Cyber Dominance

I moved to America a year ago, and had to leave my Mistress in Germany

she still wants to control me 24/7

demands I take pictures or make video`s, even on cam

I am still her Sub and I want to please her.

My question is, can a long distance, cyber relationship work?

if you were the Dom what tasks would you give your Sub to do?

and if you were the Sub, what tasks would you like to voluntary perform to please your Dom.

Rusty

If you want it to work, yes. However, be prepared for a very different kind of relationship. There's a lot you'll be missing without real human interaction.

Yes the punishment with no pain or the on cam humiliation, is a little confusing

I have had only a cyber relationship with my Dom. While i would much rather be with Him physically, that's not possible right now for several reasons. We make the relationship work because we want to, and it works quite well. It requires honesty and trust on both sides, particularly for Him to know i'm doing what He says and to tell Him if i have not. (And don't anybody bring up yellow lights!)

He directs me in what to do, like putting in the plug and enemas, and He also keeps tabs on other areas like eating what i should (NO BRUSSELS SPROUTS!) and going to bed on time. We are in contact off and on through the day. We have developed not just a strong D/s relationship but a firm friendship.

Hi Chester

yes I know how you feel, my Mistress is in control from the moment I wake up, she demands punctual calls and messages, and some of her punishments are getting very imaginative.

I have a long distance relationship with my Dom too. He’s in the Netherlands while I’m here in America. Each day I talk to him and at night it’s when he gets horny and demands pictures and videos.

In the day he tells me what toys or items to have ready for nighttime. He also keeps track of what I wear and what to do when I’m in public (he once made me use my make-shift vibrator in public and hide it all day). He’s mainly nice and easy on me due to my stress attacks.

At night he makes me do video call with him. He makes me undress and show my whole body. If a part of my body is off cam he makes me hurt myself (spank, rough insertion, etc) He will tell me what to put in me and what to do with it. He’s still my Dom and we have a few tricks and things up our sleeves to keep the long distance relationship healthy between us. Although I very much would like to be with him in real life.

Cyber can be enjoyable if with someone you know and trust. But rarely does it continue to be a longterm thing except under special circumstances. I will never do video or post pictures. My fried in home security in us advised me not to. You dont know if it will end up on another site. Skype, kik, yahoo not safe.

Long distance. Mmmm. Real trust needed

In my case, i guess it what I can do for now......cause most of my Zity friends are in USA and I live in BRazil, so, like I say at other cyber sex topic, I have to use what I have in hands (no pun intended). Its fun, but u have to trust the other person too.

Za

I enjoy cyber dominance with the right person. And right now I'm lucky enough to have that. But besides the metfet and bdsm, there is also passionate lovemaking afterwards. And pillow talk. Sometimes we just talk. But the closeness we feel is real. And I'm grateful we met each other. He is the best dominant ever.

My thoughts on cyber dominance has evolved recently...I thought you could pop on the net and give a sub tasks....plug herself or strip off her underwear at work...all that is quick fun...but then I discovered that when you get to know that person on the other end, things begin to change

When you trust that person... and more importantly, when you can sense that the other person trusts you...and the connection gets more intimate...then I have found something hard to explain. You begin to look for her notes or calls.... you enjoy her admission that she wants your dominance and that she really tries to please you. You find yourself caring for this person and wanting it to be real. You find out that the person on the other end shares your thoughts and desires... but in a different way. It turns out that she happens to complement your desires, turns out she is likely someone that you want in a relationship and before you realize what has happened, you fall for her and want her to be with you, no matter the circumstances. Perhaps you worry, where this go? How will it end? You hope for now that it never does

Dear rustyinFL,

I think it depends on whether you trust your Mistress or not. If you both had a great long term relationship then why doubt? Do you feel She can betray you?

The cyber relationship can work if both of you have strong feelings for each other. There are always ways to meet if both of you want it. I think it works for any kind of relationship.

But if you doubt about video or photos, discuss it to your Mistress. Ask permission to show only body without your face when during session. Set new rules according to the possibilities of time zone, work time, etc. Write detailed reports.

It is a common thing that people who got used to each other and in time have to separate has no other way as being contact through video or a call.

On the other hand, there is a question of being private during the session while video. But you both can make accounts and don't show faces for protecting your private life.

There are ways to go through difficulties, the other question if you Both want it.

I've had such a “cyber D/s relationship” with a man for about 3 years. It was pretty intense. We mainly communicated through Skype. And he had sort of total control, as I had to notice him when I was leaving my house for example, he decided when I had to be back home. Just an example. As for punishments, I could get grounded and had to sit in front of my laptop all day or stand in the corner on 1 leg for a couple of hours. Or make me write lines on Skype, he would often check in and could see whether I was typing. I reflect back on it as a beautiful period in my life. However, I prefer to have real life contact. I want the real domestic discipline incl. the corporal punishments like spanking, and that is kind of tough to do if you're in a cyber relationship only. Self spanking could work for some, but not for me.

I did not know if it was possible. But I took a chance last August and suggested/ asked of a zity member if he would be prepared to be my Dom. I was not sure at the time if it would work or not. But it is working, or at least it is for me!

This week he punished me, I was ordered to weight in every day. This meant every morning, as I stood on the scales , filmed the scales and send it to him. I was reminded that he has my best interest at heart, that he wants me to succeed but also reminded me every day that I had disappointed him by gaining on my forthnightly weight in.

Like others have said here a true friendship has been formed. But this can only happen if both parties trust eachother.

I hope it works out for you #rustyninFL

The original post is already a few years old.

The past 20 years I have had several online long distance relationships. These relationships lasted for years. As already mentioned such long term relationship can only last such a long time if it is also about daily things in life and is about friendship.

I inspect and examine a submissive often. I enjoy seeing her body and giving her orders.

She will find joy when she is a good girl. She will be punished when needed. When she cannot show herself on cam, she can always send me a pic of her body to check.

I have dominated submissives including their orgasms.

I have punished them when needed.

All is possible with the right chemistry.