Female sub should be asking permission for masturbating

I believe woman should be asking permission from their dominant partner and if they masturbate without being given permission they should be punished punishment should be linked to how often the female breaks the rules

Yeah, fine.

How would the dominant partner know if the woman did it when they were not around if the woman didn't want them to know?

If you are in a sexual relationship based on a sub/dom orientation then I guess bottomsup comment fits. If it works for the two partners then that's fine.

But as Susie said, there may be some cheating masturbation going on- I know I could not keep my hands out of cookie jar when nobody was looking.

The "rules" should be set up by the couple in question. The same "rules" don't work for everyone. But if those are the "rules" you want to be your guideline, then enjoy.

The way to keep track of an errant sub would be nanny cams all over the house.

The way to keep track of an errant sub would be nanny cams all over the house.

That could work as long as the submissive is the only other person in the household.

Much to my dismay, but I understand why he did it, my husband put totally visible security cameras in every room of our house, including the bedrooms because he doesn't want anything stolen by workers in or outside the house. At first it freaked me out because I didn't want him making "home movies" of us having sex or our daughters nude, masturbating or having sex, but the cameras only turn on when we leave the house and the burglar alarm is set, or when we aren't home but service people are at work.

The OP said that she desires to be punished for masturbating without permission. So she does want her partner to know. Her desire for the punishment will prevent her from keeping her masturbation a secret. If she keeps it a secret, she won't get to receive the punishment. So she might tell her partner she masturbated without permission, or she might allow herself to get caught.

Now that's truly arcane at best. I just don't think I understand this very well.

H C: Most BDSM scenes are really silly games if you really look at it objectively.

If she wanted to be punished, she could lie and say she masturbated even when she didn't.

We sometimes play games, I admit it.

Perhaps, Susie. Far be it from me to judge what is silly. Why does anyone do anything? Perhaps the objective explanation in any case would be silliness. Anyway you asked

How would the dominant partner know if the woman did it when they were not around if the woman didn't want them to know?

So I was just trying to point out that the dominant partner would know if the woman did it because the woman would want them to know.

I confessed to my Dominant partner yesterday that I masturbated and just how I did it. He immediately assured me that I will be punished the very next time we are together. I have already thanked him and promised never to do it again without first obtaining his permission.

It would be up to the Dom as to whether or not permission was necessary. He would base his decision on knowing both His and her wants and needs. Perhaps the female sub needs a reason to be punished, for instance.

I confessed to my Dominant partner yesterday that I masturbated and just how I did it. He immediately assured me that I will be punished the very next time we are together. I have already thanked him and promised never to do it again without first obtaining his permission.

Yeah, right.

You want to be punished so you masturbate and tell him.

Hell, you don't even have to masturbate, just tell him you did so you get punished.

That will save you from having to wash your fingers.

I find it very interesting that everyone talks about the Dom as a he, and the sub as a she. Doc and I are complete switches so in my relationship, Dom is the she, and sub is a he.

Mashie

I find it very interesting that everyone talks about the Dom as a he, and the sub as a she. Doc and I are complete switches so in my relationship, Dom is the she, and sub is a he.

Mashie

Lol. Right, except when I'm Dom, my dear little sub .. then it had better be "He" and "Sir" or you're going to have a very sore fanny, my dear.

Seriously, why is most of the postings state the Dominant as male, when most of the Dominants I know are women?

Doc

Yes Sir, you are correct. I meant to say that we are switches and and in our relationship the Dom can be either male or female and the same with the sub. I guess I was getting tired and didn't finish typing my thoughts or the point I was trying to make. Please go easy on me Sir, my back was on fire last night and I was so tired.

(Beside that, turn about is fair play, mmmmm)

Mashie

. . . .Seriously, why is most of the postings state the Dominant as male, when most of the Dominants I know are women?

Doc

I don't know who started the trend, but when I find out, someone is going to get a beating!

LOL, go get 'em Sue !!!!!!!!!

Mashie

OK, we lost the trail of the initial post dealing with a sub requiring permission to masturbate. I am a male Dom, not that it's important, and I require a female sub to masturbate twice a day...but only to the point just short of an orgasm and then stopping. The orgasm is under my control and it must be asked for prior to my allowing it.

This same dynamic would work as well with a female Dominant who requires her male sub to masturbate twice a day, but he is not allowed to climax until the Dom gives permission.

The net result of either scenario is that the sub remains sexually aroused and frustrated, depending on the Dom (male or female) for that much needed/wanted orgasm. It is a wonderful control technique that also serves to remind the sub that the Dom is in full control of their sexual release.

^^^^ I like to tightly restrain guys, usually spread eagled and masturbate them. Just as they are about to orgasm, I leave the room.

Oh that's cold and harkens back to my pre-marital days of dating. Having a chick giving you head and then suddenly stopping just short of the climax. Brings back bad memories of blue balls that ached for hours. We had a saying: "A blowjob is no job if you don't get the climax". Thanks for the memories of days way back then.

Wanting to be punished will cause any sub to admit she master bated without permission. Ahh the tingle while wondering how ND when the punishment will invite yummy

Interesting or not allow the behavior or reward it .

I have been punished for being caught masturbating without my partner being present. She complains I am selfish for enjoying alone without her being there so we can masturbate together. The enjoyment we have with each other's hands inside the other's vagina is ecstatic. My partner always wants me to suckle her nipples when we are doing this.