What makes us have this fetish?

I still do not know why I have my diaper desires. Does anyone have a solid reason for desiring diapers?

Hi Herbiec, Your not alone, I can't point to any one thing in my life and say it's what did it for me. I can think of many things that were kind of milestones in my life and love of diapers, but I can't say what gives me my love of diapers. I know getting an understanding of this would be great. But, I try not to get to hung up on it either. You're never going to know the reasons for allot of things in life, but you live it anyway. Maybe the day will come, and I mean when I'm dead, that all will be clear, I really hope so, but till then I'll have to be happy in the knowledge that I enjoy it.

Luvs It.

Hi Herbiec. I too have absolutely no idea why I love diapers so. There wasn't any one event that triggered my interest in them; I litterally cannot remember a time when I didn't love them. For me, diapers are a very sensual experience. I love the feel of them against my skin, the bulkiness of them, the look and feel of the smooth plastic cover as well as the crinkle it makes when I move. The sensations I get when I wet and mess in them are absolutely wonderful. If wearing them makes me happy, well, I can't think of a better reason to wear them.

Hi Herbiec: after being abandoned, abused, humiliated and disciplined-- why not?

or the opposite-- why not?

Well for me i think it was because i was the oldest cousin by a year and when i had alot of young cousins they would get changed in front of everybody and i think it made me who i am but not sure because for a long time i never acted on this facination. then when i was 20 and in the hospital and the nurses put me in diapers i think thats when it realy set me off because it was embaressing yet practical for me to be in them. I think it was the comfort of knowing i wouldnt wake up in a wet bed and of course the diaper changes were the absolute best it seemed i was pretty much a baby to them they would feed me change my diapers bathe me dress me all the things a baby would need and to have two cute nurses taking your clothes off and putting you in a diaper no matter if you wanted it or not it was embaressing but highly erotic. so there is my thoughts but i am still not sure of it but i am prettty sure it was the later that triggerd it off completly.

I guess that I am a fellow member of this exclusive club to. I love diapers too and I don't know why? For as long as I can remember I have had an attraction for diapers. Especially cloth diapers and plastic pants. May be it was being potty trained in a hurry or a bed wetter until I was 9.

I often questioned why i have the desires for diapers. sometimes it goes away but it comes back even deeper then before

It's your head F...ing with ya! Not to worry, your normal. You've spent a lifetime learning diapers are for babies, only babies wear diapers. But when you wear them you feel good, then you get the idea it's naughty, and you feel guilty. It's ok to wear diapers, so don't sweat it, you'll get over it. Just tell yourself it makes you happy.

Luvs It.

Have you asked yourself why ?

Why do I like wearing diapers ?

Why cann't I stop ?

Why did I start wearing diapers ?

Why is it just me why doesn't every one like to be diapered ?

Why do I feel good and bad when I'm diapered ?

It took me 15 years and some one who accepted me in diapers to get some of these answers. It more then likely started when I was 4 and mom and dad broke up. I didn't get the love I needed in foster homes and not much more from my step mom. I lost my sister when mom took her and dad took me. Simply put I think my diaper fetish is me longing to back to the time when mom and sis cared enough for me to change my diapers. That is the only time I can think of that I would have felt loved.

By the way I think this also has a lot to do with me being a crossdresser. See if I was a girl then my mom would have taken me with her and I would not have lost my sister or her and not been in a foster home and not gotten a step mom. Hey , I don't know , do you?

I'm not in any hurry, but I like to think one day(when I'm dead)all the answers will be laid out for me. Till then, I'll just enjoy the hell out of it 😄

Luvs It.

Well laura your home now and we are not going anywhere from you your one of us and we accept you the way you are!!!! as far as why i llike them so much who cares i just do and i now i need them all the time because i incontinent and thats all that matters to me LOL!!!! i like em and they can have my diapers when they pry my cold dead hands off them LOL who knows realy its probably something to do with being younger for me ina time when lifes woes never had a hold on me so its more of a regressing thing to a happier time i guess but who knows for sure we just do so lets enjoy it till we die

I haven't a clue why I love diapers so. In fact, I've given up trying to understand it, I just accept that it's part of who I am. Now I'm just trying to find a balance between wearing diapers and real life.

Well...I have an idea or two on this actually that really isn't that uncommon.

It certainly comes from our early childhood, fetishes generally originate when our bodies or minds are sort of tricked into have associating sexual reaction to estranged unsual objects or ideas.

This generally happens at an early age before we already have fully developed and stable sexualities.

The general idea is that if at an early stage in your life your first flashes of sexual pleasure or stimulation, say during a diaper change, your brain (possibly) links those two things together, begins to associate sexual gratification with an object that corresponded with early sexual reactions (no matter how innocent) so your brain things "diaper = sexual, pleasurable, enjoyable" say you received a bit of stimulation during a diaper change your brain can possibly begin to link "diaper = sexual stimulation or pleasure"

It is a trained response by association that can happen in newly developing minds.

Thats why I believe this happens in males so much more than females, becuase males become sexualy familair and fruitful so much earlier than the typical female does.

I also believe this to be completely in the mind becuase i'm sure many people would agree that they really can't explain what is about diapers that is so exciting, but yet they can't seem to turn it off either, and also, after a person has pleasured theirself with a diaper, the feelings of attraction or exciting seem to just disappear, becuase as the mind changes fuctions as the body rises and falls with climax, the mind changes its activity, completely changing the way you feel. Some people don't even want this fetish, but it hangs on them like chains, becuase the brain has trained itself to respond this way to diapers, its a set response that you can't really control easily. Like you flip the switch, the light comes on, becuase thats how its supposed to work. Your mind things, diapers, sexaul response becuase it trained itself to do that by association from an experience in the past.

I'm no expert but thats my theory.

Also, it is good to consider just how powerful our brains are and just how much of who we are, does not come from our choices alone, but from what our almighty brains tell us to do and feel.

Think about how many emotions that we have like...fear or anger...that we don't just choose to do, but that happen automaticly. ya know? becuase our brain is a repetitive machine that acts a certain way based on the chemical, or blood flow to certain regions or thousands of years of imbred reactions. Things we do and feel that that we do not choose to do with our hearts, but our brains operations determine so much of our reality and actions. It's all chemical responses that go on inside the brain. This easily explains how sexual fetishes or desires that don't we really don't understand or even choose to have are there nontheless. Though this does have a balance, we do make choices of our own, but I think we can all testify that their are certain parts of our lives that we did not choose to have and we really can't get away from.

I agree with your theory. There is a lot of things that go in to the pleasue we derive from our wearing diapers.

I agree as well.

My mommy was my first love. Her diaper changes gave me an intimate bond with her. At first I am sure I received a lot of positive feedback during diaper changes from her. Later when I was expected to become potty trained, the diaper changes became humiliating and I endoured them even thought I did not like the treatment. But today her love, being naked and stimuatled in front of mommy, and the humuliation gets all mixed up and they all become turn ons. Today I want to be treated in that intimate way but also have grown to desire the humuliating treatment.

Leemyers, I suspect you had at least one simester of psychology, I did and i am sure you are 100% correct on how we learn to make connections of pleasure to objects and develop learned responses. An easy lessen to follow is "Povloff's Dogs" Thies connections can also be made in all the senses, not only touch but sight, sound, smell, and taste. This is why the smell of pee and baby powder excites me as well as the sight of a diaper and I love the sound a disposable diaper makes when I move. Does any one else ? The brain is the largest sex organ, fact, witch is also why just thinking about diapers causes arousal.

But this is a clinical answer to "WHY".

I dove into my past and came up with my personal answer to why and for me it was my mom and dad splitting up the foster homes that followed and a step mom that at times was less then loving. Seeing real babies being carried for and I wanting to be loving carried for in the same manner, I believe, led me to wanting to "The Baby". I learned to supplement the reality of being a baby with my own fantasy. First was the diaper, then wetting it, then the baby things like bottles and plastic pants and such.

How about you? Can you put your finger on the point at witch you think you first got turned on by diapers?

I am not one to phsycologize things i like what I like and try to enjoy it.

Gave up trying to figure out why i enjoy them so much,now i just wonder how anyone could not love the pleasures of being pinned and powdered aftre a warm bath. it just feels so natural.

Laura I have asked myself those same questions a million times thru my life. The time I really asked and thought I was some kind of freak was when I was a teen and in my early 20s. Before we had the luxurie of the internet. I do know when it started and somewhat why. I was hospitalized when I was 5. It was a 5 hour drive for my parents to see me so I rarley saw them for the year I was in the hospital. One time when a male nurse was on duty I had to go pee. I called for him to get me a urnal and he didn't respond. You have to imagine that at that time I was in a large ward with maybe 25 boys in it. Boys of all ages up to about 16. I ended up wetting the bed before the nurse came in. He was furious with me that I couldn't hold it. He said if I wet the bed like that I must be a baby. Only babies wet the bed. He said if I was going to act like a baby I needed to be treated like a baby. He came back with a cart with diapers on it that they used for the younger kids on the ward. He said I needed to be put in diapers because I was a baby. Needless to say I was very humiliated when he put me in diapers but I went to sleep in my diaper and realized that they didn't feel so bad. I felt very warm and secure in my diaper. That's how I got started. I've had times, like a lot of us diapers lovers, where I throw all my diapers out and swear I will never put them on again. Then a week or month or maybe two months I get the urge again. I tried to fight it but to no avail. I would find myself bunching a towel between my legs after a shower and feeling that great feeling and soon I would need to have a diaper on again. I stopped fighting the urge a long time ago. Now I wear a diaper every night because I wet the bed otherwise. My wife says I'm just a little baby and need a diaper at night so I won't wet the bed. So I guess I am just a baby. 😳 :😃

Yes, I think leemyers hit the nail on the head. We are all human, with different needs and desires. Many celebrities have a "hey, look at me!" persona, and there's nothing wrong with it, it gives them the acceptance they are seeking, if only for a fleeting moment. Others have a need to feel "nurtured", someone can tell them a million times that they love them, yet, they need constant reassurance. Our "Love Patterns" are formed very early in life, although we have little to no memory of it. I can't think of anything more nurturing than a diaper change, someone tending to you, getting you out of that foul smelling, uncomfortable thing, wiping your bottom, putting sweet smelling baby powder on you and then placing you in a snug, clean garment. It's our earliest memory of needing someone.

I was also raised in a very abusive household, my step-dad was a violent person,and currently serving a life sentence for murdering his 2nd wife, my mother very uncaring. (I've long ago accepted that my mother did not have the "mommy gene", she got pregnant to try to keep the men in her life) I'm sure that at an early age I longed for some type of nurturing, being told that I was a good person and very much loved, but I wasn't fortunate enough to be in that environment. I know that as far back as I can remember, I have had an affinity for diapers, and always wanted to wear one and use one. I was fascinated by little babies in their fluffy cloth diapers and plastic pants, being able to just "go in their pants" and have loving mothers coo at them while they tended to their needs. As I grew into puberty, it became more and more sexual. (Even before puberty, before I knew what "ejaculation" even was, I still got aroused if I pooped my pants) I've had several failed relationships, only one, my ex-wife, knew about the diaper thing, but definitely was NOT into it. She was accepting at first, but after my son was born, made it very clear she was not comfortable with it, and I had to stop. For the longest time I felt that a Woman would never look at me as an actual "Man", although I can definitely say, aside from the diapers, I am a man through and through, I like all "Man" things. I have since found a woman that is more than just a willing participant. She nurtures me in every way, and although this is exactly what I have longed for in the past 47 years, I have to be very careful to make sure that I place her needs ahead of mine. I can't say it's always easy, but it's what needs to be. The bottom line is, I didn't pick this desire, I was born with it, and have learned to balance this with the rest of my life, and for once, it's no longer a struggle, or a deep, dark hidden secret.

Dangitbawb you brought up something, well not just something, you brought up allot of somethings. But, I just wanted to say that's a big deal, putting things into balance You gotta be what your born to be, and you can't fight that off. But, you can put things into balance.

Luvs It.

😄 This is a great subject. I have done 15 years of therapy and told my broyher and sister there spouses and confronted my parents,and have come up with a few things, I was a needy child,but this may have been a side effect. My mother had me potty trained by 9 months she claims, I believe she was trained. I remember my sister and brother being diapered at night when i was approx. 5 yrs feeling very jealous of all the attention they were getting. I asked to be diapered and very distinctly remember being told that I was a big boy and didn't need diapers. I reality I was asking for attention but didn't know the difference.It still hurts right now when typing this and i know now after all my thearpy that this is a need that probably will never be filled. My wife knows all about this but says that when she does diaper me,I push her boundries and then she wants nothing to do with me. One night that I really enjoyed about 8 years ago,my wife diapered me, put on my plastic pants and a babish t-shirt, she then leaned against the headboard and I layed my shoulder in her lap, she let me nurse and told me a kids story,as she held my head up to her breast,it was awsome! But then i asked for a crib and started talking baby talk,she flipped out and won't let me even ask for that again. She used to wear diapers for me and wet them once,but there again I started pushing for more and she flipped out and now for the last two years dosen't even let me wear them when she is home! So guys and girls, or should I say babies, this desire will not go away, but your significant other could, so take it slow and let them decide what they can handle, there is always another day to play baby and I am afraid the needy baby desire can never be satisfied. I am 56 and have been married for 34 years,we also dated for 6 years before getting married,she used to diaper me alot because it also filled a need she had. So much for the glum. I can realate to Laura about it feeling good and bad at the same time. On the good side I have been in SAA (sex additics anonum.) since 1985 and have meet a lot of great guys that know everything about me and love me for who I am, which has been a great benifit of being a diaper lover. Just has stopped my need for diapers!

I have also read the bieng potty trained to early may be part of this addiction, Dosen't really matter, still love diapers!!!

love to all you adult babies!!!!!

Some questions are and will always remain "imponderables". At times, there ARE no clear-cut or easy answers. It took talking to a shrink, during a psych profile - to keep from losing my kids in a divorce - to proactively prepare for proving my being "normal", especially since my ex played the "likes to wear diapers" card in filing against me, to clarify a few things. There are many things in life that "flip a switch" with each of us. As most of us are aware, it varies greatly in individuals, from the very tame to the very extreme - depending upon WHO you are and HOW it affects YOU! I have learned, in my 50+ years, to stop beating myself up, stop questioning WHY - while dabbling with aspects of "why" - and simply becoming more comfortable with ME, enjoying WHAT I'm into - as long as it isn't forced upon anyone else or interfere with anyone else's life - and appreciate ME for WHO I am and HOW I am, and integrate THAT (and my diapers/diaper life; I'm a DL) into the rest of my life. It has brought me more peace and serenity going int THAT direction.

I ask myself that and I can not figure out why I like it so much and why I like to be wet and can' stop. I've wet myself for a number of years now.

Laura, i believe even psychologists may not have the answer as it may be different for each of us. for me it started at around 4 years old too. as "leemyers" put it, they related to sexual stimuli. not quite sure how it began for me but ever since diapers have been personal sex objects. i have gotten erections from diapers as long as i can rememer. as early as 5 i would orgasm during my sessions. it wasnt till i hit puberty that cum came out with the orgasm and i realized why i liked it soooooo much. now i cant stop either. i tried for the first 4 or 5 years of my marriage and didnt use during that time. i hoped i would grow out of it. now 10 years in to marriage and i use more than ever. i hope some day i have the courage to tell her. 😃

Daipers are easy - and they never tell you - "not tonight - I have a headache" 😁

I think mine came from bed wetting. Thinking back I was always scared I would have to wear them now I love to wear them.

As far back as my memory can go, even to when I can remember actually wearing nappies as a small toddler I cannot think of any time where they didn't feature in my mind.

I had several instances from my Sister attempting to change me, a girl in my class that still had to wear them when I started school to being put in them for a few days as a child when I had a very upset stomach. From there I had minor occasions and I would have accidents when not getting to the bathroom on time, this was sometimes followed up with the threat of being put back into nappies if I had a period of a few accidents close together.

My Father could be quite strict and sometimes I would wet myself in fear of his anger, whenever my pants and trousers were wet I would always wish I ahd a nappy on so that if it was in front of family or friends they wouldn't know that I had wet myself.

As I grew up I suppose those thoughts continued to be there and would often take a towel to bed with me, once I settled down to sleep I would wear it as a nappy secured in place by underpants and my pyjamas but I always removed it before my Mother came into my bedroom in the morning.

As I went through teenage years nothing changed much and I then started to sneak disposable nappies into the house taken from friends houses bathrooms who had younger brothers or sisters, on the earlier occasions of doing this they fitted quite well.

I knew once into my late teens, early twenties that I was always going to have the desire for nappies and wanting to be able to share it with someone. After 38 years I finally have but not before some heartache and misunderstanding along the way in previous relationships.

Although I truly do not have the answers for my desire to wear or to put my fiancee in nappies too, the guilt and feeling of why I do these days has pretty much now all but disappeared and after a long time I am now finally happy.

I credit my fetishism to the girl who introduced me to diapers and wetting. I had a strong relationship with her, so I tend to make the association between her and diapers. But really, it goes way back.

Before sexuality took the reins, I had an on-and-off fascination with diapers as a kid. It started as juvenile curiosity, faded away, came back as a strong interest, went away, then puberty hit.