Getting started - Strap On

I am exploring the idea of using a strap on. I would like to know how to introduce anal sex to a man who has never done it. I am a beginner myself but I love the idea and am curious how to get men into it, or is it something most men like?

I don't think it's a thing that most men like. It's a thing that we twisted like. I think I would recommend talking about it first. Then if he's willing a finger first. To go full on with a strap on seems a little forward. The most important thing is to talk first.

I am with liquidsky....talk first....then start with a finger and go from there....but once you find a guy that likes anal...it's on.

I agree with the two previous writers. I would recommend after putting in your finger a few times that you try dildos of increasing size, using your hand to insert them and play with them. After that has worked o.k. then try a strapon. I have no experience with them so I cannot tell you anything about diameter or length. Maybe someone else can help you there.

Incidently, your husband could use the same technique to prepare you for anal sex if you are not already doing it.

hankb

Absolutely talk first. But I would introduce the subject as prostate stimulation. I would use massaging his prostate as a way to show him how a soothing prostate massage can give him a powerful orgasm. Once you try that and he gets hooked, then that will pave the way for other things beside fingers to be inserted in his ass. Also when he sees that you are turned on by you doing things to his ass that will also help him get more into it. If he is open to trying new things, then he might work all the way up to a strap-on. If he is not comfortable being penetrated with a lifelike dildo, there are other options that are quite suitable for anal penetration and look nothing like a real penis.

So take it slow and be sure to research how to stimulate a man's ass before you start your play to make sure you are providing him a pleasurable experience starting with fingers all the way up to a full fledge strap-on.

I agree with everyone talking it out first is the way to go. Too much lube is almost enough! start off small try to relax him tease him during sex maybe lick him then slip a finger and wait for his reaction when you hit "the spot" milk him and try for an organum he will get super wet after that you guys should get a small plug and a med plug get him ready to be entered without discomfort. read about cleaning before anal play. Enjoy ;-)

The key to almost every successful relationship is communication. When both parties know and understand what each other are trying to achieve, then the success of the endeavor is assured. It took me several years to gradually increase the size of the strap-on, and while I did enjoy it very much, I believe my wife enjoyed it more.

Communication is a must. A lot of men have the misperception that if you like a strap on that means you are gay which is absolutely false. Simply means you love anal play. Then again that’s not a bad thing :p

So guys that have done strap on play with your wives/gf before, how did you finally broach the subject with her? My wife will do a prostate massage with an aneros now for me but it still is a bit of a leap going to the full fledged strap on route. Not sure how to phrase this one....

My wife really enjoyed using toys, fingers, dildos on me. I brought a strap-on home and asked her to use it. She was uncomfortable wearing it -said it made her feel weird. She continued to use toys on me - but never got into using a strap-on. I would have preferred feeling her hips pound into me - but I didn't want to push her out of her comfort zone.

The first thing you must take good lube !!! It is main rule !

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Plenty lube, so much relaxing and patience.

GO GO GO YES but go slow, go sensual, go progressive, go lubed

And remember there are day with and days without. In case of a day without, change of menu,

My wife 1st started by talking about it while we in bed. Then said she would like to pleasure me with using a gloved lubed finger up my butt. She did a prostate masssage , while doing that, asked if next time we could try pegging. Said yes! We started pegging with a small diameter dildo in the strap on. She did the finger prostate massage 1st, then penetrated me with the strap on. Now have various sizes, Love it now!!

I think there are two kinds of guys... those who love having their gals peg them and those who don't know what they're missing!

I think there are two kinds of guys... those who love having their gals peg them and those who don't know what they're missing!

@Pmoi I couldn't agree more! 😜

Start with your finger he will beg for more

We both experienced our first strap on session. Highly enjoyable. The dildo was hollow to allow insertion of the penis and came with a vibrator. Pleasuring both partners at the same time was wonderful.

As I have matured , my thoughts have been that of a growing interest in experiencing this activity . Yes , I would like to try it . My problem is that of discovery and networking with the right lady to make it happen . As has been said this activity is not for everyone man or woman but it is ‘ out there ’ and evidently being practiced . ‘ Enjoyed ’ ( ??? ) ………. well that is possibly another discussion . My lady would needs be a bit mature , well experienced as to this activity and very caring as well as to what we were about to do as all would be a ‘ first ’ for me . ‘ Hope springs eternal ’ !!

My husband and I were first exposed to anal sex and strapon sex from looking at porn on the web. For years, we never went further than a finger in a condom playing with each other during foreplay. A few years ago, we found out about a live sex show on Wednesday through Saturday nights at a ”club” in the UK. We went with another couple. There was a women on stage who did several men and women with a strapon. At the end of the evening her husband had anal intercourse with her.

After that we decided to try both and we do it a couple of times a month.

Dita