolerate the headaches

http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/7736873

Those patients better not sit down too fast! LOL

When I was a young teenager, I also had a copy of "A Minnesota Doctor's Guide to Health". That small paperback book used enemas for just about everything imaginable. That was where I first heard about bowel flushing enemas for correction of loose stools.

Yes Susie an explosive bowel movement could really be a blast.

Technically, everyone has hemorrhoids. What we refer to as having (a) hemorrhoid(s) is when it gets inflamed/irritated. This happens from straining too hard during bowel movements, rather than simply breathing and letting it fall out. So an irritated hemorrhoid could be a side effect of constipation. It can also be caused by stress and by sitting for long periods on surfaces with inadequate padding, including a toilet seat.

I once had an irritated hemorrhoid for a few weeks. It was uncomfortable to sit down. Eventually, I held an ice cube against my anus until the ice completely melted, and repeated this every night. Each time the ice cube melted, I would put a lot of lube on my index finger and gently insert it and hold it there, feeling my sphincters relax around the finger.

After a week or so of this, the hemorrhoid was cured.

Not long after that, I read about anal dilation using well-lubed butt plugs as a way to relax the sphincters and cure hemorrhoids. It's ironic how people with inflamed hemorrhoids naturally avoid anal stimulation of any kind, yet certain mild anal play can cure hemorrhoids and help a person develop the muscle control to be able to relax the sphincters rather than forcing things out.

For hemorrhoids, use Preparation H.

Even gymnasts know to use it--on their hands when the skin is swollen or ripped from doing spins on the uneven parallel bars.

I can't remember exactly which movie it was, but in one of them, someone who was playing the role of an actress or actor, said that if they had been crying and had puffy eyes and they needed to do a take, they would apply Prep H to the puffy areas under the eyes - to indeed reduce the swelling.

I know it sounds sensible, but I doubt the particular smell of Prep H can be very pleasant when applied there ... ha ha

Everyone gets one sooner or later. I have seen a patient with cirrhosis and poor clotting times exsanguinate and die from a bleeding hemorrhoid.

You really know how to put the fun into medfet ... I'd laugh now, if it weren't essentially very sad to hear about things like that.

One of the most humorous treatments I heard of was from my Fam. Doc's R.N. (his wife). She had "crows feet" around her eyes and swore that applying Prep. H. to the eye lids made the wrinkles less visible.

When I was in undergrad school, I got bad "hemmis" just before final exams. Once finals were done, by bottom went back to normal. Does emotional stress cause inflammation of the rectal veins?

Inflamed hemorrhoids happen when blood extravasates from the vein into the surrounding tissue. This can happen from straining to have a BM or from any chronic increase in intraperitoneal pressure such as happens with COPD. It can also occur with increased portal vein pressure with cirrhosis. Could anxiety cause it? I don't know.

The discussion of Preparation H reminded me of an old Maxine cartoon I ran across recently.

Maxine was leaned back in her recliner and posed the question "Whatever happened to Preparations A thru G?"

such as happens with COPD.

What's COPD? I'm not familiar with the term ...

I have also read that you can get them by doing strenuous work like lifting heavy loads or conversely that long-haul drivers or sedentary office workers can get them too, but then from just sitting all day.

Boy, those are two contradictory indications. Looks like you are fated to get them sooner or later from just about any occupation or activity ...

Chronic obstructive pulmonary disease

Hemorrhoids are like colds. Sooner or later everyone gets them.

I first got them from standing on a hard floor while cutting hair. Had 'em literally ripped out in Dec. 73; glad they do it differently now.

Dan

Hemorrhoids can also appear mysteriously. I developed one once when I was struck by a surfboard while surfing. I suppose it was just from straining but I can't remember doing that. A girlfriend once developed one once when laughing as I picked her up. Again I guess it was straining.

Thank God they don't cut them out anymore, as they did years ago. Most surgeons use a schlerosing agent injected directly into the offending vein. Of course, this is done under general anesthesia, since doing the injecting awake would be torture.

I had an aunt who had hemorrhoidectomies done twice, she had them so bad. Not fun for her or her doctors. This was in the 60's, when they cut them out and the post-op time having a B.M. was very painful.

Jimmyt,

I'll certainly second that about cutting them out. In '73 they literally ripped mine out, and didn't use any stitching. The doctor believed in letting them heal on their own. Mine were out in late Dec. and still felt like I was on fire every time I shit up through most of May. I would let them fall to the ground and step on them before I would go through that again. I was also in the hospital from the afternoon before and two days after. I got the little bottle of "this'll clean you out good!" and had to drink two glasses of water the evening before surgery. So glad they have improved their techniques over the years!

Dan

I used to have hemorrhoids bad, until i started taking enemas again on a regular basis. they have all but disappeared .

After my Valve replacement surgery I was put on Warfrin and got constipated..Straining and the blood thinners gave me hemorrhoids..I use small enemas, stool softeners and Tucks...The Tucks have Witch Hazel in them and act as an astringent to reduce the discomfort..Preperation H at times but not daily...

The biggest thing in DO NOT STRAIN...Either use a small enema or stool softener......

Hemorrhoids can come on at anytime from straining to sitting on a cold surface for an extended period of time I know I have been bothered with them a couple of times, I just use hemorrhoid cream on them and they shrink back to normal size again and the burning and itching goes away.